Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Title Critical Question #: Unit Lesson Date: 1 What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? LINKING STEP 1 1. What is the critical question? What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Title Critical Question #: Unit Lesson Date: 1 What is the critical question? 1. What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? LINKING STEP 2 2 What are the key terms and explanations? What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? What are the supporting questions and answers? Communication: the act of conveying information to an audience 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? Communication: “the act of conveying information to an audience” What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 Problematic: “awkward, tricky, challenging, difficult” 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? Communication: the act of conveying information to an audience Problematic: “awkward, tricky, challenging, difficult” What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 Perceived gender roles: Women assume a more dominant role in regulating the intimacy between a female and a male.. Women are more sensitive to the interpersonal meanings in the messages they exchange with the opposite gender. They pay more attention to the underlying meanings that may be implied in a statement or a response. Men on the other hand are more direct… they are about doing things or “fixing or offering a solution to a problem.” 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? Communication: the act of conveying information to an audience Problematic: “awkward, tricky, challenging, difficult” Perceived gender roles: Women assume a more dominant role in regulating the intimacy between a female and a male.. Women are more sensitive to the interpersonal meanings in the messages they exchange with the opposite gender. They pay more attention to the underlying meanings that may be implied in a statement or a response. Men on the other hand are more direct… they are about “fixing a or offering a solution” to a problem.” What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 Report Talk: Men typically like to use what some call “report talk” which is convey direct information, tell you about something and promote self-importance. vs. Rapport Talk: Women use “rapport talk” to establish care, intimacy, cooperation, reassurance, and connection. 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? Communication: the act of conveying information to an audience Problematic: “awkward, tricky, challenging, difficult” Perceived gender roles: Women assume a more dominant role in regulating the intimacy between a female and a male.. Women are more sensitive to the interpersonal meanings in the messages they exchange with the opposite gender. They pay more attention to the underlying meanings that may be implied in a statement or a response. Men on the other hand are more direct… they are about “fixing a or offering a solution” to a problem.” What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 Report Talk: Men typically like to use what some call “report talk” which is convey information and self-importance vs. Rapport Talk: Women use “rapport talk” to establish care, intimacy, and connection. Between the lines: There can be subtle differences in the ways that women and men approach problems. Women sometimes deal with problems (especially emotional concerns) by talking about them, sharing their feelings, and matching experiences with others. This can be frustrating to men, who more typically deal with problems by focusing on the facts and seeking an immediate solution. Occasionally, men perceive women to be ungrateful for the advice and solutions they offer and reach frustration because women don't want to resolve their problems! Similarly, when men offer a solution, rather than talking about a problem, women may feel hurt, dissatisfied, and put-down by the lack of empathy men show. 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 What is the critical question? Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? Communication: the act of conveying information to an audience Problematic: “awkward, tricky, challenging, difficult” Perceived gender roles: Women assume a more dominant role in regulating the intimacy between a female and a male.. Women are more sensitive to the interpersonal meanings in the messages they exchange with the opposite gender. They pay more attention to the underlying meanings that may be implied in a statement or a response. Men on the other hand are more direct… they are about “fixing a or offering a solution” to a problem.” Communication, Problematic Perceived roles, Report Talk vs. Rapport Talk, Between the Lines Report Talk: Men typically like to use what some call “report talk” which is convey information and self-importance vs. Rapport Talk: Women use “rapport talk” to establish care, intimacy, and connection. Between the lines: There can be subtle differences in the ways that women and men approach problems. Women sometimes deal with problems (especially emotional concerns) by talking about them, sharing their feelings, and matching experiences with others. This can be frustrating to men, who more typically deal with problems by focusing on the facts and seeking an immediate solution. Occasionally, men perceive women to be ungrateful for the advice and solutions they offer and reach frustration because women don't want to resolve their problems! Similarly, when men offer a solution, rather than talking about a problem, women may feel hurt, dissatisfied, and put-down by the lack of empathy men show. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? LINKING STEP 3 3 What are the supporting questions and answers? What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? ? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 3 What are the supporting questions and answers? How do men and women use communication differently (in interactions with the other gender) ? What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Why do men and women communicate differently with one another? ? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 3 What are the supporting questions and answers? How and why do men and women seem to use communication differently? Men use communication to relay self importance, worth, and to problem-solve. Women use communication to share feelings, establish connections, and mold a relationship What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Why do men and women communicate differently with one another? ? