What would you do? Are you an Bystander or upstander

Overview Today we revisit the term bystander and focus on how to be an upstander. This lesson is based on the fact that most of us contribute to—inadvertently—bullying and bystander behavior in some, often subtle, ways. We don’t identify ourselves as bullies or passive bystanders. Most people don’t. The goal of this exercise is to increase awareness of our own actions, and how we could help take a stand against bullying.

Are you a bystander or an upstander? Showing courage by standing up to a bully can be risky! In fact, our fear of taking a risk can stop us from doing anything when we see people being bullied. Watch the following video and self reflect on the level of risk you would be willing to take in the situation. No Risk/Doing Nothing: Join the bully by laughing or agreeing. Low Risk: Look away, don’t join the bully. Medium Risk: Change the subject, walk away, and encourage others to walk away too. High Risk: Stand up, speak out, and get help if needed.

Video – What would you do? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=taYUpQG1X14

Why Be An Upstander If you step in, other people are more likely to step in, too. Most young people disapprove of bullying — they’re just waiting for someone to take the first step to stopping it. Remember, you should only step in if it’s safe to do so. Sometimes teens are more likely to convince each other to stop bullying than adults are. Potentially, you can have a big impact on the situation just by speaking out. The more people who take a stand against bullying, the safer your school or community will be for everyone.

How to be an Upstander Don’t join in the bullying Support the victim in private—show your concern and offer kindness Stand with the victim and say something Mobilize others to join in and stand up to the bully Befriend the victim and reach out to him/her in friendship Alert an adult