Personality in Perspective The Color Code Personality in Perspective

The Color Code Your personality type is driven by only ONE of four Core Motives, represented by the colors: RED (Core Motive = Power, or the ability to move from “a” to “b” as efficiently as possible) BLUE (Core Motive = Intimacy, this doesn’t mean sex, but the need to connect, share feelings, and build relationships with others) WHITE (Core Motive = Peace, or calm even in the midst of conflict; clarity in the midst of confusion) YELLOW (Core Motive = Fun, or always enjoying the moment)

RED-The Power Wielders (Motive: POWER)—These are the power wielders. Power: the ability to move from point A to point B and get things done, is what motivates and drives these people. They bring great gifts of vision and leadership and generally are responsible, decisive, proactive and assertive.

Reds have the most dominant, intimidating personality. Expressing themselves emotionally is uncomfortable and creates the vulnerability they typically avoid.

REDs can be… Active and Productive Visionary Insensitive and Selfish “King of the Jungle” Demanding and Critical Insecure Must Be Right Competitive and Bold Tenacious and Taxing Assertive and Determined Disagreeable Resourceful and Self-Reliant Relentless and Impatient Calculating and Manipulative Lack Intimacy and Orientation

Red Limitations Reds are a myriad of dynamic limitations. They are not subtle and undefined. Reds are easily detected and understood. They can be difficult to live and work with unless they get their own way. They will argue at the drop of a hat. Their selfish nature is a constant reminder to other personalities that Reds will always consider themselves number one. They are often insensitive and arrogant, which creates distance and distrust. Intimacy is, perhaps, their least developed skill. Highly verbal individuals, Reds often criticize and intimidate others. They are particularly guilty of denial (“Who me?”). They are often surprised to find out that others may see them in a negative light, but they see finding fault with others to be an essential part of their daily routine. Always processing a new thought, these often brilliant individuals must be constantly aware of their limitations in order to avoid cutting themselves off from experiencing a quality life.

Red Strengths Healthy Reds are the lifeblood of humanity. They are the movers and shakers of society. They are known for their dominating nature. They are the powerful leaders and responsible delegators. Red personalities can be an asset to any organization. They enjoy competition and challenges. They call easily upon their inner core for self-motivation and direction. They focus on precisely when setting goals and tenaciously assert their rights (and the rights of any organization, person, or cause they value). They value productivity and success, and willingly pay the price for both. They enjoy organizational teamwork as well as individualism. They are constant reminders of the power derived from rational thinking and assertive communication. They are the standard we use to measure our intellectual prowess. They model leadership skills we seek to emulate. “For Reds, winning isn’t everything, it’s the only thing.”

How to Develop a Connection-Do: Present issues logically Demand their attention and respect Do your homework! Be direct, brief, and specific in conversations Be productive and efficient Offer them leadership opportunities Verbalize your feelings Support their decisive nature Promote their intelligent reasoning where appropriate Be prepared with facts and figures Respect their need to make their own decisions their own way.

Don’t: Embarrass them in front of others Argue from an emotional perspective Always use authoritarian approach Use physical punishment Be slow and indecisive Expect a personal and intimate relationship Attack them personally Wait for them to solicit your opinion Demand constant social interaction (allow for time alone)

BLUE-The Do-Gooders (Motive: INTIMACY) –These are the do-gooders. Intimacy: connecting, creating quality relationships and having purpose, is what motivates and drives these people. They bring great gifts of quality and service and are generally loyal, sincere, and thoughtful

Life cannot bestow on anyone a more gratifying reward than the sincere appreciation and trust of a Blue friend, employer, or family member

Blues can be… Emotional and Admired Committed and Loyal Perfectionistic Highly Demanding Self-Disciplined and Stable Self-Sacrificing and Nurturing Unforgiving and Resentful Appropriate and Sincere Purposeful and Dedicated Moody and Complex Self-Righteous and Insecure Worried and Guilty

Blue Limitations Probably the greatest enemy of the Blues is themselves. Their self-righteous attitudes are merely cover for deep insecurity. They are often too emotional and judgmental to enjoy intimacy. They continually depress themselves and others with unrealistic expectations of perfections. Lacking trust, they find themselves skeptical and suspicious of others. Blues often find themselves bitter, resentful, and unforgiving of those who have crossed them in life. Overwhelming guilt and worry continue to drive them inward, seeking solace from the only one who truly understands them—themselves. Blues are hard to please and tense about schedules. They are moody and find leadership a difficult dilemma. Blues aren’t generally playful or spontaneous. In anger, they are the personality most likely to believe “Life’s a bitch and you die”. They often fail to see the positive side to life. Blues become angry when others find them to be irrational and emotionally rigid in relationships.

Blue Strengths Blues are steady, ordered, and enduring. They offer culture, beauty, and emotional security. Blues love with passion. They see intimate relationships and creative accomplishments rather than material possessions as the finer things in life. They bring culture and decency to home and society. They appreciate uplifting experiences and feel most comfortable in creative and productive environments. They want a sense of purpose in their lives, and willingly sacrifice personal luxuries for more meaningful accomplishments. They are highly committed individuals. Loyalty to people and sincerity in relationships are their trademarks. They believe in all causes that bring a higher quality to the human experience.