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 3 What are the supporting questions and answers? How and why do men and women seem to use communication differently? Men use communication to relay self importance and worth and to problem-solve. Women use communication to share feelings and establish connections. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 2. How the self-perceived roles of men and women differ in a relationship? 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Why do men and women communicate differently with one another? ? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 3 What are the supporting questions and answers? How do men and women seem to use communication differently? Men use communication to relay self importance and worth and to problem-solve. Women use communication to share feelings and establish connections. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 2. How the perceived relationship roles of men and women differ? Women feel the responsibility to grow and nurture a relationship. Men feel the responsibility to take care of things… to fix problems within the relationship. 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Why do men and women communicate differently with one another? ? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 3 What are the supporting questions and answers? 1. How and why do men and women seem use communication? Men use communication to relay self importance and worth and to problem-solve. Women use communication to share feelings and establish connections. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 2. How the self perceived roles of men and women seem to differ in a relationship? Women feel the responsibility to grow and nurture a relationship. Men feel the responsibility to take care of things… to fix problems within the relationship. 3. What does this miscommunication look like anyway? 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Why do men and women communicate differently with one another? ? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 3 What are the supporting questions and answers? 1. How do men and women use communication? Men use communication to relay self importance and worth and to problem-solve. Women use communication to share feelings and establish connections. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 2. How the perceived relationship roles of men and women differ? Women feel the responsibility to grow and nurture a relationship. Men feel the responsibility to take care of things… to fix problems within the relationship. 3. What does this miscommunication look like anyway? An example. Susan: I’m really tired. I have so much work to do--- I don’t know how I’m going to get it done! Bill: Why don’t you take a day off and rest, if you’re so tired. Susan: Thanks a lot! You think my contribution to this household is so trivial that I can do nothing and the difference won’t even be noticed? Bill is trying to focus on the problem and come up with a solution. He is saying, “I think I know something that will help you with this. He thinks he has given her a logical answer to the problem.” Susan, however, is wanting empathy, an appreciation for what she is going through; she hears Bill saying’ “ I don’t want to understand your feelings; I’m different from you and I know what you should do.” 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 What is the critical question? Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? Communication: the act of conveying information to an audience Problematic: “awkward, tricky, challenging, difficult” Perceived gender roles: Women assume a more dominant role in regulating the intimacy between a female and a male.. Women are more sensitive to the interpersonal meanings in the messages they exchange with the opposite gender. They pay more attention to the underlying meanings that may be implied in a statement or a response. Men on the other hand are more direct… they are about “fixing a or offering a solution” to a problem.” Communication, Problematic Perceived roles, Report Talk vs. Rapport Talk, Between the Lines Report Talk: Men typically like to use what some call “report talk” which is convey information and self-importance vs. Rapport Talk: Women use “rapport talk” to establish care, intimacy, and connection. Between the lines: There can be subtle differences in the ways that women and men approach problems. Women sometimes deal with problems (especially emotional concerns) by talking about them, sharing their feelings, and matching experiences with others. This can be frustrating to men, who more typically deal with problems by focusing on the facts and seeking an immediate solution. Occasionally, men perceive women to be ungrateful for the advice and solutions they offer and reach frustration because women don't want to resolve their problems! Similarly, when men offer a solution, rather than talking about a problem, women may feel hurt, dissatisfied, and put-down by the lack of empathy men show. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 1. How do men and women use communication? Men use communication to relay self importance and worth and to problem-solve. Women use communication to share feelings and establish connections. 2. How the perceived relationship roles of men and women differ? Women feel the responsibility to grow and nurture a relationship. Men feel the responsibility to take care of things… to fix problems within the relationship. An example. Susan: I’m really tired. I have so much work to do--- I don’t know how I’m going to get it done! Bill: Why don’t you take a day off and rest, if you’re so tired. Susan: Thanks a lot! You think my contribution to this household is so trivial that I can do nothing and the difference won’t even be noticed? Bill is trying to focus on the problem and come up with a solution. He is saying, “I think I know something that will help you with this. He thinks he has given her a logical answer to the problem.” Susan, however, is wanting empathy, an appreciation for what she is going through; she hears Bill saying’ “ I don’t want to understand your feelings; I’m different from you and I know what you should do.” 3. What does this miscommunication look like anyway? 