However, each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33
God’s Plan For Marriage II Ephesians 5:22-33
Last week: (Ephesians 5:21-24) Every one of us lives under an authority to whom we must submit. The submitting in vs. 21 is talking about a submission as befitting the relationship. Submitting in the Bible is always one-directional. We ultimately must submit ourselves to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. There is blessedness living in submission.
“Headship/submission” has been wrongfully (sinfully) applied. What went wrong? “Headship/submission” has been wrongfully (sinfully) applied.
God’s Plan For Marriage II Ephesians 5:22-33
This week Headship/submission – what are the basics? Headship/submission worked out in a marriage When husband and wife don’t agree
Be filled with the Spirit… vs. 18 Speaking Singing Making melody Giving thanks Submitting ourselves… wives ( ) to your own husbands as to the Lord. voluntarily, willingly
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God placed all things under His (Christ's) feet and appointed Him to the be the head over everything for the church... Ephesians 1:22 ...speaking the truth in love we will in all things grow up into Him who is the Head, that is, Christ. Ephesians 4:15 Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. I Corinthians 11:3
Final authority Ultimate responsibility The one who takes the lead “head” Final authority Ultimate responsibility The one who takes the lead
Ultimate responsibility Christ as “head” Final authority Ultimate responsibility To prepare for Himself a radiant church To feed and care for His church
Christ as “head” Final authority Ultimate responsibility To prepare for Himself a radiant church To feed and care for His church The one who takes the lead It was He who gave… (Ephesians 4:11-13)
Husband as “head” Conferred (delegated) authority Ex: Adam, leaders In God’s “stead” – in place of God Final authority Ultimate responsibility (Love wife as Christ has loved the church) The one who takes the lead
Life in Whitewater
Husband’s role Servant-leadership
Husband’s role in submission to Jesus Christ Servant-leadership Prime example of one living in submission to Jesus Christ
Grandpa Hutch Tibbetts
A wife’s submission An eye to please Christ (Ephesians 5:21-22) An eye to please Christ Christ is her Lord and Savior Willingly submits to husband’s leadership Is not: submitting thoughtlessly a doormat her husband’s slave giving up her person-hood
A godly example I Peter 3:1-7
Submission today It is a wife's willingly coming under the leadership of her husband, responding to him in a spirit of gentleness and respect. Intelligent submission
Camaraderie/friendship Servant-leadership/Intelligent submission ‘One Flesh’ Communication Camaraderie/friendship Fruits of the Spirit Serving one another Fun, love, laughter
When husband and wife don’t agree
When husband and wife don’t agree Is this a moral issue or a preference? If moral: Appeal to Scripture If preference: “Win/win” compromise
When husband and wife don’t agree Is this a moral issue or a preference? If moral: Appeal to Scripture If preference: “Win/win” compromise No resolve? Husband makes final decision A wife may then: Appeal to husband Appeal to God Meanwhile submits graciously
However, each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33