6 | 1 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life On Course Chapter 6 GAINING SELF-AWARENESS

6 | 2 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. C ASE S TUDY IN C RITICAL T HINKING S TRANGE C HOICES Choose the student you think made the strangest choice and speculate why she or he made this choice. In particular, what are the kinds of past experiences that may have made the student behave this way? Recall a course you once took in which you made a choice that your instructor might describe as “strange.” Explain why you made that choice. Dive deep, exploring what really caused your choice.

6 | 3 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. C RITICAL T HINKING : F OCUS Q UESTIONS R ECOGNIZING W HEN Y OU A RE O FF C OURSE In which of your life roles are you off course? Do you know how you got there? More important, do you know how to get back on course to your desired outcomes and experiences?

6 | 4 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. T HE M YSTERY OF S ELF -S ABOTAGE  I started a study group.  I started a study group, but I have missed two meetings.  I did all my homework early.  I did all my homework early, but I left it at home. Wise Choice Self-Sabotaging Wise Choice Self-Sabotaging Identify each statement as a self-sabotaging behavior or as a wise choice behavior.

6 | 5 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. C RITICAL T HINKING : F OCUS Q UESTIONS I DENTIFYING Y OUR S CRIPTS What habit patterns in your life get you off course? How did these habit patterns develop?

6 | 6 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. “STICKS AND STONES” ACTIVITY Form groups of 7-8. Your task is to build a structure using only the BBQ skewer’s (sticks) and marshmallow’s (stones) provided.

6 | 7 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. “STICKS AND STONES” ACTIVITY Think about the activity you just completed and write your responses to the following questions:  What thoughts did you have while building the structure?  What emotions were you feeling while building the structure?  What did you do while building the structure?  How successful did you think your group would be?  If a stranger walked in the room and looked at your model, what do you think he or she would say? (Save your answers so you can refer back to them later.)

6 | 8 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. A NATOMY OF A S CRIPT Scripts are internal forces composed of habit patterns and core beliefs. Think about your habit patterns: something you often think, feel, or do.  List one of your thought patterns, one of your emotional patterns, or one of your behavioral patterns.  Does this habit pattern tend to keep you on course or get you off course?  Pair up and share the habit patterns you’ve identified. Brainstorm strategies to revise a habit pattern that gets you off course or strengthen a habit pattern that keeps you on course.

6 | 9 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. H ABITUAL P ATTERNS  I am good in math.  I am always late to class.  I'm too busy.  I often feel anxious.  I exercise regularly.  I always screw up.  I seldom get angry.  I never ask for help.  My tutor always frustrates me. Thought Pattern Behavioral Pattern Emotional Pattern Decide if the following sentences are thought patterns, emotional patterns or behavioral patterns.

6 | 10 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. C ORE B ELIEFS Core beliefs are unconscious judgments that dictate what we consistently think, feel and do. They are an invisible part of a script that contains our view of ourselves, other people and the world. Complete the following sentence stems according to your core beliefs.  The world is_________.  People are _________.  I am ________________. VectorFrenzy

6 | 11 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. H OW W E W ROTE O UR S CRIPTS Think about your answers from the previous slide. What factors have influenced your core beliefs?  When you were a child, how did others respond to you?  When you were a child, what did significant adults say to you?  When you were a child, what behaviors of significant adults did you observe?  What other factors may have contributed to your core beliefs?

6 | 12 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. H OW W E W ROTE O UR S CRIPTS Attributions are qualities that tell us “how we are” or “how we should be.” For example, “I’m creative” or “Always be busy.”  Write one of your attributions. Injunctions are qualities that tell us “what we are not” or “what we should not be.” For example, “I’m not good in math” or “Don’t stand up for yourself.”  Write one of your injunctions. How do you believe you developed your attributions and injunctions?

6 | 13 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. S CRIPTS Look back at your answers that you wrote for the “stick-n-stones” activity. What thought patterns, emotional patterns or behavioral patterns did your answers reveal? What unconscious beliefs did your answers reveal? What did you learn or relearn about your habit patterns and core beliefs?

6 | 14 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. S ELF -D EFEATING H ABIT P ATTERNS Look over the list of Self-Defeating Habit Patterns in On Course.  Put a check mark next to any of the habits that apply to you.  Rewrite the statements that you marked so they are no longer self-defeating habits.  Pair up with a classmate  Discuss how you will stop a self-defeating habit and/or adopt an empowering new habit.

