College Palooza Oakland University Saturday, August 13, 2016 For Parents Only! College Palooza Oakland University Saturday, August 13, 2016

Senior Year Has Arrived: The 4 Es It’s That Time! Senior Year Has Arrived: The 4 Es 1) Events- Icebreaker, Homecoming, Sports, Senior Trip, College Visits, Honors Convocation, Prom, Graduation 2) Expenses- Senior Dues, Application Fees, Trips, Enrollment Fees, ACT/SAT Test Prep/Exam, Senior Pictures, Graduation Costs/Parties, Unexpected Fees/Fines 3) Emotions- Roller Coaster, Joy, Satisfaction, Sadness, Loss, Confusion, Anger, Pride, Anticipated Loneliness 4) Expectations- Academic, Social, Collegiate, Sports, Financial

First Things First Talk! 1) Future Aspirations- college, career, goals 2) Your Expectations *Academic * Extra-Curricular *Financial (part-time job) 3) Plan *Map –Academic, Scholarships, Sports, Deadlines

Best Practices Create a Timeline & Plan 1) Have a visual reference 2) Keeps you on task Do Everything Early 1)Leave room for error 2) Have advantages such as monies, admission, etc. Communicate with your child 1) Encourage consistent conversation 2) Be sure you’re on the same page Hold Students Accountable 1) Set deadlines 2) Establish consequences for tasks, deadline and responsibilities not met Attend College/Career Fairs & Visits 1) Visit local, state and out-of-state campuses 2) Encourage college tours- Black College Tours, Michigan College Tours, Ivy League College Tours Allow Students to Decide School, Major, Path

Worst Practices

HELICOPTER PARENT ~Parents of high school or college-aged students who perform tasks a child is capable of doing alone. Not limited to high school and college, helicopter parenting can occur at any age. *Constantly calling a teacher/professor about poor grades *Arranging a class schedule *Complete college/scholarship applications *Finding excessive fault with teachers, counselors and coaches *Expecting child to receive unwarranted credit or privileges ~Consequences of Helicopter Parenting *Lack of Life & Coping Skills *Illusion of Entitlement *Low Self-Esteem/Confidence *Angry & Combative *Inability to Handle Emergencies *Anxiety & Panic EMPOWER! NOT ENABLE

Reminders: Dos and Don’ts -Encourage students to think/dream big -Give deadlines (college & Scholarships) -Develop/Implement standards to encourage maturity & responsibility -Teach money management, laundry, time management & organization -Give student the freedom to choose their path FIND TIME, HOBBIES, ENJOYMENT AND SELF-FULFILLMENT

Reminders: Dos and Don’ts -Be a helicopter parent -Permit students to be irresponsible -Withhold important information from student/college such as taxes -Divorced parents- Only one parent should claim student on income taxes student(s) can and will lose financial aid eligibility; BE HONEST -Take out excessive parent loans

Now What?!

Now What? What About You? Have Fun *Find a hobby *Take a class *Join a Club *Date (Married or Single) *Travel