The Seven Habits

HABITS CHARACTER Knowledge Skill Desire CHARACTER the composite of our habits who we are “in the dark” who we are “when no one is watching” HABITS The intersection of knowledge, skill and desire Knowledge – what to do, why to do it Skill – how to do it Desire – want to do it Example: STUDYING Knowing I need to study and how to listen is not enough…unless I want to listen

PARADIGMS Paradigms of Self Paradigms of Others Paradigm Shifts Often caused by crisis Experience most easily when we are open-minded and willing to risk We affect other people through the paradigms we hold of them Our paradigms may cause problems we blame on others “If you’ll look closely, you’ll find that most of your problems (with relationships, self-image, attitude) are the result of a messed-up paradigm or two.” PARADIGM The way you see something (Covey Jr. p 13) Your point of view, frame of reference, or belief The source from which your attitudes and behaviors flow INCOMPLETE PARADIGMS When your paradigm is incomplete – like wearing wrong glasses with the wrong prescription That lens affects how you see everything else Result = what you see is what you get (If you believe you’re dumb, that very belief will make you dumb) We don’t know how much we’re missing because we have messed up paradigms PARADIGMS OF SELF Reflection Questions What is your paradigm of self Is your paradigm of self helping you or hindering you? In what ways? Negative self-paradigms can put limitations on us Positive self-paradigms can bring out the best in us PARADIGMS OF OTHERS Seeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why other people act the way they do. PARADIGM SHIFTS Often caused by crisis Experience most easily when we are open-minded and willing to risk We affect other people through the paradigms we hold of them Our paradigms may cause problems we blame on others

THE MATURITY CONTINUUM Dependence Independence Interdependence DEPENDENCE – paradigm of you You take care of me You come through for me You didn’t come through then I blame you for the results Need others to get what they want INDEPENDENCE – paradigm of I I can do it I am responsible I am self-reliant I can choose Can get what they want through own effort INTERDEPENDENT – paradigm of we We can do it We can cooperate We can combine our talents and create something greater together Combine talents with others to achieve greater success THE MATURITY CONTINUUM The move from dependence to independence to interdependence See page 50-51 of Overview Handout

INTERDEPENDENCE Sharpen the Saw 7 INDEPENDENCE DEPENDENCE Seek first to understand then to be understood Synergize Public Victory 6 5 Think Win-Win 4 INDEPENDENCE 3 3 HABIT 1 – BE PROACTIVE I am the force Based on self-awareness HABIT 2 – BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Control your own destiny or someone else will PRIVATE Based on imagination VICTORY HABIT 3 – PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Will and won’t power Based on independent will and conscience Put First Things First Private Victory 2 2 1 Begin with the end in mind Be Proactive DEPENDENCE

At the Center Boyfriend/Girlfriend Centered School Centered What is your center? Boyfriend/Girlfriend Centered School Centered Sports/Hobbies Centered Self Centered Friend Centered AT THE CENTER – What is your center? The driving force of your life Whatever is at the center of your life will be the source of your.. Security Guidance Wisdom Power Money Centered Stuff Centered Parent Centerd

PRINCIPLE CENTERED What does it mean to be principle centered? What is the problem with fluctuating from center to center? Honesty, service, love, hard work, respect, gratitude, moderation, fairness, integrity, loyalty responsibility No consistent sense of direction: security, guidance, wisdom, power PRINCIPLE CENTERED Honesty, Service, Love, Hard work, Respect, Gratitude, Moderation, Fairness, Integrity Loyalty, Responsibility THE FOUR LIFE-SUPPORT FACTORS Centering our lives on correct principles, we create a solid foundation for development of the four life-support factors Security – comes from knowing correct principles do not change, unlike centers on people and things Wisdom that accompany principle-centered living come from Guidance correct maps, from the way things really are, have been and will be. Correct maps enable us to clearly see where we want to get and how to get there Power – that comes from principle-centered living is the power of a self-aware, knowledgeable, proactive individual, unrestricted by attitudes, behaviors, and actions of others or by many of the circumstances and environmental influences that limit other people The only real limit of power is the natural consequences of the principles themselves. CONSEQUENCES OF PRINCIPLES Positive consequences when we live in harmony with them Negative consequences when we don’t live in harmony with them WHAT IS THE PROBLEM WITH FLUCTUATING FROM ONE CENTER TO ANOTHER?

