What You’ll Learn 1. Describe the roles of parents and guardians in promoting a healthful family. 2. Discuss the roles of extended family members in promoting a healthful family. 3. Explain 12 behaviors and skills children learn in healthful families.

What You’ll Learn 4. Discuss ten causes of dysfunctional family relationships and identify steps to improve these relationships. 5. Discuss ten behaviors of codependent people. 6. Discuss the purposes of recovery programs.

Key Terms family healthful family dysfunctional family affection work ethic abandonment enmeshment interdependence recovery program Alateen

Family Relationships A family is the basic unit of society. Extended family members are the members of a family in addition to parents, brothers, and sisters.

What to Know About Family Roles A healthful family is a family that practices skills that promote loving, responsible relationships. Healthful family relationships are ones that have a positive effect on physical and emotional health.  

What to Know About Family Roles Role of parents and guardians  Parents and guardians teach their children: self-respecting behavior healthful attitudes effective communication a clear sense of values responsible decision making ways to resolve conflict effective coping skills ways to delay gratification ways to express affection and integrate love and sexuality how to give and receive acts of kindness a work ethic respect for authority

What to Know About Family Roles Parents and guardians teach the behaviors and skills listed on the previous slide by: 1. setting an example 2. having discussions 3. expecting behaviors and skills to be practiced 4. enforcing consequences when they are not

What to Know About Family Roles Role of grandparents  Grandparents reinforce the behaviors and skills taught by parents and guardians. Role of other family members  Other family members practice the behaviors and skills taught by parents, guardians, and grandparents.

What to Know About Family Roles The Family Continuum The Family Continuum shows two extremes of family life: ideal and dysfunctional. A dysfunctional family is a family that does not promote loving, responsible relationships.

What to Know About Family Roles The Family Continuum

Healthful Family Relationships The connections a person has with family members are family relationships. Family relationships have an effect on a person’s mental, emotional, and social health.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning self-respecting behavior Treating oneself in healthful and responsible ways is self-respecting behavior. Self-respecting behavior is an outgrowth of the ways you were treated by the adults who raised you.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning to value the needs of others Self-centered behavior is an action that fulfills personal needs with little regard for the needs of others. Self-centered behavior does not contribute to healthful family relationships.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning healthful attitudes toward sexuality  Sexuality is the feelings and attitudes a person has about his or her body, sex role, and relationships. Your attitudes about your body and about being male or female are shaped by your parents or guardians.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning healthful sex roles  A sex role is the behaviors, attitudes, values, and beliefs that a particular cultural group considers appropriate for males and females on the basis of their biological sex. Your parents or guardians helped you learn about sex roles from a very early age.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning effective communication skills Communication skills are skills that help a person share feelings, thoughts, and information with others. You learn communication skills within your family through imitation.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning a clear sense of values A standard or belief is called a value. A value that is learned within a family is called a family value. Your family values will become the standard for what you think and believe.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning to make responsible decisions  In a healthful family, parents or guardians make responsible decisions and teach you to do the same. Parents or guardians set guidelines and make consequences for breaking the guidelines clear.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning to resolve conflicts A conflict is a disagreement between two or more people or two or more choices In a healthful family, conflicts are resolved without violence. The conflict-resolution skills you learn from your family help you to resolve conflicts in other relationships.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning effective coping skills In a healthful family, parents or guardians want to help their children develop emotional strength. You will learn how to cope during difficult times that you may experience later in your life.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning to delay gratification Delayed gratification is voluntarily postponing a reward in order to complete a task or responsibility before enjoying the reward. Being able to delay gratification is especially important in relationships.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning to express affection and integrate love and sexuality  Affection is a fond or tender feeling that a person has toward another person. In a healthful family, parents or guardians teach their children appropriate ways to express affection and that sex and love belong together in a committed marriage.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning to give and receive acts of kindness  As you observe your parents or guardians giving and receiving, you learn to act in similar ways. Giving and receiving both are needed to sustain healthful relationships throughout life.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning a work ethic A work ethic is an attitude of discipline, motivation, and commitment toward tasks. Parents and guardians serve as role models to teach a work ethic to their children.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships Learning to respect authority Authority is the power and right to apply laws and rules. It first is learned within the family. Parents or guardians help teach respect for authority by setting and enforcing guidelines for behavior. A curfew—a fixed time when a person is to be home—is an example of guidelines established by parents or guardians.

What to Know About Healthful Family Relationships How to Be a Loving Family Member The desire to have the best family life possible is worth the effort. Your task is to be the very best family member you can. Consider the following acronym: ACT Action: Choose actions that promote healthful family relationships. Commitment: Make a commitment to be a loving family member. Time: Spend time with your family.

Dysfunctional Family Relationships The term dysfunctional family includes families who struggle with alcoholism and many other problems.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Causes of Dysfunctional Families The following are some of the problems that can cause dysfunction in a family: chemical dependence other addictions perfectionism violence physical abuse emotional abuse neglect sexual abuse abandonment mental disorders

