Anchor Yourself Leadership UCO May 9, 2006

What is meant by “anchor”? From class discussion From class discussion Staying grounded Staying grounded Keep things in perspective (spouse) Keep things in perspective (spouse) Dealing with things Dealing with things Get to the balcony Get to the balcony Talking with someone removed from the situation Talking with someone removed from the situation

Anchor Webster’s: Webster’s: to keep from drifting (ship) to keep from drifting (ship) anything giving security or stability; to hold secure anything giving security or stability; to hold secure Thesaurus: Thesaurus: Fasten Fasten Secure Secure Attach Attach Fix Fix

Anchor Other thoughts: Other thoughts: Root Root Stand firm Stand firm Steadfast Steadfast Grounded Grounded Thesaurus – antonym: Undo Undo Disengage Disengage

How do you anchor yourself? A. Separate Role from Self B. Distinguish Confidant from Ally C. Protect the Sanctuary leading to … D. Maintain the Balance

How do you separate Role and Self? Find balance Find balance Realize you play multiple roles Realize you play multiple roles Pros of separating role and self Pros of separating role and self Allows objectivity Allows objectivity Gives freedom to take risks Gives freedom to take risks Roles end Roles end People hate and react to the role People hate and react to the role Cons of not separating role and self Cons of not separating role and self You become the issue You become the issue

What are the differences and similarities between Confidant and Ally? From class discussion From class discussion Allies Allies People who share your values; you gain something from talking to them; have overlapping but not identical stakes People who share your values; you gain something from talking to them; have overlapping but not identical stakes Confidants Confidants People who have few conflicting loyalties; interests are aligned with yours; most likely to be completely outside of the organization; someone you can safely bounce ideas off of; safe source of feedback; no prejudice or agenda; will tell you what you don’t want to hear People who have few conflicting loyalties; interests are aligned with yours; most likely to be completely outside of the organization; someone you can safely bounce ideas off of; safe source of feedback; no prejudice or agenda; will tell you what you don’t want to hear

Distinguish Confidant from Ally Webster’s: Webster’s: Confidant: a close, trusted friend whom one confides (confide: as in sharing secrets, to entrust) Confidant: a close, trusted friend whom one confides (confide: as in sharing secrets, to entrust) Ally: to unite or join for a specific purpose; to relate by similarity of structure Ally: to unite or join for a specific purpose; to relate by similarity of structure

Distinguish Confidant from Ally Thesaurus Thesaurus Confidant: best/close friend, sounding board Confidant: best/close friend, sounding board Ally: friend, supporter, partner, collaborator Ally: friend, supporter, partner, collaborator Antonym: enemy Antonym: enemy

What is meant by sanctuary? From class discussion From class discussion Remove yourself from the environment entirely for rest, reflection, and renewal. Remove yourself from the environment entirely for rest, reflection, and renewal. How do you protect it? How do you protect it? Don’t give up the activity or time when stressed Don’t give up the activity or time when stressed Set aside time for this each day Set aside time for this each day Don’t allow yourself to erode the time you have allotted Don’t allow yourself to erode the time you have allotted

Protect the Sanctuary Webster’s: Webster’s: A holy place A holy place A place of refuge or protection A place of refuge or protection Thesaurus: Thesaurus: Shelter Shelter Safe haven Safe haven

Anchor Yourself A. Separate Role from Self (Don’t take it personally) B. Distinguish Confidant from Ally (Have a support group) C. Protect the Sanctuary (Have a time/place for inner reflection) D. Maintain the Balance