A Course in Self-Management Strategies for College and Beyond

Career Success Career Success affects your life: Career Success affects your life: family family Income Income Self-esteem Self-esteem Who you associate with Who you associate with Where you live Where you live What you learn What you learn Your energy level Your energy level Your health Your health

Career Success Depends on skill acquisition Depends on skill acquisition Hard Skills Hard Skills Soft Skills Soft Skills Taking responsibility Taking responsibility Making effective decisions Making effective decisions Managing time Managing time Goal setting Goal setting Prioritizing Prioritizing Perseverance Perseverance Communicating Communicating Working in teams Working in teams

Step One: Developing Self-Acceptance Self-Esteem and Core Beliefs Self-Esteem and Core Beliefs Know and Accept Yourself Know and Accept Yourself Understand no one’s perfect Understand no one’s perfect Accept things that can’t change, and possess the wisdom to know the difference Accept things that can’t change, and possess the wisdom to know the difference Possess Courage Possess Courage Acknowledge personal strengths while demonstrating humility Acknowledge personal strengths while demonstrating humility Acknowledge personal weaknesses Acknowledge personal weaknesses

Accepting Personal Responsibility Adopt a Creator role Adopt a Creator role Master Creator language Master Creator language Make wise decisions Make wise decisions

Accepting Personal Responsibility ACCEPT SELF- RESPONSIBILITY, seeing yourself as the primary cause of your outcomes and experiences DO NOT see yourself as a Victim, believing that what happens to you is determined primarily by external forces, fate, luck, and powerful others

Adopt a creator role Adopt a creator role Believe your choices create outcomes and experiences Believe your choices create outcomes and experiences Believe external forces are not the determiners of your outcomes and experiences Believe external forces are not the determiners of your outcomes and experiences

Master Creator Language Master Creator Language Accept personal responsibility for the results Accept personal responsibility for the results Avoid blaming, complaining, and excusing Avoid blaming, complaining, and excusing Make Wise Decisions Make Wise Decisions Consciously design your future Consciously design your future Avoid careless decision making and letting things happen by chance Avoid careless decision making and letting things happen by chance

Responsibility and Choice Choice – key ingredient Choice – key ingredient Choices – conscious or unconscious Choices – conscious or unconscious Seek solutions Seek solutions Take action Take action Try something new Try something new

Mastering Creator Language Your inner conversation/internal dialogue Your inner conversation/internal dialogue Inner critic – the voice that criticizes the individual for everything that goes wrong Inner critic – the voice that criticizes the individual for everything that goes wrong Everything is not your fault Everything is not your fault Inner Defender – the voice that deflects criticism outward Inner Defender – the voice that deflects criticism outward Blames others for everything Blames others for everything Inner Guide – asks where self-responsibility lies Inner Guide – asks where self-responsibility lies

Language of Responsibility VictimsCreators VictimsCreators Make excusesSeek solutions Make excusesSeek solutions BlameAccept Responsibility BlameAccept Responsibility ComplainTake Action ComplainTake Action Repeat ineffective Try Something New Repeat ineffective Try Something New behaviors behaviors

Language of Responsibility Victims “Have to do something” Place blame—use the ‘you’ pronoun—not the ‘I’ pronoun “Try” “Give Up” Creators “Choose to do something” Say ‘I’ when referring to their own problem Commit and follow through “Control through choice”

Academic Responsibility Major Determiner Academic Success Major Determiner Academic Success Allows Individuals Control of Factors that Influence Their Learning Allows Individuals Control of Factors that Influence Their Learning Establishes Optimum Conditions for Learning Establishes Optimum Conditions for Learning Removes obstacles that Interfere with Learning Removes obstacles that Interfere with Learning

Six Components of Self-Management Motivation Motivation Learning Style and Strategies Learning Style and Strategies Time Management Time Management Physical Environment Physical Environment Social Environment Social Environment Performance Performance