PRINCIPLE CENTERED school sports hobbies work parent PRINCIPLES boyfriendgirlfriend PRINCIPLES PRINCIPLES stuff self friend money

Advantages to Being Principle-Centered 1) Stand apart from the emotion of the situation 2) Stand apart from factors that would act on you 3) Evaluate the options instead (look at the balanced whole) 4) Not being acted upon (by other people or circumstances) You proactively determine best alternative Make decision consciously and knowledgeably 5) Know decision is most effective because based on principles with predictable long-term results 6) Your choice contributes to your ultimate values in life 7) Because you are independent you can be effectively interdependent BEING A PRINCIPLE-CENTERED PERSON Stand apart from the emotion of the situation Stand apart from factors that would act on you Evaluate the options instead (look at the balanced whole) DIFFERENCES IN PRINCIPLE-CENTERED PARADIGM (see example on “Centers” hand out on page 126-127) 1) Not being acted upon (by other people or circumstances) You proactively determine best alternative Make decision consciously and knowledgeably 2) Know decision is most effective because based on principles with predictable long-term results 3) Your choice contributes to your ultimate values in life 4) Because you are independent you can be effectively interdependent 5) You will feel comfortable about your decision PRINCIPLE-CENTERED PERSON SEES THINGS DIFFERENTLY (HAND OUT P 128)

"We have met the enemy and he is us" Inside-Out "We have met the enemy and he is us"

Inside Out Starting With The Person In The Mirror Private Victories vs. Public Victories INTERDEPENDENCE Seek first to understand then to be understood Synergize Public Victory 6 Sharpen the Saw 7 5 Think Win-Win 4 INDEPENDENCE INSIDE OUT What does it mean? A continual process of renewal based on the natural laws that govern human growth and progress An upward spiral of growth that leads to progressively higher forms of responsible independence and effective interdependence WE HAVE MET THE ENEMY AND HE IS US.” What does this quote mean to you? PRIVATE VICTORIES VS. PUBLIC VICTORIES Private victories come before public victories We have to work on ourselves before we can…..?????????? 3 3 Put First Things First Private Victory 2 2 1 Begin with the end in mind Be Proactive DEPENDENCE

CHARACTER ETHIC PERSONALITY ETHIC What does it teach/What is it based on? PERSONALITY ETHIC What is it based on? CHARACTER ETHIC Teaches There are basic principles of effective living (foundation of success) People can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and integrate these principles into their basic character Based On Principles (integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty, the Golden Rule) PERSONALITY ETHIC WHAT IS IT BASED ON? Public image Attitudes Behaviors Skills Techniques that lubricate the processes of human interaction PRO’S & CON’S OF THE PERSONALITY ETHIC Can be inspiring Can be manipulative

Primary & Secondary Greatness Personality vs. Character PRIMARY GREATNESS VS. SECONDARY GREATNESS Secondary traits: Personality Ethic traits Communication skills & techniques Public image Primary traits: Character Ethic traits Integrity, etc… See pages 21-22 of Inside-Out hand out

“The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”

Becoming Self Aware DISCUSSION Article entitled Becoming Self-Aware by Scott Peck Article entitled Can We Really Change

What Makes Us Tick? Idea: People highly formed at birth Hippocrates (370BC) Galen (190AD) Idea: People born without predispositions Pavlov (Early 20th century) Idea: People have single, basic motive Freud (Turn of century) Idea: People different in essential ways Jung (1920) Myers & Briggs (1962)

Myers-Briggs

Extraversion vs. Introversion Where do you prefer to focus your attention? Social Wide expanse, freedom from narrow concentration External Interaction Multiplicity of relationships Expenditure of energy Interest in external happenings Introversion Territorial Finds the notion of depth attractive Internal Concentration Limited relationships Conservation of energy Interest in internal reactions Extraversion Focus on outer world (need for sociability) People External environment Energized by outer world (people) Direct own energy to outer world Communication preference: talking vs. writing Need to experience world to understand it (like action) Experience loneliness when not in contact w/others Introversion Focus on inner world Energized by inner world Direct energy to inner world Like most of their work/activity to take place inside their head Like to understand world before experiencing it Often think about what they’re doing before acting Territorial (desire space – in mind and environmentally) Solitary activities charge the batteries Experience sense of loneliness in a crowd (especially strangers)