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? LINKING STEP 4 4 What is the main idea answer? What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 4 What is the main idea answer? What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 4 What is the main idea answer? For improved communication: A first suggestion is awareness… that is recognition that there may be a problem because differences do exist in the way the genders communicate. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 A second suggestion is do not to rush to judgment or assumptions; know that “reading between the lines” can be an errant process!!! Finally, it may be best to ask questions of the other gender for clarity…to see what it is that they really want or are trying to say. 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 What is the critical question? Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? Communication: the act of conveying information to an audience Problematic: “awkward, tricky, challenging, difficult” Perceived gender roles: Women assume a more dominant role in regulating the intimacy between a female and a male.. Women are more sensitive to the interpersonal meanings in the messages they exchange with the opposite gender. They pay more attention to the underlying meanings that may be implied in a statement or a response. Men on the other hand are more direct… they are about “fixing a or offering a solution” to a problem.” Communication, Problematic Perceived roles, Report Talk vs. Rapport Talk, Between the Lines Report Talk: Men typically like to use what some call “report talk” which is convey information and self-importance vs. Rapport Talk: Women use “rapport talk” to establish care, intimacy, and connection. Between the lines: There can be subtle differences in the ways that women and men approach problems. Women sometimes deal with problems (especially emotional concerns) by talking about them, sharing their feelings, and matching experiences with others. This can be frustrating to men, who more typically deal with problems by focusing on the facts and seeking an immediate solution. Occasionally, men perceive women to be ungrateful for the advice and solutions they offer and reach frustration because women don't want to resolve their problems! Similarly, when men offer a solution, rather than talking about a problem, women may feel hurt, dissatisfied, and put-down by the lack of empathy men show. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 1. How do men and women use communication? Men use communication to relay self importance and worth and to problem-solve. Women use communication to share feelings and establish connections. 2. How the perceived relationship roles of men and women differ? Women feel the responsibility to grow and nurture a relationship. Men feel the responsibility to take care of things… to fix problems within the relationship. An example. Susan: I’m really tired. I have so much work to do--- I don’t know how I’m going to get it done! Bill: Why don’t you take a day off and rest, if you’re so tired. Susan: Thanks a lot! You think my contribution to this household is so trivial that I can do nothing and the difference won’t even be noticed? Bill is trying to focus on the problem and come up with a solution. He is saying, “I think I know something that will help you with this. He thinks he has given her a logical answer to the problem.” Susan, however, is wanting empathy, an appreciation for what she is going through; she hears Bill saying’ “ I don’t want to understand your feelings; I’m different from you and I know what you should do.” 3. What does this miscommunication look like anyway? A first step is awareness. Recognizing that there may be a problem because differences do exist in the way the genders communicate. A second step is not to rush to judgment or read between the lines. Finally, ask questions of the other gender… to see what it is that they really want. 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 LINKING STEP 5 5 How can we use the main idea answer again? 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 5 How can we use the main idea answer again? Can lessons learned here be applied for communicating with other individuals or groups? What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 What is the critical question? Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? Communication: the act of conveying information to an audience Problematic: “awkward, tricky, challenging, difficult” Perceived gender roles: Women assume a more dominant role in regulating the intimacy between a female and a male.. Women are more sensitive to the interpersonal meanings in the messages they exchange with the opposite gender. They pay more attention to the underlying meanings that may be implied in a statement or a response. Men on the other hand are more direct… they are about “fixing a or offering a solution” to a problem.” Communication, Problematic Perceived roles, Report Talk vs. Rapport Talk, Between the Lines Report Talk: Men typically like to use what some call “report talk” which is convey information and self-importance vs. Rapport Talk: Women use “rapport talk” to establish care, intimacy, and connection. Between the lines: There can be subtle differences in the ways that women and men approach problems. Women sometimes deal with problems (especially emotional concerns) by talking about them, sharing their feelings, and matching experiences with others. This can be frustrating to men, who more typically deal with problems by focusing on the facts and seeking an immediate solution. Occasionally, men perceive women to be ungrateful for the advice and solutions they offer and reach frustration because women don't want to resolve their problems! Similarly, when men offer a solution, rather than talking about a problem, women may feel hurt, dissatisfied, and put-down by the lack of empathy men show. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 1. How do men and women use communication? Men use communication to relay self importance and worth and to problem-solve. Women use communication to share feelings and establish connections. 