6 | 15 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. C OAT OF A RMS A CTIVITY A “coat of arms” is a shield with symbols on it to represent certain traits of a person or family. Using the diagram on the next slide, make your own “coat of arms” by following the directives written on the shield. Use only symbols or pictures. Be prepared to share! pio3

6 | 16 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. 3 words which describe you. Something you are good at. Something you are working to improve. Your most prized material possession. Your most prized non-material possession. Your future career. An achievement you are proud of. A contribution you want to make to others.

6 | 17 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. C RITICAL T HINKING : F OCUS Q UESTION R EWRITING Y OUR O UTDATED S CRIPTS How can you revise the self-defeating scripts that keep you from achieving your full potential? Jeff Morin

6 | 18 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. S ELF -A WARENESS A T W ORK The Holland Code is a tool that places you in one of six personality types and suggests possible careers that may appeal to you. Review the following career choices. Write down the number next to the career choice that is most appealing to you. 1.Mechanic 2.Chemist 3.Writer 4.Nurse 5.Salesperson 6.Accountant 1.Electrician 2.Detective 3.Musician 4.Counselor 5.Lawyer 6.Secretary 1.Dental technician 2.Doctor 3.Interior decorator 4.Teacher 5.Entrepreneur 6.Financial planner 1.Forester 2.Mathematician 3.Inventor 4.Physical Therapist 5.Travel Agent 6.Computer Operator

6 | 19 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. S ELF -A WARENESS A T W ORK Review the following chart. Find the personality type that is most appealing to you and record its number. Personality TypePersonality Type Description 1RealisticPrefers activities involving objects, tools and machines. 2InvestigativePrefers activities involving abstract problem solving and the exploration of physical, biological, and cultural phenomena for the purpose of understanding and controlling them. 3ArtisticPrefers activities involving self-expression, using words, ideas or materials to create art forms or new concepts. 4SocialPrefers activities involving interaction with other people to inform, train, develop, help or enlighten them. 5EnterprisingPrefers activities involving the persuasion and management of others to attain organizational goals or economic gain. 6ConventionalPrefers activities involving the application of data to bring order out of confusion and develop a prescribed plan.

6 | 20 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. S ELF -A WARENESS A T W ORK Does the number next to your selected career choice match the number next to your selected personality type description?  If so, how could you use this information to benefit you?  If not, is there a possible career choice that you have not considered in the past?

6 | 21 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. C RITICAL T HINKING : F OCUS Q UESTIONS W RITE Y OUR O WN R ULES What personal rules do you have that dictate the choices you make daily? Which of these rules help you create high self- esteem? 89studio

6 | 22 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. T HREE S UCCESS R ULES  Show up: I commit to attending every class from beginning to end.  Do their best work: I commit to doing my best work on all assignments, including turning them in on time.  Participate actively: I commit to getting involved. What are the three behaviors that successful students consistently do? Lisa F. Young

6 | 23 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. C HANGING Y OUR H ABITS Exceptional students follow not only the three basic rules of success; they also create their own rules for college and life. Form groups of four. Discuss additional rules that would help you become more successful in college. Share your rules with the class.

6 | 24 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Scripts are internal forces composed of what? Q UICK R EVIEW Emotional Patterns Core Beliefs Behavior Patterns Thought Patterns

6 | 25 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Q UICK R EVIEW Decide if the following sentences are thought patterns, emotional patterns, or behavioral patterns.  I am such a lousy writer.  I always get caught using my cell phone in class.  I am always happy.  I am typically late for my morning class.  I get frustrated in my English class.  I will never do well in college. Thought Behavioral Emotional Behavioral Emotional Thought

6 | 26 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. Q UICK R EVIEW Prefers activities involving abstract problem solving and the exploration of physical, biological, and cultural phenomena for the purpose of understanding and controlling them. Prefers activities involving self-expression, using words, ideas or materials to create art forms or new concepts. Prefers activities involving interaction with other people to inform, train, develop, help or enlighten them. Prefers activities involving the persuasion and management of others to attain organizational goals or economic gain. Match the following personality type to the correct description. Prefers activities involving objects, tools and machines. Prefers activities involving the application of data to bring order out of confusion and develop a prescribed plan. C ONVENTIONAL I NVESTIGATIVE A RTISTIC E NTERPRISING S OCIAL R EALISTIC

6 | 27 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. What are the three success rules of successful students? Q UICK R EVIEW I show up. I participate actively. I do my best work.

6 | 28 Copyright © 2014 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved. End Chapter Six