12.1 Emotional Development from 1-3 Chapter 12 12.1 Emotional Development from 1-3

Emotional Patterns During this time children are very moody! There are many emotional ups and downs. Go through periods of happiness, calmness, stability, and inner peace.

Emotional Patters Throughout childhood, emotional development tends to go in cycles. Toddlers tend to show their feelings by their facial expression and their actions. Both smiles and tears are common

Eighteen Months Primarily self-centered At this age parents and caregivers are beginning to teach children that they are not always going to get what they desire. This is difficult and is a long-term lesson Eighteen months is only the beginning of this.

Eighteen Months Parents and caregivers verbal instructions are usually not very successful at this age. Do opposite of what is requested Favorite response “no” “give it to me” Negativism- doing the opposite of what is asked Caused by frustration sometimes

Eighteen Months Negativism is a normal stage of emotional development. Instead of saying no all of the time move the things you are saying no to. Their bodies can do more but their vocab is still short, resulting in frustration/anger Realizes they are a separate person

Eighteen Months Distraction can be positive tool to use. Example: Instead of saying “No, put that down” you could say “Hey, look over here, have you seen this book before?” Also give children reasonable choices when possible Banana or Pear? Stick to 2 choices.

Eighteen Months Start to have temper tantrums Sometimes happen over pointless things https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OmUBB71k_U8 These last until about age three or four https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Q5FdzHaOuE

Two years Are less at odds with the world. They can communicate and motor skills have improved. Not as frustrated Child is easier to reason with Outgoing, friendly, less self-centered Wait longer amounts of time for things to happen/ be done.

Two and one-half Years Just as parents begin to adjust to a smoother, less intense toddler, the child enters a new stage. Now the child is not so easily distracted They are learning so much they are often overwhelmed Their comprehension and desires exceed their physical abilities Want to build tall towers and but can only make it a few blocs before they fall over.

Two and one-half Years Working hard at talking They know what to say but they don’t always succeed in making themselves understand. When parents just kind of “ignore” it and say “Uh Oh” or “yeah” children get even more frustrated https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wN8rL0TsmSE They thrive for independence and are sensitive about being “bossed” around. They are stubborn, demanding, but then may become loveable and kind.

Two and one-half Years The biggest characteristic about this age is that they want consistency; he or she wants the same routines, carried out in just the same way, day after day. This makes the world less confusing. This builds security and confidence.

Two and one-half Years They are part independent part dependent. The best way for parents/caregivers to deal with this age is to use extreme patience and love. This age needs flexible and adaptable limitations.

Three Years Three year olds can do most everything so they do not get as frustrated. Take directs from others with little of their previous resistance Follow instructions and take pride in the tasks they can preform for others Seek praise Less violent temper tantrums Talk, talk , talk!

Thee and One-Half At three children are self-confident, now at 3½ they are suddenly insecure. Fears are common The dark, lions, mascots, Santa etc. Thumb sucking, nail biting, nose picking They want to control the environment “I am going to eat on the floor today”

Specific Emotions 2-3 year olds are very open with their emotions. A three year old can express emotions in a more socially acceptable way. Children’s emotions become more specific as they grow older. 3 year olds have Anger Fear Jealousy Affection Sympathy

Anger Temper tantrums are most common about 2-3 years, then they decline. They are also linked with anger most of the time. Outgoing, confident children tend to display anger more aggressively (hitting/kicking) As time goes on physical attacks begin to be replaced by threatening, name-calling, pouting, or scolding.

Anger As time goes on anger is more frequent in anxious, insecure children. The ones who are lacking self-control. Parents who do not keep a schedule tend to have a child who is more likely to experience anger. Parents need to be aware of this and make sure the demands of the child and the parents are met. (maintaining a positive and safe environment)

Fear There are different fears and different ages and this will be ever changing. Some fears are useful, they keep children away from danger. Thoughtless adults sometimes build fears to ensure obedience “don’t get off the side walk or the police will get you”.

Fear Adults often communicate their own fears to children. If a parent is scared of dogs, their child will probably be scared of dogs even if they haven’t experienced it. Children can sense it.

Fear Somewhere between the 1-4 birthdays many children suffer from separation anxiety. This can be disturbing fro parents. Parents should be carful to avoid communicating their own concerns with the child; it may be helpful for parents to recall that they have chosen a safe, secure caregiver or care center for their child.

Fear Some fears are brought about from experiences. If they are scared of Santa and had a bad experience and dad grows a beard, a child may get scared.

How to handle fear 1-3 Avoid shaming Encourage communication about the fear. Offer honest, understandable explanations Try to help separate reality from fantasy (nightmares) How to control frightening situations. Be supportive and understanding.

Jealousy Jealousy becomes recognizable sometime in the 2nd year. Reaches its peak at 3. At this age children may not recognize that parents have enough love for everyone. Sibling rivalry- competition between brothers and/or sisters for their parents’ affection and attention. Video

Jealousy It happens mostly when there is a new baby and all of the attention is on the new baby and no longer on the older sibling. 1-2 year olds want the baby to be “taken back” Older children start to act out in ways they never have before. They may start acting like a baby again.

Jealousy If parents act shocked or threatened not to love a toddler anymore, they will only make the problem worse.

Handling Jealousy Arrange a special alone time Compliment the correct behavior whenever possible. Point out the advantages of not being a baby Give the older child extra love and attention If a child is moving bedrooms do it months before the new child arrives Prepare a child for a baby’s arrival Ask the child to help with small tasks in caring for the new child. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bwbbOL2HTyU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CNVPoFkcDxA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nqh4at-G4VM

Love and Affection It should be a strong bond but not smothering. Children who rely on the relationship to much often have a hard time making other friends. Other attachments, pets, siblings, friends, extended families

Sympathy Does not show sympathy until about 2. A child must be able to relate to others. A well-adjusted, happy child is more inclined to be sympathetic than a child whose relationships are less satisfactory.

Evaluating Emotional Adjustment How can parents tell whether their child is developing well emotionally? Parent child relationship The relationships from the start set a pattern for the rest of a child’s life, with his or her spouse, family, children The child seeks approval and praise from parents Child turns t parents for comfort and help A child tells parents about significant events so that they may share in the joy and sorrow Child accepts limits and discipline without unusual resistance Sibling relationships

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