Sensing vs. Intuition How do you acquire information? Use senses Realistic & Practical Facts Experience Intuition Big Picture Imagination & Inspiration Innovative Future Lives in anticipation SENSING Use senses to determine what’s happening inside & outside of self Eyes, ears tell you what is actually there and actually happening Accept and work w/ what is “given” in here and now Thus becomes realistic and practical Wants facts, remembers facts, trusts facts Believes in experience & knows from experience Values experience and wisdom of the past Grounded firmly in reality

INTUITION Describe self as innovative Value hunches Finds appeal in metaphor and vivid imagery Often daydreams, reads poetry, enjoys fantasy and fiction The possible is always in front of him, pulling on his imagination Future holds an attraction that the past and actual do not Speculative Can be subject to great error about facts Life is around the bend Speculates about the possibilities Lives in anticipation Can skip from activity to activity, perhaps completing none

Thinking vs. Feeling How do you make decisions? Objective/Analyze Choices based on logic Argumentation Impersonal basis of choice Feeling Person-Centered Values Choices based on personal impact Persuasive Personal basis of choice THINKING Objective/Analyze Decide objectively on basis of cause and effect Make decisions by analyzing and weighing the evidence Logic Predicts the logical consequences of any particular choice or action Argumentation Gives priority to objective criteria and is apt to be good at argumentation, attempting to win people over to their point of view through logic Impersonal Basis of Choice Emotions not visible Choices made on logic rather than making decisions based on people’s feelings Can be seen as cold and unemotional Justice Categories Standards Critique Analysis Allocation

FEELING Person-Centered Values Considers what is important to you or others without requiring that it be logical Decides on the basis of person-centered values Choices Based on Personal Impact Ask: how much you care, how much personal investment you have for each of the alternatives Makes choices based on personal impact of people around them Persuasive Tends to be good at persuasion Personal Basis of Choice Are more personal when dealing with people and projects Humane Harmony Good or bad Appreciate Sympathy devotion

Judging vs. Perceiving How do you orient toward the outer world? Do you prefer closure and the settling of things or do you prefer to keep options open and fluid? Judging Structured/Organized Work Ethic Make decisions/closure Outcome oriented Perceiving Flexible/Spontaneous Gather information Keep options open Process oriented JUDGING (Values Closure) Structured/Organized Live in a planned, orderly way Want to regulate life & control it Work Ethic Work comes before all else Work must be done before one rests or plays Will do preparation, maintenance, clean up because necessary Make Decisions/Closure Establish deadlines & take them seriously & expect others to as well Deadlines will be realistic (not padded) Closure Get the show on the road Settled Decided Plan ahead

PERCEIVING (Values open-endedness) Flexible/Spontaneous Adapt to the moment Gather Information Seek to understand life rather than control it Accumulate data Keep Options Open Resist making a decision because may need to accumulate more data Deadlines are easily ignored Deadlines used as signal to start rather than complete a project Perceiving boss will pad their deadlines for their employees Pending Gather more data Flexible Let life happen, adapt as you go Let’s wait and see

Based On: Self-Awareness HABIT #1 BE PROACTIVE Mantra: I Am The Force Based On: Self-Awareness

The Social Mirror What is it? What’s the problem with it? What is it? Vision of self from opinions, perceptions, paradigms of people around us What’s the problem with it? These visions are often disjointed and inaccurate

Determinism Genetic Determinism Psychic Determinism Your grandparents did it to you Psychic Determinism Your parents did it to you Environmental Determinism Your environment is doing it to you GENETIC DETERMINISM It’s in your DNA You inherited it (ie: bad temper) I’m Irish, that’s how we are PSYCHIC DETERMINISM Your upbringing Your childhood experiences You “remember” what happened when…. ENVIRONMENTAL DETERMINISM Environment is causing your reactions Boss, friend, teacher, parent EACH OF THESE MAPS IS BASED ON STIMULUS – RESPONSE THEORY We are conditioned to respond in a particular way to a particular stimulus Do you think this is true? WHAT HAPPENS BETWEEN STIMULUS & RESPONSE? Story of Viktor Frankl He could decide how his concentration camp experience was going to affect him STIMULUS RESPONSE WHAT CAN HAPPEN BETWEEN STIMULUS & RESPONSE?

