Welcome to Choose Resilience Presented By Jen Shirkani

Resilience Strength Endurance Grit Recovery Growth Hope

What Is the Comfort Zone?

Which of These Factors Are Holding You Back? Fear of failure Lack of the confidence you need to become more assertive Feeling dependent on others financially or emotionally to choose your life path Comfortable where you are Uncertainty about where to begin or what to do

The Comfort Zone Betrayal “When we get too comfortable, we lose that healthy balance between comfort and risk that keeps us learning and growing.”

Comfort Zone Self-Reflection Questions How long has it been since you took a big risk? Thinking back over the last four weeks, how many of the activities you participated in gave you a sense of accomplishment? When was the last time you were caught off guard or unprepared for a change in your life? How often do you catch yourself drifting or coasting through the day without a lot of presence of mind? Answer key

The Engagement Factor Engagement is employees’ willingness and ability to contribute to the company’s success; people’s desire to give discretionary effort in their jobs.

5 Ways to Challenge Yourself Have lunch with someone new. Join a networking group. Ask for a stretch assignment at work. Give a presentation. Learn to use a new app or software program.

MOST Model Motivation

Motivation

Eight Common Motivators Recognition Challenge Opportunity for Growth Career Advancement Money Making a Difference Incentives Work-Life Balance Optimism defined

Questions to Ask Yourself to Determine What Motivates You What activities make you feel the most productive? What accomplishments are you most proud of? Who in your life would benefit if you overcame an obstacle? What traits do you feel are your best attributes? If you could do one thing for a whole year without any restriction, what would it be?

Optimism

Poll Question Between 1999 and 2012 in the US, the prescribed rate of anti- depressants increased by: 30% 50% 75% 100%

5 Ways to Be More Optimistic Be mindful of your first reaction to assume the worst.  Catch yourself (or ask a trusted friend or colleague to catch you) when you use negative language.  Find your happy place.  Don't believe everything you think.  Lose the pessimists in your life.

Stress Tolerance

Applying the 3 R’s to Stress Tolerance When it comes to stress tolerance, it is important to recognize your own symptoms of anxiety or fatigue. When reading your environment, make a distinction between tasks that are urgent and those that are important, so you can prioritize accordingly. Respond to your rising stress levels by taking a self-imposed time out or negotiating for extended deadlines, additional resources, or a changed workload. Each time you develop a new stress coping mechanism, you’ll find yourself moving forward with a greater level of resilience. Super Survivors

Super Survivors Sam Matagi After talking with Mr. Israel for two hours, she hugged him and told him she forgave him. “Then, as I got up,” she said, “I felt something rising from the soles of my feet and leaving me. From that day on I haven’t felt any hatred, animosity, or anger. It was over.” Sam Matagi Mary Johnson and Oshea Israel

The Catfish and the Cod

Build a Foundation of Resilience Align your actions with your values Expect the best Help others Build supportive networks Look for new ways of doing things Embrace change courageously

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