STUDENT WHY, AND HOW CAN WE HELP?
hap·pi· ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy INGREDIENTS: Confidence Competence Relationships hap·pi· ness: noun
“Happiness Now” Pressure Unattainable Conflicts with resilience Removes opportunity for resilience “practice” Causes us to change the narrative to support everything being ok Limits the resources we offer We’re terrible at predicting it for others
FEELING ANXIOUS “Normal anxiety” Feeling of uneasiness about danger or misfortune Caused by discomfort Often protective A way of checking bonding
STRESS Strain or tension Physical Mental Emotional
ACUTE RESPONSE Perceived threat Cortisol dump Inability to reason Less than a second to start Minutes to stop
PHYSIOLOGIC VS PATHOLOGIC Temporary Persistent Limited in scope Interferes with ADLs Limited in effect Out of context TRUST YOUR GUT
GOOD & BAD STRESS CAUSE New stimuli Unknown patterns Change Unknown support system CHANGE IN AUTONOMY
Comfort vs Discomfort Comfort Security Healing Identity Discomfort Learning Change GROWTH
CULTURE OF “SUCCESSFUL” FAMILIES Myth: “Only I can fix this!” Truth: Failure must be experienced.
OPPORTUNITIES FOR GROWTH Discomfort Identifying problems Expressing feelings Building supports TAKING CONTROL
RESILIENCE CHALLENGES Mistakes Accidents Pain Social consequences Judgment 11:00 News…
When not if Set expectations Remove the premise of failure as disappointment Model the cycle
When-not-if Language Set Remove Model Set expectations Model the cycle Remove Remove the premise of failure Set Set expectations When-not-if Language
5 protective factors of resilience social competence problem-solving skills autonomy sense of purpose use of storytelling 5 protective factors of resilience
Resilience in Practice Resilience in REALITY Build trust Demonstrate gratitude Express empathy Connect resources Offer solutions Resilience in Practice
Resilience in Practice Resilience SHARING Develop your own Honor others Shared journey Resilience in Practice
TAKE AWAY STRATEGIES When-not-if language Set good expections Build trust Don’t forget empathy Help the whole team