Chapter 5 & 6 FAMILIES TODAY 10

Social Health 1 st relationship Learn Interdependence – one person’s actions affect the lives of all family members Lessons that people learn about relationship remain with them for life

FACTORS FOR CHANGES More women in the work force High divorce rate Postponement of Marriage & parenthood

Family Forms Nuclear Family Single-parent Family Extended Families

Family Forms Blended Families Foster Care Families Other Family Forms

Adult Responsibilities

SERIOUS FAMILY PROBLEMS 1. Separation and Divorce painful experience for all 2. Drug Abuse Alcohol, illegal drugs –Helpful groups: »Alcoholics Anonymous »Al Anon »Alateen

Family Problems cont. 3. Financial Problems Personal debt »Credit card abuse »Living above one means Loss of Job Serious Illness

4. Family Violence –a. Physical Abuse –b. Sexual Abuse –c. Emotional Abuse 5. Runaways

SKILLS FOR SOLVING FAMILY PROBLEMS Communication 1. Resolving conflicts: –speak openly, honestly and lovingly –say what you mean, listen to others, voice disagreement respectfully

2. Express emotions: –Express emotions constructively –Use “I” message –Be Assertive –Body Language

Unspoken language: 93% of a message’s credibility is communicated non-verbally 55% communicated with body language 38% with tone, pitch & variation in voice quality 7% impact made by message is by words Body Language

3. Use decision making skills –Describe the problem to the other person –Explore the other person’s point of view Active Listener –Invent solutions Compromise –Agree on a solution Cooperation

FRIENDSHIPS Types of Friendships 1. Casual Friendships Made out of convenience Usually short-term 2. Close Friendships Shares similar goals, values long-term

Close Friendships Four Qualities –Loyalty: a good friend sticks by you in both good and bad times. –Honesty: would be truthful, not out to hurt you –Empathy: the ability to understand how another feels –Reliability: can be counted on

Friendships 3. Friendships with the Opposite Sex Learn more about Gender Roles Brings all teachings, stereotypes, and ideologies to the relationship

Problems with Friendships Envy - is a reaction to lacking something Jealousy – is a reaction to the threat of losing something or someone. Transferring Anger Cliques and Gangs

Intimate Relationships Physical Attraction –Infatuation –Dating Opportunity to learn about an person Develop communication and decision making skills Learn about another’s views on gender roles Discover qualities you want in marriage partner

Physical Intimacy –Starts with holding hands –Progresses to kissing (deep) –May lead to exploring bodies –May lead eventually to sex, (though the last two are not necessary for the establishment of a wonderful relationship)

Dating Violence Cycle of Violence –Tension – it builds over time Yelling and screaming at each other –Violent Episode Hitting –Calm Stage False “honeymoon” –30,000 females visited a hospital emergency department because of a nonfatal sexual assault injury during 2004–2006

Sex & Effects 1. Effects on Emotional Health 2. Effects on the relationship 3. Risk of Pregnancy & Sexually Transmitted Diseases Emotional Intimacy – refers to an open, sharing, affectionate and trustful relationship