The Sexual Response Cycle With Mr. Kaufman

What is Sex? Sex can mean different things to different people. When most people talk about ‘having sex’ they are usually referring to sexual intercourse (or penetrative sex).

Different Types Of Sex: Kissing:  When people use their lips for pleasure – either touching each other's lips, or other parts of the body with their lips. Kissing can be with or without tongues. Masturbation/Self-pleasuring When you touch or stroke a part of your own body, or your partners, to become aroused. Different people find different things erotic. Body parts could include the clitoris, breasts, nipples, vagina, penis or anus. Exploring your own body through masturbation can be a good way to find out about your sexual feelings and your body. Masturbation is not bad for you. It's your choice whether or not you do it or not.

Different Types Of Sex: Mutual masturbation: When two or more people touch the sensitive parts of each other's bodies Fingering: Using fingers to stimulate another person's genitals. Foreplay: Any kind of sexual kissing, massage or touching that happens before intercourse. It can help to get people aroused and can make sex more enjoyable. 

Different Types of Sex: Oral sex Using the mouth or tongue to stimulate your partner’s sexual /genital area. While you can’t get pregnant by having oral sex, sexually transmitted infections can be passed on in this way.  Penetrative sex (also called sexual intercourse) When something (like a penis or a sex toy) goes inside someone else's mouth, vagina or anus. Vaginal, anal and oral sex are all types of penetrative sex. Different Types of Sex:

Different Types Of Sex: Vaginal sex: When a penis, finger, or sex toy goes inside a vagina. Anal sex: When there is penetration of an anus by a sex toy, finger, or penis. The anus is the opening at the end of the digestive system where solid waste comes out of the body. Different Types Of Sex:

Orgasms!  Definition: A climax of sexual excitement, characterized by feelings of pleasure centered in the genitals and (in men) experienced as an accompaniment to ejaculation.

What happens during an orgasm? Sexual response cycle is divided into four stages:  Excitement Plateau Orgasm Resolution. There is no clear boundary where a stage begins and ends. What happens during an orgasm? 

1. Excitement  This phase usually begins within 10 to 30 seconds after erotic stimulation and can last anywhere from a few minutes to many hours. Men: The penis becomes slightly erect. A man’s nipples may also become erect. Women: Vaginal lubrication begins. The vagina expands and lengthens. The outer lips, inner lips, clitoris and sometimes breasts begin to swell. Both: Heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing are all accelerated. Brain welling up with hormones: Dopamine & Oxytocyin

2. Plateau The changes that started in the excitement phase continue to progress. Men: The testes are drawn up into the scrotum. The penis becomes fully erect. Women: The vaginal lips become puffier. The tissues of the walls of the outer third of the vagina swell with blood, and the opening to the vagina narrows. The clitoris disappears into its hood. The inner labia (lips) change color (although it’s a bit hard to notice). Both: Breathing and pulse rates quicken. A “sex flush” may appear on the stomach, chest, shoulders, neck or face. Muscles tense in the thighs, hips, hands and buttocks, and spasms may begin.

3. Climax Men: First, seminal fluid collects in the urethral bulb. This is when a man may have the sensation that orgasm is certain, or “ejaculatory inevitability.” Next, semen is ejaculated from the penis. Contractions occur in the penis during the orgasmic phase. Women: The first third of the vaginal walls contract rhythmically every eight-tenths of a second. (The number and intensity of the contractions vary depending on the individual orgasm.) The muscles of the uterus also contract barely noticeably. Both: Breathing, pulse rate, and blood pressure continue to rise. Muscle tension and blood-vessel engorgement reach a peak. Sometimes orgasm comes with a grasping-type muscular reflex of the hands and feet

4. Resolution This phase is marked by the return of normal function of the body. Swelling recedes, any sex flush disappears, and there is a general relaxation of muscle tension. This phase is characterized by a general feeling of happiness and comfort, increase intimacy and, often, fatigue. After ejaculation, men will often enter a recovery phase called the refractory period. During the refractory phases, further orgasm or ejaculation is physiologically impossible. Woman may also need some time before further excitement is possible.

Orgasm Note! Its perfectly normal to not have a orgasm. For both male and females. It happens! But if it never happens, talk to your health care professional. You deserve to enjoy sex.

Orgasm type What they feel like clitoral These orgasms are often felt on the surface of the body, like a tingly feeling along your skin and in your brain. vaginal These orgasms are deeper in the body and can easily be felt by the person penetrating the vagina because the vaginal walls will pulse. anal Before the big O, you may feel an intense need to pee, but the contractions definitely won’t be felt around the genitals. Instead, they’ll be around the anal sphincter. combo When the vagina — particularly the G-spot — and the clitoris are stimulated at the same time, it tends to result in a more explosive movie-style orgasm that may have convulsing or literally ejaculation (read: female ejaculation is not a myth). erogenous zones Lesser known parts of your body, such as the ears, the nipples, the neck, the elbows, and the knees, can still cause a pleasurable reaction when kissed and played with. For more sensitive people, continuous play may lead to an orgasm.

Fun Facts about Orgasms The oxytocin and endorphins released during a female orgasm can increase her pain tolerance in the minutes following by up to 75%. Maybe try this during labour? It’s possible for a nursing mother to experience a low-intensity orgasm while breastfeeding. The experience has more to do with a spike in both oxytocin and prolactin, hormones that facilitate orgasms but are also produced while breastfeeding, than nipple stimulation.

More Fun facts about Orgasms Want to live longer? Have more sex! A study that lasted over 10 years and included almost 1,000 men concluded that men who have a high frequency of orgasms also have a 50% lower mortality risk than men who orgasm with lower frequency. Orgasms produce white blood cells and endorphins, which could boost our immune systems. While the average male orgasm lasts 5-22 seconds, 18-20 seconds is the average female orgasm. Yay for being a lady!

When should you have sex? Healthy relationship When you feel confident Safety / Consent must be there No perfect age – but you should wait till your ready Breaking boundaries / stereotypes around virginity  When should you have sex?