BUILDING AND DESTROYING SELF-CONCEPT

Self-Perception

Tips for building Self Esteem Associate with people, books, videos, television shows, etc., that build your self-concept Build others up – give sincere compliments often Think positively and focus on the positives Set and achieve goals Do something challenging each day Look your best Eat correctly Do something for someone else Learn a new skill “Act as if” you possess traits you would like to have Observe self-confident people – find a great role model. Handle things one at a time Use criticism constructively and keep it to a minimum. Ask for help – take advantage of learning opportunities Improve your personal living space Allow personal growth time each day Post self-improvement reminders in obvious places Do not say negative things about yourself Reward yourself often List your accomplishments each evening Volunteer to share your skills with others

Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change. Be more accepting of others and the things they can’t change. Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth Whatever you are doing, Love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, Love yourself for feeling it. Thadeus Golas

Have Realistic Expectations –We expect too much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering our-self should be a lifetime goal. -We are surrounded by people who appear to be perfect at everything and have everything. These are good to look at but, they have their problems too.

Emphasize your strengths. Change what can be changed. Some things change fast, others gradual, and others never. There are things we inherit and can’t change, but we can always change our attitude about them. Try new experiences.

Watch the Words What If………. (limits you) So What……… (strengthens you) What if somebody sees me? So What……… (strengthens you) So what if somebody sees me. I Can’t…….. (limits you) I can’t pass my math test. I Can, I Will, I’m Going to Right Away! (strengthens you) There are two different people in the world. One that says “I wish I had” and the one that says “I’m glad I did”. Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself.

How is Self-Concept Destroyed? How is it NOT Built & Preserved? DO THE OPPOSITE OF ALL OF THE ABOVE MENTIONED LIKE….. Comparing yourself to others Putting yourself down Putting Others down Drug and Alcohol abuse Speaking Negatively Your 2 Boosters and Busters?

HOW DO WE BUILD IT???

Accept Yourself Remember you don’t have to be like everyone else If we were all alike we would be boring You will never be able to please everyone Normal means being up sometimes and down sometimes Normal means being good at some things and not good at others

THIS SIMPLY MEANS YOU ARE NOT PERFECT AND WHO IS? Forgive Yourself Everyone makes mistakes Everyone has to take criticism THIS SIMPLY MEANS YOU ARE NOT PERFECT AND WHO IS?

Learn a New Skill Find something you like to do and do it Be realistic—not everyone can be a star basketball player! Share your skill with someone Remember self-esteem grows when you accomplish things and even more when others recognize what you can do!

Reach Out to Others Helping others gives assistance where needed while building your self-esteem When you do, others will respond Help someone in your family Volunteer in the neighborhood Visit in a home for the elderly Show a child how to do something

Be Positive Practice making positive choices Decide to trust rather than worry Like instead of dislike Laugh rather than cry Compliment rather than criticize When things get tough, try one more time Give more than you take Participate –not watch Be a plus not a minus

Be Assertive No one is a doormat Everyone has an opinion Assertiveness means speaking up for yourself without offending others! Be comfortable with saying what you think or feel, don’t hide it! When you see a problem, work to correct it If you need to say “no” say it with confidence