What kind of behavior is it? Rude v Mean v Bully v Kind

Rude Behaviors Defined as – Unintentionally saying or doing something that hurts someone else. Examples: Jumping ahead in line Bragging Good intentions that hurt The main difference between being RUDE and being MEAN is Intent

Mean Behaviors Defined as – Purposefully saying or doing something to hurt some (once or maybe twice) Examples: Criticizing clothing/ appearance/ intelligence Saying something in anger towards someone

Bully Behaviors Defined as – Intentionally aggressive behavior repeated over time that involves an imbalance of power.   Examples: Physical – hitting, kicking, tripping Verbal – Threats Social – Exclusion, rumors Cyber – Use of technology to carry out the above The main difference between being MEAN and BULLYING is INTENT, REPETITION & IMBALANCE OF POWER While some may not think their behaviors fall in this category, it’s the perception of the student we take into consideration!  

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Kind Behaviors Defined as –friendly, generous, or warm-hearted nature Examples: Say "please" and "thank you"—and really mean it. Help someone pick things up if they dropped something Hold the door for someone

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How To Help Model EVERYTHING – words, actions, thoughts and reactions Be verbally explicit – explain from a point of fact, not a point of emotion Be human – explain why a behavior is upsetting (simple cause and effect) Make connections – duh Praise loudly, condemn quietly – we set the tone for others

Open the floor to discuss tough issues Build them up honestly – kids know when you mean what you say…your words and actions must be transparent and true.