Presented by: April Schneeman Special Education Teacher Pontiac Township High School

Question #1  Do you ever feel it's like pulling teeth to get your students to follow your directions?  Love and Logic has some ideas for getting your students to complete assigned and expected tasks.

Question #2  Do your students ever argue or talk back?  Love and Logic has some simple tricks that can make you a black-belt in the art of out-arguing even the most challenging kid.

Question #3  Are you ready for some practical ideas for helping teach kids responsibility while making them feel great about themselves?

The Two Rules of Love and Logic  RULE #1  Adults set firm limits in loving ways without anger, lecture, or threats.

The Two Rules of Love and Logic  RULE #2  When a child causes a problem the adult hands it back in loving ways.

What do the rules mean?  1. In a loving way, the adult holds the child accountable for solving his/her problems in a way that does not make a problem for others.  2. Children are offered choices with limits.  3. Adults use enforceable statements.  4. Adults provide delayed/extended consequences.  5. The adult’s empathy is “locked in” before consequences are delivered.

Hold on! Let’s pause to reflect before we move ahead.  Classroom Stories Classroom Stories  Turn to the person next to you and discuss how this applied to the Two Rules of Love and Logic. Take about five minutes to do this, and then I'll ask you what you've come up with.

The Two Rules of Love and Logic  RULE #1 Adults set firm limits in loving ways without anger, lecture, or threats.  RULE #2 When a child causes a problem the adult hands it back in loving ways.  5:00 to Discuss 5:00

Delayed Consequences  Why Should you delay their consequence? It is difficult to think of an enforceable and immediate consequence in the heat of the moment. We “own” the problem rather than handing it back to our child. We are forced to react while we are still upset. We don’t have time to anticipate how our child will react to our response. We don’t have time to put together a reasonable plan and a support team to help us carry it out. We often end up making threats we can’t back up. We generally fail to deliver a strong dose of empathy before providing the consequence.

But… But… But… Mrs. Schneeman! DDo your students ever try to avoid consequences by arguing or manipulating? DDo you ever find yourself spending too much time on this? TTry the new and improved method to prevent arguing called…

Shutting off your brain!  Neutralize arguing by shutting off your brain. It has 3 easy steps! 1. Use a one-liner 2. Delay the consequence 3. Repeat

Tips for shutting off your brain AAvoiding anger and sarcasm while using this technique UUse a one-liner (Pick a couple phrases that feel natural – You don’t want this to feel fake). “Oh, no. I bet that feels terrible.” “Wow. What a bummer.” “I can’t imagine how bad that feels.” FFollow it up by delaying the consequence. “This is so sad. I’m going to have to do something about this! But not now...later.” “I’m feeling frustrated right now. I am going to stop and think about this for a while before I talk with you about it. I make better decisions when I have time to think.” RRepeat

Give Yourself a Break!  Delayed Consequences allow you Time to “anticipate” whose support you might need How your student might react To make sure that you can actually follow through with a logical consequence

Let Them Own Their Mistakes  Accountability  Delayed consequences allow your student to “anticipate” or think about a wide array of possible consequences.  Remember, the consequences they are dreaming up are probably a lot worse than what you thought of, so let them think.

End The Argument Cycle  Follow the rules  RULE #1 Adults set firm limits in loving ways without anger, lecture, or threats.  RULE #2 When a child causes a problem the adult hands it back in loving ways.

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