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Chemical dependence in the family Chemical dependence is the compelling desire to use a drug even though it harms the body, mind, or relationships. The lives of chemically dependent family members become dominated by the need to obtain and use drugs. Drugs cause changes in thinking and behavior and can increase the risk for violence in families.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Chemical dependence in the family There is evidence that chemical dependence may be an inherited tendency. Teens and other family members may develop codependence—a problem in which a person neglects himself or herself to care for, control, or try to “fix” someone else.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Other addictions in the family  An addiction is a compelling desire to use a drug or engage in a specific behavior, continued use despite negative consequences, and loss of control. A family member with an addiction becomes obsessed with his or her addiction and may neglect family life.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Perfectionism in the family  Perfectionism is the compelling need to be flawless. It goes beyond having high standards or wanting to do well. Parents or guardians who are perfectionists are overly critical of themselves and of their children, causing them to feel inadequate and insecure.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Violence in the family  Violence is the use of physical force to injure, damage, or destroy oneself, others, or property. Domestic violence is abuse used by one person in a relationship to control the other. It includes physical abuse, sexual abuse, and emotional abuse.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Violence in the family  A teen who lives in a home with domestic violence may copy the violent and controlling behavior. He or she is at risk for becoming a juvenile offender— a minor who commits a criminal act.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Abuse in the family  Abuse is the harmful or cruel treatment of another person. Child abuse is the harmful treatment of a minor. Spouse abuse is the harmful treatment of a husband or wife. Parent abuse is the harmful treatment of a parent. Elder abuse is the harmful treatment of an aged family member.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Abuse in the family  An abusive family member is often controlling and moody. Teens who live with an abusive family member might be afraid and confused. Often, they might blame themselves and falsely believe they deserve the abuse.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Four Kinds of Abuse Teens might have to deal with the following types of abuse in their families. Physical abuse is violent treatment that results in physical injury to the victim. Emotional abuse is belittling or verbally “putting down” another person, making a person feel worthless, or withholding love and affection in order to cause pain.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Four Kinds of Abuse Teens might have to deal with the following types of abuse in their families. Neglect is failure to provide proper care and guidance. Sexual abuse is sexual contact that is forced on a person, either through physical force, manipulation, or threats of harm.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Abandonment in the family  When a person chooses to give up or refuses responsibility for those in his or her care, it is called abandonment. Parents may abandon their children by their physical or emotional absence or both.

What to Know About Dysfunctional Family Relationships Mental disorders in the family  A mental disorder is a behavioral or psychological syndrome or pattern that occurs in an individual and that is associated with distress or disability or with a significantly increased risk of suffering, death, pain, disability, or an important loss of freedom. In a dysfunctional family, in which one or more family members have a mental disorder, family members do not respond in healthful ways.

Codependent Relationships Codependence is a problem in which people neglect themselves to care for, control, or try to “fix” someone else. The Tree of Codependence on the next slide illustrates how dysfunctional family life can lead to codependence.

Codependent Relationships

What to Know About Codependent Relationships People who are codependent have difficulty with intimacy—a deep and meaningful kind of sharing between two people. Enmeshment is a condition in which a person becomes obsessed with the needs of another person and no longer can recognize his or her own needs. Interdependence is a condition in which two people depend upon one another, yet each has a separate identity.

Improving Dysfunctional Families What steps can be taken to improve dysfunctional family relationships?

How to Improve Dysfunctional Family Relationships If you have a dysfunctional family relationship: 1. Identify the primary cause of dysfunction in the family. 2. Try to recognize the harmful ways in which family members interact. 3. Take responsibility for your behavior. 4. Talk to a parent, guardian, mentor, or other trusted adult about getting help.

How to Improve Dysfunctional Family Relationships Intervention A formal intervention may be planned when all family members agree that help is needed and the family member with the primary problem denies that there is a problem and resists help. A formal intervention is an action by people, such as family members and friends, who want a person to get treatment.

How to Improve Dysfunctional Family Relationships Therapy All family members who are codependent can benefit by getting help. In individual therapy, a skilled therapist helps one family member learn healthier ways to express feelings and relate to others. In group therapy or family therapy, a skilled therapist works with a group or family at the same time.

Resolving Family Conflict Responsibly Remain calm. Take time to cool off before trying to talk things through. Anger can get in the way of discussing a problem thoughtfully. Set a positive tone. Agree on some basic ground rules for your discussion. If each person agrees on the rules ahead of time, it is less likely that anger will get in the way. Define the conflict and take responsibility for personal actions. Describe the problem.

Resolving Family Conflict Responsibly Listen to the needs and feelings of other. Try to see the other person’s point of view. This will help you understand why the other person feels the way he or she does. List and evaluate possible solutions. Brainstorm possible solutions with the other person. Agree on a responsible solution. Choose a responsible solution that hopefully satisfies both people. Each person must be willing to make some trade-offs, but each person will “win” something too. Communicate. Strengthen the relationship and make future conflicts easier to work through.

How to Improve Dysfunctional Family Relationships Recovery program  A recovery program is a group that supports members as they change their behavior to be more responsible. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is a recovery program for people who are dependent on alcohol and other drugs. Al-Anon is a recovery program for people who have family members or friends who have addictions. Alateen is a recovery program for teens who have family members or friends who have addictions.

Study Guide 1. Match the following terms and definitions. 5D, 15A 1. Match the following terms and definitions. ___ self-respecting behavior ___ value ___ work ethic ___ perfectionism ___ affection D B A C E A. an attitude of discipline, motivation, and commitment toward tasks B. a standard or belief C. the compelling need to be flawless D. treating oneself in healthful and responsible ways E. a fond or tender feeling that a person has toward another person

Study Guide 2. What are the four kinds of abuse? 7J, 12A 2. What are the four kinds of abuse? The four kinds of abuse are physical abuse, emotional abuse, neglect, and sexual abuse.

Study Guide 8A, 9A, 9B, 15A 3. What are the four ways that parents and guardians teach their children the behaviors and skills associated with a healthful family? Parents teach by: 1. setting an example 2. having discussions 3. expecting behaviors and skills to be practiced 4. enforcing consequences when they are not

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