Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life On Course Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life Chapter 4 Mastering Self-Management

CHOICES OF SUCCESSFUL STUDENTS MASTERING SELF-MANAGEMENT

REVIEW What is the formula for motivation? V x E = M Who is responsible for my motivation? I am What are the five qualities of an effective goal? Dated Achievable Personal Positive Specific “Relax, use present tense, use all five senses and feel the feelings” are keys to what?” Effective Visualization

REVIEW: IDENTIFYING VICTIM & CREATOR STATEMENTS I didn't study enough for this quiz; I'm going to spend thirty minutes every evening reviewing my notes. It’s not my fault I’m late. My stupid alarm clock didn't work again. That's three times this week!! Boy, that parking lot sure is crowded. I'm going to start getting here fifteen minutes early. I can't believe my sister didn't wash my clothes last night; I didn't have anything to wear today. I am so stupid. I flunked another math test. I wish math was as easy for me as it is for Kamika. I didn't get the promotion. I'm going to make an appointment with my manager and get her ideas on how to improve my chances for next time.

CASE STUDY IN CRITICAL THINKING: THE PROCRASTINATORS What evidence do you see of “Victim thinking” in the case study? What self-defeating choices are Tracy and Ricardo making? Dive Deeper: Which person's situation, Ricardo's or Tracy's, is more like yours? Explain the similarities and identify what you do to keep up with all of the tasks you need to complete.

Focus Questions ACTING ON PURPOSE Have you ever noticed how much highly successful people accomplish? How do they make such effective use of their time? Consider asking students to spend two minutes jotting down their initial answers to these questions.

JOURNAL ENTRY 12: WARM UP Make a list of at least ten things you did yesterday. On a scale of 1-10 (10 high), rate each item as to how important it was to your goals and dreams. Next, rate each item on a scale of 1-10 as to how urgent it was to do that day. Were there any things you listed that might actually be interfering with achieving your desired outcomes and experiences?

QUADRANT II TIME MANAGEMENT Urgent Not Urgent Quadrant IV Quadrant III Quadrant II Quadrant I Important Starting research for a 10-page history term paper the night before it is due Creating a detailed study plan for the two weeks before final exams Not Important Letting friends talk you into driving them to a late-night pizza party when you are 90 pages behind in biology. Spending three hours on Facebook when you have a major math test in two days

Four actions will appear, one at a time Four actions will appear, one at a time. For each one, decide which quadrant it best fits.

QUADRANT II TIME MANAGEMENT Urgent Not Urgent Quadrant I Quadrant II Important Spending three hours taking a friend to the mall so she can buy a new Blackberry Staying up all night to cram for a test the next day Studying every night so you'll always be ready for quizzes Staying up till three a.m. playing video games Quadrant III Quadrant IV Not Important

APPLYING THE CONCEPT Why is spending a lot of time in Quadrants III and IV self-sabotaging? The Unimportant actions in these quadrants don’t contribute to the achievement of your goals and dreams. Which Quadrant is most likely to produce maximum stress with minimum positive returns? III (urgent but not important) What advantages are offered by choosing to spend time in Quadrant II? Consistent movement toward goals, less stress, greater satisfaction & sense of control

JOURNAL ENTRY 12: DIVING DEEPER 1. Pair up! 2. Student A: Read Journal Entry 12, Step 4 only, to Student B. 3. Student B: "What I hear you saying is...." Then, "A question I have is...." 4. Reverse roles and repeat Steps 2 and 3. 5. Continue discussing what you have both learned about making wise choices regarding your use of time.

ONE STUDENT'S STORY: Jason Pozsgay Jason Pozsgay says his greatest self-management challenge in college was “distractions.” What is your greatest self-management challenge? What do you think was the most important choice(s) Jason made to overcome his self-management challenge? Please explain. What choice(s) could you make to overcome your greatest self-management challenge? Please explain.

