Dealing with Difficult Situations: Assertive Techniques for Conflict Resolution, Part I Dennis White D 6220 dkwhite@itol.com.

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Dealing with Difficult Situations: Assertive Techniques for Conflict Resolution, Part I Dennis White D 6220 dkwhite@itol.com

What factors influence success or failure? In RYE Florida studying Resiliency Resilience is the ability to adapt well and recover quickly after stress or adversity. If you have a resilient personality, you are better able to maintain poise and a healthy level of physical and psychological wellness in the face of life's challenges.

How do we prepare students? Cultural Awareness Area Studies Language Goals – of YE, personal goals Chain of Contacts/Support ?

Possible Conflicts Host Parents Host Siblings School – teachers/administration Classmates Criticism of your native country Peer Pressure

Possible Hot Topics Health care Sex and pregnancy Environmental & energy policies World policeman Intolerance of other religious views Failure to support democratic movements Inept education system World Debt Capitalism Can allies trust US? Poverty Drugs Unfair use of world’s resources Drone attacks Nuclear weapons NSA monitoring emails, social media, & phones American popular culture Islamic terrorism Social unrest movements Death penalty

Dysfunctional Example 1 Critic: You Americans seem to think that you can solve every problem in the world by throwing money at it. Student: Well at least we don’t have people living in cardboard shacks.

Dysfunctional Example 2 Critic: You Americans are only 4.5% of the world’s population, but you consume 26% of the world’s energy. Student: You’re just jealous of what we have.

Dysfunctional Example 3 Critic: Why does your government say it is on the side of democracy, but always seems to side with established dictatorships when an uprising happened? Student: Well, your government doesn’t do much to protect religious minorities in your country.

Dysfunctional Example 4 Host Parent Critic: We really didn’t want to host an exchange student – but we were required to Student: Bursts into tears

Techniques from Assertiveness Training Active Listening Negative Assertion Fogging “I” Messages Broken Record Bonus – Asking Questions

Active Listening Active Listening is a technique that allows you to respond to the content and emotion of what the other person is saying, without agreeing or disagreeing. It puts the focus on acknowledging the point of view of the other person, which if done effectively, often neutralizes the criticism and creates a more meaningful dialogue.

Positive Approach—Active Listening Critic: You Americans seem to think that you can solve every problem in the world by throwing money at it. Student: You feel like we try to solve all the world’s problems with money.

Negative Assertion Negative Assertion is a technique used when you are (or our country is) being criticized, AND YOU AGREE WITH THE CRITICISM. Instead of the frequent habit people have of offering explanations or excuses, even when they agree with the criticism, it is easier, faster, and requires much less energy to simply agree.

Positive Approach—Negative Assertion Critic: You Americans are only 4.5% of the world’s population, but you consume 26% of the world’s energy. Student: I agree. We use an awful lot of resources, and that really doesn’t seem fair, does it?

Fogging Fogging is another assertiveness technique that allows you to acknowledge the possible truth, or opinion of the other person, while maintaining a separate position of your own. It is similar to active listening, and the first part of a fogging response is very close to active listening. But the second part, maintaining a separate opinion, is in addition to active listening.

Positive Approach--Fogging Critic: You Americans think every Muslim is a terrorist. You even have pilots who refuse to fly if Muslim clergy are aboard. Student: It may be that some Americans stereotype all Muslims as terrorists, but I know we are frightened of terrorism so much that sometimes we are irrational about it.

“I” Messages “I” Messages are very powerful statements of thoughts, feelings, opinions, likes and dislikes. When feelings are negative, “I” Messages evoke much less defensive reactions in the other person that typical “You” Messages. Examples are “I feel guilty intruding in your family when you don’t really want me here.” vs. You make me feel guilty being here.”

Positive Approach “I” Message Host Parent Critic – “We really didn’t want to host an exchange student – but we were required to.” Student: (active listening) “It must be very frustrating having a stranger in your house that you didn’t really want”. (“I” message) “I feel really bad about that. I want to be the best exchange student I can in your house.”

Broken Record Broken Record is the calm, but firm repetition of a simple message, usually “No” or “No thank you”. It is very effective when refusing a request or pressure to do something one doesn’t want to do

Bonus Positive Approach— Ask questions! Critic: How can you criticize France’s immigration policy on the Roma when you arrest and deport peaceful Mexican whose only crime is to cross the border to get jobs in the US? Student: I don’t know about the Roma. Can you tell me more about them? Student: What is France’s immigration policy?

Role Playing Role playing is an experiential learning technique that can help people practice real-life situations without the risks of real-life consequences if things don’t go well. In role playing there can be no mistakes – just re-takes. The role players can stop any time, rewind, and “do over”. Role players can pause, re-group, ask for suggestions or try several different versions of what they want to say. The goal is to find comfortable, assertive, effective ways to communicate in difficult situations.

Role Playing Preparation 1. How do I feel about the situation and/or what is my opinion? What is (or are) my goal (s) in this situation? What can I say or do to bring about the goal (s)? Can be done in a variety of practice methods

Respond in way that encourages dialog and discussion rather than debate

Not all conflicts can be resolved successfully Not all conflicts can be resolved successfully. But these techniques can help us figure out if the other person is: • Really interested in your answer • Knowledgeable about the topic or is repeating an inaccurate stereotype • Just wants to get you mad

Handout and Powerpoint on Dropbox Article on www. yeoresources Handout and Powerpoint on Dropbox Article on www.yeoresources.org at Dealing With Difficult Situations.doc  On the NAYEN Conference Web Site Or, email Dennis at dkwhite@itol.com