Group Socialization

Group Socialization Group Socialization Pair Dating Sharing gossip, hugging, working on school activities or projects, going to the movies, malls, or to another person’s house to watch movies or eat Pair Dating 1 girl and 1 guy who have paired off go together for an activity of any kind. The couple know each other well and want to spend time alone.

What do you think? Group 1 What are some advantages of group socialization? Group 2 What are the potential problems of early pairing? Present your findings to the class

Advantages of Group Socialization Safety in numbers Relaxed fun Meet new people Easier to communicate Less opportunity for early physical intimacy

Disadvantages of Early Paired Dating Relationships accelerate more rapidly More pressure to entertain partner Might be awkward getting to know them More expensive Early physical intimacy

Operation Breakup, Part 1 6 minute video clip

Operation Breakup, Part 2 6 minute video clip

How to End a Relationship Pick an appropriate place The less public, the better. Ending a relationship is a humbling experience. Don’t do it in a place where the person on the receiving end is going to feel more vulnerable than necessary. Choose the right time Avoid holidays and special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries.

How to End a Relationship Do it in person Be considerate and don’t take the easy way out. Be honest, but sensitive No one likes getting dumped. Be honest and keep their feelings in mind. Keep your emotions under control Don’t seem too happy or too sad about the break-up. Be kind, caring and considerate.

How to End a Relationship Use “I” Messages I feel… When you… Because… What I need… Share an experience when you have found success with one of these suggestions. Share an experience of what not to do when ending a relationship.

Substitute Breakup 4 minute video clip

How to Deal with a Break-up Realize what happened and why Realize it takes two to make a relationship work. Accept your anger/pain and move on Have a good cry. It’s okay to be angry, but not okay to hang on to that anger. Move on as soon as you can. Keep your distance Take a break - No contact, no phone calls, no texting, etc.

How to Deal with a Break-up Think through everything Ask yourself what went wrong. Learn from the experience. Talk to your friends and family Great source of advice, support and counsel. Talk it through with the people that love you the most. Write your feelings down Write in your journal/diary, write a song, write a poem, etc. Pour your heart out on paper.

How to Deal with a Break-up Clean personal space Spring cleaning of your personal space. Get ready for a new beginning. Keep fond memories Think of how happy a song, picture or place made you feel when with that person. Don’t overreact Don’t jump right into another relationship. Allow yourself time to heal.

How to Deal with a Break-up Find happiness in other areas of your life There is more to life than being in a relationship. Begin a new hobby, read a new book, etc. Stay active Exercise improves your mood. Let go and move forward If you don’t let go, you’ll never find Mr. or Mrs. Right!

Summary There are many advantages of group dating and problems of pair dating at your age. Know how to end a relationship appropriately and how to best deal with a break-up yourself.