CREATING A SELF-MANAGEMENT SYSTEM Focus Question How can you devote more time to creating the outcomes and experiences that matter most to you? Consider asking students to spend two minutes jotting down their initial answer to this question.

JOURNAL ENTRY 13: WARM-UP 1. Divide into three groups. Each group take responsibility for one of these self-management tools: Calendar, Tracking Form, and Next Actions List. 2. Re-read the description of the tool. 3. Each group, do a PMI-Q: P = Plus (Identify Pluses about the tool) M = Minus (Identify Minuses about the tool) I = Interesting (Identify what’s Interesting to you about the tool) Q = Question (Identify Questions do you have about the tool) 4. Each group, report your PMI-Q findings.

REVIEW: SELF-MANAGEMENT TOOLS MATCH EACH TOOL TO ITS DESCRIPTION Provides a list of important actions that need to be done numerous times to achieve a goal. Provides a list of important actions that need to be done as soon as possible. Provides a list of important actions that can be done only at a particular time. Monthly Calendar Tracking Forms Next Actions List

ONE STUDENT'S STORY: Allysa LePage Effective self-management involves prioritizing and sometimes letting go of less important things, if only for a while. What did Allysa choose to let go of? Is there something in your life that you could let go of (if only for a while) to free time to accomplish something more important?

DEVELOPING SELF-DISCIPLINE Focus Questions Do you find yourself procrastinating, even on projects that mean a great deal to you? How can you keep taking important, purposeful actions even when you don’t feel like it? Consider asking students to spend two minutes jotting down their initial answers to these questions.

DEVELOPING SELF-DISCIPLINE What question can you ask yourself to strengthen focus? What are my goals and dreams? What question can you ask yourself to enhance persistence? Do I love myself enough to keep going?

ONE STUDENT'S STORY: Holt Boggs What do you think was the most important choice that Holt made? Be prepared to explain. Think about a time when you made a commitment to a positive change. What was the commitment, and what were your outcomes and experiences?

SELF-MANAGEMENT AT WORK What actions could you take while you are in college that would look great on your resume?

BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: DEVELOP SELF-CONFIDENCE FOCUS QUESTIONS In which life roles do you feel most self-confident? In which do you experience self-doubt? What can you do to increase your overall self-confidence? Consider asking students to spend two minutes jotting down their initial answers to these questions. 22

BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: DEVELOP SELF-CONFIDENCE Which of the following is already a strength of yours? Which one most needs strengthening? Creating a Success Identity Celebrating Your Successes and Talents Visualizing Purposeful Actions

EMBRACING CHANGE Choose one of the nine beliefs or behaviors from the list in the Embracing Change activity. For five minutes, write about how you will use this new belief or behavior and the positive changes you think will result. Exchange papers with another student. Read your partner’s paper and then write one thoughtful question. The goal of the question is to encourage your partner to dive deeper. Return papers. For five minutes, write a thoughtful response to your partner’s thoughtful question.

WISE CHOICES IN COLLEGE: ORGANIZING STUDY MATERIALS Review What are the three principles of deep and lasting learning? Prior Learning Quality of Processing Quantity of Processing

WISE CHOICES IN COLLEGE: ORGANIZING STUDY MATERIALS Review What are the components of the CORE Learning System? Collecting Organizing Rehearsing Evaluating

WISE CHOICES IN COLLEGE: ORGANIZING STUDY MATERIALS Draw a sketch or write a description of your ideal study space. Be sure to include the five key points from the section “Before Organizing Study Materials.” Which of the tips in “While Organizing Study Materials” do you already use? Which of the others seem most likely to help you improve your studying effectiveness? Which ones will you commit to using? Point out that drawing or describing an “ideal study space” is an application of visualizing.

KEY CHOICES FOR MASTERING SELF-MANAGEMENT Developing Self- Discipline Employing Self-Management Tools Acting On Purpose

TICKET OUT What challenges have you had in the past with mastering self-management? How will this chapter help you? Have students show you their answers in their journals or have them write their responses on a small note card and hand those to you at the door. 29

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