Blue Strengths Continued They listen with endearing empathy and speak with emotional zeal. Blues truly value their connections to people and enjoy the accomplishments of others. With perfection as their guide they strive to be the best they can be. They expect the same in others. Obediently, they accept the need for authority, and put their energy behind law and order. They are essentially the glue that binds society together. “Leave me alone, I’m having a crisis”

How to Develop a Connection- Do: Emphasize their security in the relationship Be sensitive and soft-spoken in your approach Be sincere and genuine Behave appropriately and well mannered Limit their risk level Promote their creativity Appreciate them Allow ample time for them to gather their thoughts before expressing themselves Be loyal Do thorough analysis before making presentations

Don’t Make them feel guilty Be rude or abrupt Promote too much change Expect spontaneity Abandon them Expect them to bounce back easily or quickly from depression Demand perfection (they already expect too much from themselves) Push them too quickly into making decisions Expect them to forgive quickly when crossed Demand immediate action or quick verbal bantering

WHITE-The Peacekeepers (Motive: PEACE)-These are the peacekeepers. Peace: the ability to stay calm and balanced even in the midst of conflict, is what motivates and drives these people. They bring great gifts of clarity and tolerance and are generally kind, adaptable, and good-listeners.

Whites offer us all a model for gentle human dignity.

Whites can be… Peaceful and Diplomatic Insecure and Nonassertive Doubtful and Dependent Tolerant and Patient Impressionable Withholds Feelings Blendable and Kind Gentle and Even-Tempered Unproductive Dreamers Unmotivated Accepting Boring and Lazy Timid and Emotionally Insecure Aimless and Misguided Indecisive Silent and Stubborn

White Limitations Whites often seem boring and uninvolved. They are often unwilling to set goals. They frequently refuse to pay the price of involvement because they may fear the inevitable consequences of confrontation or rejection. This fear keeps them from experiencing intimacy. Their indecision limits their accomplishments. In order to feel secure, Whites pay great attention to the needs of others and strive at all costs to please those they encounter in life. They express themselves reluctantly, preferring to let others believe as they will. Meanwhile, the Whites go about their lives as they choose, avoiding conflict and confrontations. Whites silently accept whatever comes their way. What they don’t value, they stubbornly discard at the time. They often do not allow those desirable experiences that require the effort of risk, leadership and honest expression into their lives.

White Strengths Whites are the satisfied ones. They are contented and agreeable individuals who easily accommodate others through life. They complement every personality regardless of differences in style. Their gentle nature and diplomacy wins them many loyal friends. Their agreeable and peaceful dispositions make them an asset to any family, friendship, or business that is fortunate enough to include them. Whites are typically moderate people without the extremes of other personalities. Their leadership is solid and fair. They tolerate differences and encourage camaraderie with all the team members. The chameleon is their mascot and reflects their ability to adapt and blend with everyone. They enjoy the enviable strength of balance. They are receptive to every personality and willingly learn from all of them. Whites are most effective at putting life’s crises in proper perspective. Satisfied and even-tempered, they ask little of life. They often enjoy the protection of stronger personalities. Patient and tolerant, they have much to give. And give they do, with gentle approval for those fortunate enough to experience their accepting embrace.

How to Develop a Connection-Do: Be kind Be logical, clear, and firm about the content you present Provide a structure (boundaries) for them to operate in Be patient and gentle Introduce options and ideas for their involvement Be simple and open Acknowledge and accept their individuality Be casual, informal, and relaxed in presentation style Listen quietly

Don’t: Be cruel or insensitive Expect them to need much social interaction Force immediate verbal expression; accept written communication Be domineering or too intense Demand conformity to unrealistic expectations/behaviors Overwhelm them with too much at once Force confrontation Speak too fast Take away all their daydreams Demand Leadership

YELLOW-The Fun Lovers Yellow(Motive: FUN)-These are the fun lovers, Fun: the joy of living life “in the moment”, is what motivates and drives these people. They bring great gifts of enthusiasm and optimism and are generally charismatic, spontaneous, and sociable.

Happy is as happy does. Yellow people love themselves because they know exactly what they love to do and always find the time and resources to do it.

Yellows can be… Happy and Fun Self-Centered and Uncommitted Irresponsible Enthusiastic and Carefree Playful and Exciting Superficial Disorganized and Incomplete Impulsive and Undisciplined Flippant Chatterbox Naïve and Trusting Charismatic and Popular

Yellow Limitations Yellows have little regard for the property of others. They are sloppy and messy individuals who keep themselves clean and polished while their homes often suffer from neglect. They want to look particularly good to the world, and when social praise is a consideration, they are quick to comply with society’s standards. Otherwise, housekeeping may require too much effort. They are disorganized in their environments and personal thoughts. Rather than focusing on real issues and important events, Yellows putter with minor concerns and irrelevant activity. They have a difficult time committing to anything that takes priority over playtime, and consequently often find themselves in superficial and empty relationships as well as being somewhat superficial and empty themselves once they are in a relationship.

Yellow Strengths Despite their struggle with self-discipline and commitment, Yellows are eager to experience all facets of life. They naively call for the spotlight to be focused on them as thought they were always center stage. Yellows are our constant reminder that you are as young as you feel. They remain youthful in their attitudes toward new ideas, change relationships, occupations, and the future. Yellows carry that child like quality of hope that inspires others to appreciate and value themselves as well as the wonder world in which they live. Yellows promote good in others and willingly ignore their limitations. They are the social glue of society. Yellows express themselves candidly and genuinely. They give playful attention to living and inspire others to do the same. The freely offer their opinions as well as themselves, often spreading a contagious spirit of friendship wherever they go.

How to Develop a Connection-Do: Be positive and proactive with them in your life Adore and praise them legitimately Touch them physically Accept their playful teasing Remember they are more sensitive than they appear Value their social interaction skills and people connections Remember they hold feelings deeply Promote creative and fun activities for and with them Enjoy their charismatic innocence Allow them opportunity for verbal expression

Don’t: Be too serious or sober in criticism Push them too intensely Ignore them Forget they have “down” time also Demand perfection Expect them to dwell on problems Give them too much rope, or they may hang themselves Classify them as just lightweight social butterflies Attach their sensitivity or be unforgiving Totally control their schedules or consume their time