Chapter 5 Helping to prevent one of our loved ones from committing suicide

I Am Not OK-Teen suicide prevention and awareness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mKEu2qRyLQ0

Who is a Gatekeeper? Coach Teacher Pastor Friend

Overcoming our Emotional Reactions to warning signs What are the warning signs? Verbal or behavioral? Our Emotional Reactions Fear-the very idea that someone wants to die Denial-we didn’t hear what we heard Deny the warning signs “people who talk about suicide don’t do it” Shock-How can this be? Anger-why didn’t they come to me sooner?

Understanding Suicide They have problems just like we have problems. The difference is that, if that for the moment, we feel we can handle our problems and do not feel overwhelmed by them. Suicide seems like a solution to a problem. Suicide seems like a solution to many unsolvable problems.

Suicide occurs: During: times of personal crisis Unrelenting stress Depression When we are confronted with a fear of failure The spectator of an unacceptable loss

Impulsive act? Although sometimes an impulsive act, most people will think about suicide for days, weeks, months or even years before they make an attempt. Oddly, once the decision to commit suicide has been decided, it brings about a relief that all one’s problems can finally be solved and to the terror at the idea of having to die to find relief.

Clues and warning signs to suicide Clues and warning signs come in different forms. One clue or warning sign may not mean a great deal, but any warning sign suggesting acute distress, despair, or hopelessness about the future or a desire to “end it all” is worth asking about.

Direct Verbal Clues I’ve decided to kill myself I wish I were dead I’m going to commit suicide I’m going to end it all If (such and such ) doesn’t happen, I’ll kill myself.

Indirect or coded verbal clues I’m tired of life What’s the point of going on? My family would be better off without me Who cares if I’m dead anyway? I can’t go on anymore I just want out I’m tired of it all You would be better off without me I’m calling it quits, living is useless Soon I won’t be around You shouldn’t have to take care of me any longer Soon, you won’t have to worry about me any longer You’re going to regret how you’ve treated me Here take this (cherished possession); I won’t be needing it.

Behavioral Clues Donating body to a medical school Purchasing a gun Stockpiling pills Putting personal and business affairs in order Making or changing a will Taking our insurance or changing beneficiaries Giving away money or prized possessions Making funeral plans Changes in behavior, waving or kissing goodbye, (especially if not characteristic) Sudden interest in church or religion

Situational Clues Sudden rejection by a loved one (boyfriend/girlfriend), or unwanted separation or divorce Recent move, especially if unwanted Death of a spouse, child, friend (especially if by suicide or accident) Diagnosis of a terminal illness Sudden unexpected loss of freedom (about to be arrested) Anticipated loss of financial security

Depression Is the common cold of modern life Both biological and psychological #1 cause of suicidal behavior

Symptoms of depression Wishing to be dead Nervousness Crying Inability to concentrate Poor sleep Fatigue Irritability Loss of interest in friends, food and fun

Bad news, depression is common Bad news, depression is common. Good news, it responds well to treatment

How to help Question Persuade someone to get help Referral – refer to someone for help

Suicide Prevention https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3BByqa7bhto

Written Assignment Write a one-page paper on one of the following topics: “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem” “Talking about the problem is the most effective weapon against teenage suicide” “It takes more courage to live than to die” Should terminally ill people have the right to determine how and when to die?

Paper must include: Main Idea-clear and supporting information is relevant, accurate, and detailed Organization and Sentence structure – paragraphs, complete sentences, smooth- flowing information Mechanics-spelling, grammar capitalization Format – neat and legible