2. How the perceived relationship roles of men and women differ? Women feel the responsibility to grow and nurture a relationship. Men feel the responsibility to take care of things… to fix problems within the relationship. An example. Susan: I’m really tired. I have so much work to do--- I don’t know how I’m going to get it done! Bill: Why don’t you take a day off and rest, if you’re so tired. Susan: Thanks a lot! You think my contribution to this household is so trivial that I can do nothing and the difference won’t even be noticed? Bill is trying to focus on the problem and come up with a solution. He is saying, “I think I know something that will help you with this. He thinks he has given her a logical answer to the problem.” Susan, however, is wanting empathy, an appreciation for what she is going through; she hears Bill saying’ “ I don’t want to understand your feelings; I’m different from you and I know what you should do.” 3. What does this miscommunication look like anyway? A first step is awareness. Recognizing that there may be a problem because differences do exist in the way the genders communicate. A second step is not to rush to judgment or read between the lines. Finally, ask questions of the other gender… to see what it is that they really want. 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? Can lessons learned here be applied for communicating with other individuals or groups? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? LINKING STEP 6 6a Is there an Overall Idea What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 6b Is there a real-world use? 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 6a Is there an Overall Idea When communication is taking place between two or more parties “reading between the lines” becomes an inexact science…usually we are trying to make it match with our own assumptions, perceptions and understandings…and this is even when the other party may be someone close to you. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 6b Is there a real-world use? 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? What is the critical question? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? 6a Is there an Overall Idea When communication is taking place between two or more parties “reading between the lines” becomes an inexact science…usually we are trying to make it match with our own assumptions, perceptions and understandings…and this is even when the other party may be someone close to you. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 6b Is there a real-world use? If you were talking with someone who spoke a foreign language -- different from your own ( and you did not speak that language) would you not go to extra lengths to communicate and understand this person. 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use?

Question Exploration Guide Text Reference Name: Course Critical Question #: Title Unit Lesson Date: 1 What is the critical question? Given that men and women communicate differently with one another and it is problematic…how can this problem be improved? 2 What are the key terms and explanations? Communication: the act of conveying information to an audience Problematic: “awkward, tricky, challenging, difficult” Perceived gender roles: Women assume a more dominant role in regulating the intimacy between a female and a male.. Women are more sensitive to the interpersonal meanings in the messages they exchange with the opposite gender. They pay more attention to the underlying meanings that may be implied in a statement or a response. Men on the other hand are more direct… they are about “fixing a or offering a solution” to a problem.” Communication, Problematic Perceived roles, Report Talk vs. Rapport Talk, Between the Lines Report Talk: Men typically like to use what some call “report talk” which is convey information and self-importance vs. Rapport Talk: Women use “rapport talk” to establish care, intimacy, and connection. Between the lines: There can be subtle differences in the ways that women and men approach problems. Women sometimes deal with problems (especially emotional concerns) by talking about them, sharing their feelings, and matching experiences with others. This can be frustrating to men, who more typically deal with problems by focusing on the facts and seeking an immediate solution. Occasionally, men perceive women to be ungrateful for the advice and solutions they offer and reach frustration because women don't want to resolve their problems! Similarly, when men offer a solution, rather than talking about a problem, women may feel hurt, dissatisfied, and put-down by the lack of empathy men show. What are the supporting questions and answers? 3 1. How do men and women use communication? Men use communication to relay self importance and worth and to problem-solve. Women use communication to share feelings and establish connections. 2. How the perceived relationship roles of men and women differ? Women feel the responsibility to grow and nurture a relationship. Men feel the responsibility to take care of things… to fix problems within the relationship. An example. Susan: I’m really tired. I have so much work to do--- I don’t know how I’m going to get it done! Bill: Why don’t you take a day off and rest, if you’re so tired. Susan: Thanks a lot! You think my contribution to this household is so trivial that I can do nothing and the difference won’t even be noticed? Bill is trying to focus on the problem and come up with a solution. He is saying, “I think I know something that will help you with this. He thinks he has given her a logical answer to the problem.” Susan, however, is wanting empathy, an appreciation for what she is going through; she hears Bill saying’ “ I don’t want to understand your feelings; I’m different from you and I know what you should do.” 3. What does this miscommunication look like anyway? A first step is awareness. Recognizing that there may be a problem because differences do exist in the way the genders communicate. A second step is not to rush to judgment or read between the lines. Finally, ask questions of the other gender… to see what it is that they really want. 4 What is the main Idea answer? 5 How can we use the main idea again? Can lessons learned here be applied for communicating with other individuals or groups? 6 Is there an Overall Idea? Is there a real-world use? When communication is taking place between two or more parties “reading between the lines” becomes an inexact science…usually we are trying to make it match with our own assumptions, perceptions and understandings…and this is even when the other party may be someone close to you. In your current situation what might you do differently? If you were talking with someone who spoke a foreign language different from your own ( and you did not speak that language) would you not go extra lengths to communicate and understand this person.