WHY PEOPLE MARRY

TRAPPED Feel trapped by pregnancy, promises, or engagement

ESCAPE Marry to get out of the house or escape from any other bad situation. (The person usually escapes to a worse situation)

OBLIGATION Feel like you must marry because of sexual activity.

STATUS CHANGE Might be moving or going off to college or graduation and decide it is time to marry.

SET VARIABLE Find the person that you believe is the right person and decide to marry.

PITY Pity and love are two close emotions and some people cannot distinguish between the two.

LOVE A vital emotion in marriage.

PRESSURE Getting older and fear not getting married.

COMPANIONSHIP The need for companionship is different for all people.

MONEY May feel financially stable or may be looking for someone to provide financial stability.

FAMILY Want to have a spouse and children.

COMMON HISTORY Have dated so long that the next step is to get married.

MISTAKES IN MATE SELECTION 1. Decision to marry is made too quickly 2. Marriage is at too early an age. 3. One or both are too eager to get married. 4. One or both partners are marrying to please someone else.

5. Experience phase too narrow. Never dated other people/other types of people. 6. People don't have realistic expectations of marriage. 7. Un-addressed significant personality or behavioral problems