M4L 2013 Lesson 6 How can I find happiness when things don't go my way? © Paul T. P. Wong, Ph.D., C. Psych
Overview Happiness is possible no matter what The things you need to know about happiness The myths of happiness Different types of happiness Simple rules for happiness
Does this describe you?
Things You Need to Know about Happiness It is an umbrella term for various positive emotions Feelings of serenity and contentment Feelings of ecstasy come after great agony Feelings of aliveness come from struggling Feelings of comfort in times of great sorrow It involves some cognitive assessment of satisfaction The more you pursue happiness & avoid pain, the more anxious you will be
5 Myths of Happiness 1.You can have instant happiness 2.You can have lasting happiness 3.Everyone has a fixed set point for happiness 4.Money can buy happiness 5.The happiness formula is a scientific equation
The Happiness Formula
WONG’S 4 TYPES OF HAPPINESS 1.Hedonic 1.Hedonic The pleasant moments such as “eat, drink, and be merry” 2.Prudential 2.Prudential The “flow” or enjoyment of doing what one does best 3.Eudaimonic 3.Eudaimonic A sense of fulfillment or flourishing from the pursuit of meaning & virtue 4.Chaironic 4.Chaironic The feeling of being blessed or favoured by God
Creative Value
8 Simple Rules for Happiness 1.Freedom of Choice: You have the power to choose happiness and not to let anyone disturb your happiness 2.Faith & beliefs can open up many unexpected blessings 3.The right perspective can make all the difference 4.Acceptance: Enjoy who you are & what life offers 5.Values: Devote time to what really matters 6.The journey is more enjoyable than the destination 7.Contentment is the key to wealth & happiness 8.Gratitude will bring joy to you & others
Freedom of Choice
Blessings from Faith & Belief
Chaironic Happiness
Acceptance
What Really Matters Family & friends (Relationships) Serving God & others (Self-transcendence) Developing your full potential (Growth) Fulfilling your calling (Unique calling) Pursuing meaning & virtue (Meaning and virtue) Making this world a better place (Legacy) …
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Contentment
Gratitude