PROACTIVE vs. REACTIVE Reactive Proactive defined based on “They cannot take away our self-respect if we don’t give it to them.” -Gandhi REACTIVE Driven by feelings, circumstances, environment Build emotional lives around behavior of others Empowers other people to control them PROACTIVE still influenced by external stimuli but choice of response is value based Can subordinate an impulse Responsible for own life Behavior is function of decisions – not conditions Can subordinate feelings to values (integration of emotions, intellect, will) Will Emotions Intellect Have initiative & responsibility to make things happen Response-Ability = the ability to choose your response Driven by values “No one can hurt you without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

Proactive Model FREEDOM TO CHOOSE RESPONSE STIMULUS Independent Will SELF-AWARENESS: (begin with meditation on page 66 of Stephen Covey) the ability to think about our thought processes it enables us to examine ourselves “see ourselves” because of self-awareness we can examine our paradigms to determine whether they are reality or principle-based or if they are a function of conditioning and conditions IMAGINATION: the ability to create in our minds beyond our present reality CONSCIENCE: a deep inner awareness of right and wrong of the principles that govern our behavior and a sense of the degree to which our thoughts and actions are in harmony with them INDEPENDENT WILL: the ability to act based on our self-awareness, free of all other influences Self Awareness Imagination Conscience

Reactive Language Proactive Language There’s nothing I can do, that’s just the way I am He makes me so mad I have to / I can’t / I must Let’s look at our alternatives, I can choose a different approach I can control my own feelings I choose / I prefer / I will REACTIVE LANGUAGE TAKES POWER AWAY FROM YOU & GIVES IT TO SOMETHING OR SOMEONE ELSE THERE’S NOTHING I CAN DO THAT’S JUST THE WAY I AM I am determined, there’s nothing I can do about it HE MAKES ME SO MAD I’m not responsible My emotional life is governed by someone outside my control I HAVE TO… Circumstances or other people are forcing me to do what I do I’m not free to choose my own actions PROACTIVE PEOPLE Are not easily offended Take responsibility for their choices Think before they act Bounce back when something bad happens Focus on things they can do something about and don’t worry about things they can’t

Circle of No Control Circle of Control PROACTIVE PEOPLE Focus efforts on Circle of Control REACTIVE PEOPLE Focus efforts on Circle of No Control Focusing here empowers the things in it to control us

Fall in one of three Areas The Problems We Face Fall in one of three Areas Direct Control problems involving our own behavior problems solved by working on habits 1,2,3 Indirect Control problems involving other people’s behavior problems solved by changing our method of influence (habits 4,5,6) No Control Problems we can do nothing about (ie our past) problems solved by changing the line on the bottom of our face (genuinely accept these problems and learn to live with them) Circle of No Control Circle of Control Direct Control problems involving our own behavior problems solved by working on habits 1,2,3 Indirect Control problems involving other people’s behavior problems solved by changing our method of influence (habits 4,5,6) No Control Problems we can do nothing about (ie our past) problems solved by changing the line on the bottom of our face (genuinely accept these problems and learn to live with them)

The Have's and the Be's outside-in inside-out I’ll be happy when I have my house paid off If only I had a teacher that wasn’t so demanding If only I had my high school diploma and could get out of this place If I could just have more time to get this done Be different Be more resourceful Be more diligent Be more creative Be more cooperative “ANYTIME WE THINK THE PROBLEM IS ‘OUT THERE’ THAT THOUGHT IS THE PROBLEM” We empower what’s out there to control us The change paradigm is outside-in (what’s out there has to change before we can change) PROACTIVE APPROACH Change from the inside – out To be different and in being different to effect positive change in what’s out there "Any time we think the problem is 'out there' that thought is the problem"

Can-Do People No-Can-Do People Take Initiative to make it happen Think about solutions and options Act Wait for something to happen to them Think about problems and barriers Are acted upon

"Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man's doing but my own. I am the force." Elaine Maxwell 1. Take responsibility for your life 2. Have a “can-do” attitude Being Proactive = Two Things

Five Short Chapters Autobiography in Chapter One By Portia Nelson Five Short Chapters Chapter One I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost…I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It Takes forever to find a way out. Chapter Two I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But, it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. . Chapter Three I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in. It’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately Chapter Four I walk around it. Chapter Five I walk down another street. Elaine Maxwell sums it up well: “Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man’s doing but my own. I am the force; I can clear any obstacle before me or I can be lost in the maze. My choice; my responsibility; win or lose, only I hold the key to my destiny.” Volkswagen Commercial: “On the road of life, there are passengers and there are drivers…Drivers Wanted!” Questions: Are you in the driver’s seat of your life or are you merely a passenger? Are you conducting your symphony or simply being played?

