Lesson 4 Social Perspective Social Interaction in Everyday Life

How do we interact?? As we present ourselves in everyday situations, we reveal information to others Consciously and unconsciously The way we dress (costume) What we carry (props) Tone of our voice and gestures (manners) We craft our performance according to the setting Loud in a restaurant Quiet in a church

Are we actually listening??? Human Communication 55%-Non Verbal 38%-Vocal Tone 7%- Words

Nonverbal Communication Nonverbal communication – using body movements, gestures, and facial expressions rather than speech.

Nonverbal Communication Communication using body movements, gestures, and facial expressions rather than speech Facial expressions are the most significant Smiling Eye contact is another crucial element Make eye contact as an invitation to socially interact Hand gestures As insults, a request for a ride

How is body language used to deceive others? Unintended body language can contradict our planned meaning A teen explains why they are getting home late but his mother doubts him because he will not look at her in the eye Nonverbal communication is hard to control therefore it can be used to help detect deception There is no way to rid the world of dishonesty Researcher have discovered ways to detect lying for nonverbal clues

Spotting Lies Pamela Meyer Talks about Lying in our society Looks for signs of lying https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_6vDLq64gE

Spotting Lies: What are the Clues? Clues to deception can be found in 4 elements of performance Words Good liars go over their Lines A slip of the tongue might suggest the person is hiding something Voice Tone and pattern Trembling, and speed Fast= anger Slow= sadness Body Language Jitters Shallow or rapid breathing Facial Expressions Fake smiles= less laugh lines

Gender and Performance Women are more sensitive to nonverbal communication than men Men and Women differ in 3 ways Demeanor Use of space Staring, smiling, touching

Demeanor The way we act and carry ourselves A clue to social power Powerful people enjoy more freedom in how they act Cursing, being relaxed at work is ok for the boss https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=El9kXmwP2sc Women generally have lesser power--> demeanor of women is more reserved

Personal Space Activity Find the tapes of squares on the ground You must fit at least four people into your square After, ask questions to each person WHILE YOU LOOK THEM IN THE EYES. YOUR FEET NEED TO STAY IN THE SQUARE AT ALL TIMES ENJOY!!!!

Questions How old are you? When is your birthday? Favorite subject in school? Favorite food or foods? What you plan to do after high school? How is your day going so far?

Questions How did you feel in your box? Did you feel your boundaries were invaded? What part of this activity made you feel uncomfortable? Do you feel in control of your boundaries?

Questions Cont. What boundaries do you have for yourself? How do you respond if your boundaries are crossed? How do you recognize when you have crossed a boundary? What may happen? How do other people know your personal boundaries? How do other people set boundaries for you? What boundaries have your parents set for you? Are boundaries the same for boys? For girls?

Personal Space Personal Space: Portable, invisible boundary surrounding individuals, in which others should not intrude. 3 things about Personal Space Regulates how close we interact with others Moves with us at all times Expands or contracts with situation.

Personal Space Theories Protective Function: Serves as a buffer against any potential emotional or physical threat Adjusting sensory input: regulate amount of sensory information we get from others Communication/Closeness Function: Level of closeness and intimacy that we desire with others

Zones of Personal Space Intimate Distance: 0-18” inches Head and face are all that is seen Usually not OK unless you are dating, married or in sports. Other examples?????

Zones Personal Distance 18”-4’ Non-verbal cues become more important Touching can still happen here Most common form of casual conversations or human interactions Typically friends and family members are in this zone

Zones Social Distance 4’-12’ Informally working with someone usually is 4’-7’ Work friends/coworkers, or classmates Formal meetings are usually 7’-12’ Business meetings Classmates you don’t know/underclassmen

Zones Public Distance 12’-25’ Very Formal Evasive or defensive action can be taken Used with strangers For example, you see a dark figure walking towards you on the street and nobody is around, would you feel more inclined to cross the street and avoid this figure walk past without looking to see what or who it is talk to the figure to see what it is

Gender and Space The more power you have the more space you use Men use more Women less Example 1: When a man courts a woman by walking arm in arm down the aisle or placing a hand on the back of a woman when they enter the room is viewed as kind or gentleman like. However, if a woman did this a man would view this a flirting Example 2: American females tend to talk closer to one another, American males tend to interact act greater distances.

When our space is invaded Extreme self awareness – suddenly we forget how to act 'naturally' Limited movements and gestures Reduced eye contact Turning aside or away from the intruder We'll usually immediately take a step back. Adopting a defensive position – folded arms, less smiles, frowning, tense posture. Stopping the conversation entirely.

Eye Contact Most think making eye contact with a stranger is uncomfortable Some take it as insulting WE TRY TO AVOID IT!!!! Why do people get so strange when a stranger makes eye contact with you?

Eye contact Culturally different Very Direct eye contact: Middle Easterners, Some Latin Americans, French Moderate eye contact: Americans, Northern European, British Minimal eye contact: East Asians, Southeast Asians, East Indians, Native Americans

Eye Contact Eye contact encourages interaction. Women hold eye contact more than men Men stare as a sign of interest About 3.5-4.5 seconds people consider not awkward Longer than that, people begin to feel uncomfortable

Silent Scene Get into groups of 3-4 You may not be with your table groups Your group will create a one-minute video scene that takes place in one location and has a problem that needs to be solved. No props Nobody in the scene can talk. All communication has to be nonverbal. Can the audience guess the content of the scene without any dialogue to help?

Requirements DUE: Next class NO PROPS You can only use your group members to reenact your scene NO talking only sound effects You need to use non-verbal cues such as Eye contact, hand gestures, facial features, body movement, charade tactics can be used Video needs to be 1-3 minutes in length Can use music to help set the scene. Must have a write up of what people are supposed to be doing AND what is happening in your scene. You need to set the following in your scene: Location (can be done where you decide to shoot the clip) Problem that needs to be solved https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k2PJ6T7U2eU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YhCYHjYW8Zs DUE: Next class