Life Positions Our Basic Attitudes

Life Positions I’M NOT OK YOU’RE OK I’M OK YOU’RE NOT OK. I’M NOT OK YOU’RE NOT OK I’M OK YOU’RE OK

Life Positions Ways to Change Your Basic Attitudes 1. Re-evaluating Your Basic Life Position. 2. Using Positive Reinforcement. 3. Managing Your Stamp Collection.

Life Positions Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position TA research indicates you determined your basic life position when you were two to four years old. You determined you were either “OK” or “NOT OK” based on how others around you reacted to you.

Life Positions Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Stroking Stroking… a TA term for recognizing other people. A way of affecting a person’s attitude toward themselves and others.

Life Positions Strokes fulfill the basic human need for personal recognition. Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Stroking can be done word, touch, gesture or positive listening. What kind of strokes do you prefer?

Life Positions What Kind of Strokes Do You Give? Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Negative Strokes Positive Strokes

Life Positions What Kind of Strokes Do You Get? Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement You either collect them or cancel them. This way you are Managing Your TA Stamp Collection This way you are Managing Your TA Stamp Collection.

Life Positions What Kind of Strokes Do You Get What Kind of Strokes Do You Get? Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Using Positive Reinforcement Brown Stamps… stamps are negative strokes. Collecting too many result in “Not OK” feelings. Green Stamps… stamps are positive strokes. Collecting these stamps result in “OK” feelings.

Life Positions Stamp Collecting Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Managing Your Stamp Collection You Should... Brown Stamps. Cancel or immediately redeem Brown Stamps. (some “Not OK” people store brown stamps and redeem them in quantity via heated arguments, fights, take advantage of others, even murder).

Life Positions Stamp Collecting Re-Evaluating Your Basic Life Position Managing Your Stamp Collection You Should... Collect Green Stamps!

Life Positions Can You Take Strokes Gracefully? Clues To Life Positions Not OK Positions turn down compliments of boast about the accomplishment. Those who are OK can accept a compli- ment, return it, and go on to another subject.

Life Positions Can You Give Strokes Gracefully? Clues To Life Positions Ability to give compliments easily. Ability to listen to others. Ability to accept other views. Ability to treat others with respect.

Life Positions Physical Positions Clues To Life Positions Shows confidence or compulsion. Relaxed or tense. Comfortable or ill at ease. Smiling or hard, sold look. Good posture vs slouching.

Life Positions I’m OK I’m Not OK You’re Not OK I’m Not OK Jerk Loser Winner Sulker

Choosing Your Life Position I’M NOT OK YOU’RE OK I’M OK YOU’RE NOT OK. I’M NOT OK YOU’RE NOT OK I’M OK YOU’RE OK

Be A Winner In Life Choose... I’M OK YOU’RE OK!