Reflection Questions 1. What things are wrong right now and what can you proactively do about them? 2. What new possibilities will graduating from Cathedral and moving onto something else bring you? (use your imagination) 3. In what areas of your life do you need to have a “can do” attitude In what areas of your life do you need to take more responsibility? What can you proactively do to become more responsible in these areas? Name 3 examples of where you should have hit the pause button this week, and why you should have hit it.

Control Your Own Destiny...Or Someone Else Will Habit #2 Begin With The End In Mind Based On Imagination Control Your Own Destiny...Or Someone Else Will

Begin With The End In Mind To start with a clear understanding of your destination All things are created twice First Creation Second Creation It Means: Based on the Principle: BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND = To start with a clear understanding of your destination BASED ON THE PRINCIPLE: All things are created twice First Creation = mental Second Creation = physical

FIRST CREATION Carpenter's Rule MENTAL Measure Twice Cut Once FIRST CREATION = mental (imagination) For Example Envision the home you want in your head Look at model homes Blue print for a house Clothes, Vacation, Landscaping, Speeches Carpenter’s Rule = “measure twice – cut once” YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE THAT THE BLUE PRINT (THE FIRST CREATION) IS REALLY WHAT YOU WANT, THAT YOU’VE THOUGHT EVERYTHING THROUGH The actually “thing” you imagined Rule

SECOND CREATION PHYSICAL SECOND CREATION = physical

This is the Great Adventure Career Graduate from College Graduate from CHS Children Marriage Party Animal College Bad Choice ????? Where are you going?

MISSION Mission Statements: A philosophy or creed Gives expression to: What you want to be (character) What you want to do (contributions and achievements) Includes the expression of your vision and values Becomes the criterion by which you measure everything else in your life CAREER VS. MISSION Career is a profession and asks: What’s in it for me? Mission is a cause and asks: How can I make a difference? FRANKL SAYS: We detect rather than invent our mission in life CONSCIENCE – gives us awareness of our own uniqueness DeMello called this the Pearl/Treasure within us FRANKL: “EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN SPECIFIC VOCATION OR MISSION IN LIFE…THEREIN HE CANNOT BE REPLACED, NOR CAN THEIR LIFE BE REPEATED. THUS, EVERYONE’S TASK IS UNIQUE AS IS THEIR SPECIFIC OPPORTUNITY TO IMPLEMENT IT.” ULTIMATELY, MAN SHOULD NOT ASK WHAT THE MEANING OF HIS LIFE IS, BUT RATHER MUST RECOGNIZE THAT IT IS HE WHO IS ASKED. IN A WORD, EACH MAN IS QUESTIONED BY LIFE; AND HE CAN ONLY ANSWER TO LIFE BY ANSWERING FOR HIS OWN LIFE; TO LIFE HE CAN ONLY RESPOND BY BEING RESPONSIBLE.” HABIT ONE SAYS…You are the programmer HABIT TWO SAYS…Write the program

Go For The Goal The Five Keys To Goal Setting Count the Cost Put It In Pen Just Do It Use Momentous Moments Rope Up The Five Keys To Goal Setting Count the Cost What will it require? Commitment and Sacrifice What are the benefits Put It In Pen Write it down Makes it real Just Do It Follow Through “Do or do not, there is no try” Yoda See examples on p 96 of student text Use Momentous Moments Harness the power of key moments Set goals and make commitments when you are in the mood “Character is the discipline to follow through with resolutions long after the spirit in which they were made has passed” Rope Up Tap into your Support System Borrow strength from others

Habit Three Put First Things First will and won't power Based on Independent Will and Conscience will and won't power

