Day One: Listening to Learn 1-16
Listening Is An essential part of communication Not taught in school A skill that can be learned 1-17
Why is listening a key skill of leadership? It connects us with others. It helps us make decisions and solve problems. 1-18
“Seek first to understand, then be understood.” — Stephen Covey 1-19
Two Parts of Effective Listening Active listening Empathetic listening 1-20
Active Listening Requires Rephrasing and checking Nonjudgmental attitude 1-21
Empathetic Listening Requires Putting the listener in the speaker’s place Seeing things from the speaker’s viewpoint Understanding how the speaker feels 1-22
Listening in Adversarial Situations Respond to the listener’s manner. Create a productive framework with a positive stance. Cast conversation in a positive light. 1-23
Listeners should always strive to create a positive present as opposed to a negative past. 1-24
Tips on Giving Feedback Is it helpful? Do others want it? Can it change a behavior? Is it specific? Does it describe behavior? How does it impact you? Does it contain an “I” statement? Did the recipient understand what you said? 1-25
You can give caring feedback without a good technique, but the slickest technique in the world will not hide a lack of caring. 1-26
Tips on Receiving Feedback Seek out feedback. Listen carefully. Listen actively. Listen empathetically. Monitor your emotions. 1-27
Consider feedback to be a gift. It truly is one. 1-28
Listening to Learn Effective listening is a learned skill. Listening is important to relationships and problem solving. Effective listening is both active and empathetic. Listening can turn a negative situation into a positive one. Listening is key to giving and receiving feedback. 1-29