Limited Choices and Positive Guidance Miss Perez

Bell ringer: What direction do you think a child would respond to? Why? A: Tommy don’t cut your shirt B: Tommy you can use the scissors for cutting paper.

Limited Choices Encourage decisions making Good verbal directions to correct unacceptable behavior Give acceptable limited choice Not open ended choices

Unlimited Choice Suzy, pick up your toys right now! Who can think of a way to turn this into a limited choice?

Limited Choice Suzy, which would you like to pick up first, your blocks or your beads?

Unlimited Choice Johnny, let go of that car and come here! Who can think of a way to turn this into a limited choice?

Limited Choice Johnny, do you want to play with the blue tractor or the orange truck?

Unlimited Choice Linda, hurry up and get dressed. Who can think of a way to turn this into a limited choice?

Limited Choice Linda, do you want to wear the blue top or the red top with your jeans?

Unlimited Choice You bad boy. You are making a mess! Who can think of a way to make this into a limited choice?

Limited Choice Brad, do you want to stand on a chair by the sink and pour your punch or do you want me to pour it for you?

Think-Pair-Share Think of a situation when you should have used limited choices while babysitting, watching family, etc. Write this situation down Compare with a partner We will share a few examples as a class

Positive Guidance What do you think positive guidance is?

Clip on positive guidance While watching this clip note the tips that are given for behavior management. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zmVv2GY3Ud8

“The definition of discipline is guidance, not punishment.”

Positive Guidance Tell children what you WANT them to do rather then what you DO NOT want them to do Be direct Tell-don’t ask!

Why use positive guidance? Increases self control Allows positive relationships between you and the child

Positive Guidance worksheet

What is guidance? Direct and indirect action used by an adult to help a child develop

What are the two long term goals of guidance? -Self control: how to direct own behavior without outside control -Pro social behavior: acts of kindness and behavior that demonstrates cooperation/helpfulness

What is an example of a time that you have demonstrated self control or pro social behavior? Have you ever seen a child demonstrate self control or pro social behavior?

Examples of pro social behavior -accept others feelings -cooperate with others -share toys and play materials -share affection -show concern http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4v1-dCyKlsw

Direct guidance Non-verbal-physical -eye roll, smile, look, body gesture(holding a child), pointing Verbal -Using words

Indirect Guidance -Comes from outside factors and influence -Comes from physical set up of the room

You have 3 minutes at your table to come up with a scenario that demonstrates direct guidance(physical and verbal) and indirect guidance

Example: Suzie walked into an open pre-school room that was set up for independence. Everything was within her reach. (indirect) Although the room was set up with safety in mind, Suzie tripped over a rug and began to cry. Suzie’s teacher walked over to Suzie put her arm on her shoulder (direct-physical) and told her that she would be alright. (direct-verbal)

Samples “Don’t throw the sand.” “Don’t stand in the swing.” “Don’t jump off the ladder.” “Do not shout!” “Shall we go outside?”

Samples: “Don’t you want to drink your milk?” “No, I don’t like your picture. What is it?” “Don’t tear the book” “Don’t rock on the chair.” “Don’t you want to put on the apron?”