SESSION 4 Boundaries and parenting styles 4.1
SESSION PLAN Discipline Setting loving limits Why is it hard to set boundaries? What is loving discipline? Parenting styles What is your style of parenting? Keys to positive parenting Giving choices 4.2
DISCIPLINE – WHAT IS IT? 4.3
SETTING LOVING LIMITS 4.4
WHY ARE BOUNDARIES IMPORTANT FOR CHILDREN? They … Teach children to respect others and their property. Teach children self-control. Teach children about acceptable limits. Teach children how to be responsible adults. Give children security. Keep children safe. 4.5
SETTING BOUNDARIES 4.6
LOVING DISCIPLINE IS NOT … Shouting and yelling Dominating and controlling Criticising and putting them down Smacking or hitting Being inconsistent Being cold or detached 4.7
LOVING DISCIPLINE IS … Training Leading by example Consistent Age appropriate 4.8
BREAK 4.9
TWO SIDES TO PARENTING 4.10
THERE ARE THREE DIFFERENT RECOGNISED STYLES OF PARENTING Authoritarian Permissive Assertive/authoritative 4.11
AUTHORITARIAN 4.12
PERMISSIVE 4.13
ASSERTIVE/AUTHORITATIVE 4.14
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KEYS TO POSITIVE PARENTING Expectations and house rules Routines Consistency One-to-one fun time Communication 4.16
GIVING CHOICES Giving a choice is a very effective tool. It can: Help to avoid battles and power struggles Help children to take responsibility for their actions Help children to feel involved in decision-making Help children to feel valued and respected Give children a sense of control over their lives 4.17
REFLECTION We have thought about what discipline means; that it is mainly about training. We have considered the importance of setting loving limits and boundaries for children. We have explored the reasons why it can be hard to set boundaries. We have thought about the influences that have affected how we parent. 4.18
REFLECTION We have looked at different styles of parenting - authoritarian, permissive and assertive/authoritative. We have considered what style of parenting we most relate to and thought about how we would like to parent our children. We have looked at some keys to positive parenting. We have looked at the value of giving choices. 4.19
FOCUS FOR THE WEEK Think about your main style of parenting. Are there any changes you would like to make? Try to give your child some choices this week. Look again at the keys to positive parenting and choose one that you would like to focus on this week. 4.20
NEXT WEEK Next week we will be looking at keeping our children safe. 4.21