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FIGURE 6.1 Lost and found. Amnesia has left Clive Wearing unable to retrieve existing memories and unable to create new ones. (a) In his diary he records the moments when he believes he has awoken for the very first time, only to cross out each entry when he again perceives himself awakening just a few moments later. (b) Wearing does remember his wife, Deborah, who faced difficult questions about who Clive would become and how their relationship could move forward.

FIGURE 6. 2 Lewis Terman (1877–1956) FIGURE 6.2 Lewis Terman (1877–1956). Terman was a pioneer in studying the role of personality in marriage.

TABLE 6.1 Personality Traits in the Big Five Model of Personality

FIGURE 6. 3 Personality traits and relationships FIGURE 6.3 Personality traits and relationships. “I am very confident in how I project my personality. But in terms of how I look, I am completely, hysterically insecure. I am self-loathing, introverted, and neurotic.” Actress Megan Fox identifies here with the personality trait of negative affectivity. People who have this trait tend to be less satisfied in their relationships and more likely to divorce, and they appear to be more difficult as relationship partners.

FIGURE 6. 4 An imperfect match FIGURE 6.4 An imperfect match. People who tend to be disagreeable and negative treat their partners less favorably than people with a cheerful temperament. By complaining about his date’s personality, Dilbert may be saying at least as much about his own personality as he does about hers.

FIGURE 6. 5 The dependence regulation model FIGURE 6.5 The dependence regulation model. An enduring personality trait, low self-esteem, can affect how partners perceive and communicate with each other.

FIGURE 6. 6 Divorce and the psychological well-being of children FIGURE 6.6 Divorce and the psychological well-being of children. The association between marital discord and the psychological health of adult children varies depending on whether the parents eventually divorce. In this study, children had lower levels of well-being when marital discord was very low and the parents divorced, and when marital discord was very high and the parents did not divorce. (Source: Adapted from Amato et al., 1995.)

FIGURE 6. 7 Parental divorce and expressing disagreement FIGURE 6.7 Parental divorce and expressing disagreement. In this study, compared to women and men with intact parents, those with divorced parents express more disagreement and invalidation toward their partner when discussing relationship problems. When their partner is speaking, women and men with divorced parents show more negative facial expressions and gestures as listeners. The percentages represent the speaking intervals of the specified behaviors. (Source: Adapted from Sanders, Halford, & Behrens, 1999.)

FIGURE 6. 8 Attachment behavior systems at work FIGURE 6.8 Attachment behavior systems at work. Following the 9/11 tragedy in New York in 2001, families and friends created a makeshift memorial at the World Trade Center in the hope of locating lost loved ones.

FIGURE 6. 9 Insecure attachment and partner communication FIGURE 6.9 Insecure attachment and partner communication. This woman’s insecure attachment style causes her to use an ineffective strategy when seeking support from her partner.

FIGURE 6. 10 Secure and avoidant women under stress FIGURE 6.10 Secure and avoidant women under stress. To the extent that they become more anxious and fearful while anticipating a stressful situation, secure women seek more comfort and reassurance, whereas avoidant women seek less. (Source: Adapted from Simpson et al., 1992.)

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