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Dr Fred Peipman, PhD Clinical Therapist Open Sky: Parenting Best Practices: A Clinician’s Perspective

Expect, but don’t accept deception Expect, but don’t accept deception Don’t Act So Shocked (even if you are) Don’t Act So Shocked (even if you are) Trust is a process, not an outcome Trust is a process, not an outcome Don’t be a therapist Don’t be a therapist Avoid the blame game Avoid the blame game Your child is not your BFF Your child is not your BFF Don’ts

Ask the right questions Ask the right questions Build up to the big stuff Build up to the big stuff Set clear expectations Set clear expectations Accept responsibility without losing your power Accept responsibility without losing your power Listen more, talk less (or speak less, say more) Listen more, talk less (or speak less, say more) Set limits and boundaries with consequences you can enforce Set limits and boundaries with consequences you can enforce Confusion is perfectly normal! Confusion is perfectly normal! Dos

If you go looking for dirt, you will inevitably find it. If you go looking for dirt, you will inevitably find it. They won’t like you sometimes (breathe, you’ll survive it) They won’t like you sometimes (breathe, you’ll survive it) Be Consistent…Even when you’re tired…or when they are acting like angels…or they have been brainwashed by their peers…or if they are absolutely horrible Be Consistent…Even when you’re tired…or when they are acting like angels…or they have been brainwashed by their peers…or if they are absolutely horrible What’s under the carpet?

Homework! Be proactive, not passive Be proactive, not passive Learn about the teen trends Learn about the teen trends Try to get to know their friends' parents Try to get to know their friends' parents Get to know their friends before blaming them for your child's misbehavior Get to know their friends before blaming them for your child's misbehavior

"You are too sensitive" “Just ignore them” “Because I said so” “Your brother got straight A's in that class” “Why would you do something like that”? (or “what were you thinking?”

Be real and direct!Authenticity Clear Boundaries Listen without judgment Confident Compassion Humor Best Practices

Finding Contentment “Good judgment comes from bad experiences”- Dr. Wendy Mogel Instill confidence and self-efficacy Avoid excess Teach children to commit to something and let go of another Reciprocal feedback

Thank You! Fred Peipman, PhD Clinical Therapist Clinical Therapist