Overview Habit 3 – is the personal fruit of… Habits 1 and 2 Habit 1 = you are the creator, you are in charge Habit 2 = the first creation (mental creation) Habit 3 = the second creation (physical creation) Habit 3 – is the personal fruit of Habits 1 and 2 Habit 1 = you are the creator, you are in charge Based on Proactive Model - Four Human Endowments: imagination, conscience, independent will, self-awareness Habit 2 = the first creation (mental creation) Based on the ability to: envision/create with our minds the ability to see what we can become Habit 3 = the second creation (physical creation) The actualization of Habits 1 and 2 It’s the exercise of independent will

Are Prerequisites To Habits 1 & 2 Habit 3 Why? You can’t become principle-centered without: Awareness Understanding Vision and focus WHY? You can’t become principle-centered: w/out first being aware of and developing your own proactive nature w/out first being aware of your paradigms w/out understanding how to shift and align your paradigms with principles w/out a vision of & focus on your uniqueness All of the above are key to effective self management Habit 3 is all about this

Key Elements to Habit 3 Self-Management Independent Will Discipline Ability to manage well determines quality and existence of second creation Effective management is “putting first things first” Independent Will Makes effective self-management possible Ability to make choices & act in accordance with them Ability to act / not be acted upon Discipline From word “disciple” Disciple to a philosophy, set of principles, values, overriding purpose Effective manager of self = your discipline comes from within It’s a function of your independent will

PRIORITIES How Do You Spend Your Time? PRIORITIES What is Important Activity (see hand out) ? What do you need to do differently to make column 3 and 4 match up perfectly? ? What one thing could you do (you aren’t doing right now) that if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your personal life? ? What one thing in your school life would bring similar results Your Time?

Time Management Matrix Urgent Not Urgent Important QUADRANT I crises, pressing problems, deadline-driven projects QUADRANT II prevention, PC activities, relationship building, recognizing new opportunities, planning, recreation Not important QUADRANT III interruptions, some calls, some mail, some reports, some meetings, popular activities QUADRANT IV trivia, busy work, some mail, some phone calls time wasters, pleasant activities IMPORTANT = first things, activities that contribute to your mission and goals URGENT = pressing, in your face things, activities that demand immediate attention

Quadrant I The Procrastinator Exam tomorrow Late for school Project due today Flat tire Quadrant 1- The Procrastinator Urgent and Important Characterized by waiting til the last minute Results of too much time in Q1 = stress and anxiety, burnout, mediocre performance

Quadrant III The Yes-Man Unimportant phone calls Interruptions Other people’s small problems Peer pressure Quadrant 3 – The Yes-Man Urgent but not Important Characterized by trying to please other people & respond to their every need Q3 is loaded with activities important to other people but not to you Results of too much time in Q3 = lack of discipline, feel like a doormat

Quadrant IV The Slacker Too much TV Endless phone calls Time wasters Parked on the couch Quadrant 4 – The Slacker Not Urgent and Not Important Characterized by loving to do everything in excess (TV, sleep, web) Results of Living in Q4 = Lack of responsibility, guilt, dependent on others for basics

QUADRANT II The Prioritizer Planning Goal setting Essay due in a week Relationships Relaxation Quadrant II – The Prioritizer Important – Not Urgent Characterized By = Planning ahead Prioritizes Makes sure first things are first and last things are last Says no with a smile Refreshes themselves Results Of: Control of your life Balance High Performance (P/PC Balance) Most Effective Quadrant II Paradigm Look through the lens of importance – rather than urgency ? In Which Quadrant are you spending most of your time?

WEEKLY PLANNING Identify Big Rocks Block Out Time Schedule Misc. OBJECTIVE OF QUADRANT II Manage lives effectively From center of sound principles From knowledge of personal mission statement Focus on important and urgent Maintain a balance of production/production capability

Courage Zone-Comfort Zone COURAGE ZONE HARD MOMENTS Uncomfortable things Conflicts between doing the right thing Uncertainty and doing the easier thing Pressure Need to stay strong in hard moments Change Possibility of failure WINNING = RISING EACH TIME YOU Place for opportunity FALL Place to reach full potential OVERCOME PEER PRESSURE COMFORT ZONE Some of the “hardest moments” come Familiar things from peer pressure Places you know Friends Activities you enjoy Risk Free Easy No Stretching Required Feel safe and secure in these boundries

Reflection Questions Identify your biggest time wasters Identify your biggest goals for the next five months Identify a fear that is holding you back from accomplishing any or all of your goals How much impact does peer pressure have on you