What to do when bullying occurs

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 Pinellas County Schools Definition  Bullying can be defined as being exposed, REPEATEDLY and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more students (Olweus, 1993).

 Bullying “repeatedly” means someone bullies the same individual over and over.  One-sided means that one person has started the situation and the other did not help start it and wants it to stop. This is different from a conflict where both people are involved in starting and continuing the situation.

 There is always a power differential between the bully and the victim that is acquired through physical size, strength or status.  There is intent to harm; the child who is bullied is put in the position of oppression by the child who bullies.  Finally, bullying is a repeated rather than singular event.

 Direct bullying (face-to-face) involves an open attack to a person or property.  Ex. Pushing someone into a locker or destroying homework  Indirect bullying (behind the back) is more subtle and covert.  Social isolation or exclusion or gossiping

 Per Pinellas County Schools  Verbal bullying Taunting, teasing, name-calling, extortion, and threats.  Physical bullying Harm to a person or property  Sexual harassment Any inappropriate sexual comment, gesture, or behavior including offensive jokes, pictures, and rumors that offend others.  Cyber bullying Using the internet or other digital communication devices to send or post harmful or cruel text or images.

 The Bullied:  Tell your child it’s not their fault Example- “You don’t deserve to be treated this way”  Stay in control. Don’t retaliate by fighting or bullying back because it usually makes things worse.  If they feel safe and confident, they should tell the bully/bullies to stop.  Get support from a trusted adult. Guidance counselor, teacher, parent, office clerk, prevention specialist (me), SRO, principal, assistant principal, ANYBODY!

 Bullying is NOT a normal part of growing up!  It is important to distinguish between what is normal behavior and what is bullying.  Having a different point of view is normal There is an equal balance of power between those involved  Teasing is normal When everyone involved is having fun and there is an equal balance of power.

 They vary depending on the severity of the situation.  Some consequences for the student doing the bullying:  Conference with parent, student, guidance counselor and/or assistant principal Put plans in place for student and to make sure they understand their actions and the consequences.  Change of class schedule  Referral

 Now a few words from our 6 th grade counselor, Ms. Scharmer