Communication and Identity The importance of others in shaping our self-image (or identity) is indispensable
We are Shaped by Others If you grew up on a deserted island, how would you know: How smart you were How attractive you were How tall/short you were How thin/fat you were
Appraisals From Others Shape our Self-image Even if we could look in a mirror, we still couldn’t evaluate ourselves without in-put from others
Characteristics of Self-concept The self-concept is subjective We tend to view ourselves more favorably than facts would merit Sometimes we view ourselves more harshly than facts indicate The self-concept resists change (cognitive conservation)
Culture and Identity Our sense of self is shaped by our culture Individualistic and collectivistic cultures provide different windows for creating self-images Strong “I” orientation individualistic cultures Strong inter-dependence in collective cultures
Gender and Identity From the earliest moments of life, being male or female shapes the way others communicate with us Girls are cute or beautiful, boys are handsome and strong Boys are expected to be masculine, girls feminine Girls are sweet, boys are tough
Changing your Self-concept Have a realistic perception of yourself Have realistic expectations Have the will to change Have the skill to change
Public and Private Self We have several “selves” that are a reflection of our identity We have a Public Self (Presenting self) We have a Private self (Perceived self) These different “selves” are often referred to as our “FACE” What type of “Face” are you presenting?