Dysfunctional Relationships What are some causes of dysfunctional relationships?

Causes of Dysfunctional Families  Chemical Dependence  Other Addictions  Emotional Abuse  Perfectionism  Violence  Physical Abuse  Neglect  Sexual Abuse  Abandonment  Mental Disorders

Chemical Dependence/Other Addictions  Family life is neglected  Teens may follow in the footsteps of parents  Teen’s addictions may cause family problems  All energy is focused on the addiction

Perfectionism  Feeling inadequate  Overcritical of oneself  Destructive harmful behavior

Violence in the Family  Physical Force to injure damage or destroy oneself, others or property  Domestic violence – sexual, physical emotional abuse  Violent family members are usually controlling  An ongoing cycle

Abandonment  When a person chooses to give up or refuses responsibility for those in his/her care  Physical or emotional abandonment  Children who have been abandoned feel unlovable, worthless and guilty  Teens who have been abandoned are more likely to act “tough” defy authority figures, refuse to follow school rules and have negative attitudes

4 Kinds of Abuse Teens may have to deal with the following types of abuse in their families  Physical – violent treatment that results in physical injury  Sexual – sexual contact that is forced on a person by physical force or manipulation  Emotional – verbal put downs, making someone feel worthless, withholding affection in order to cause pain  Neglect – failure to provide care or guidance

The Tree of Codependence

Codependent Relationships  Codependent people have difficulties with intimacy Intimacy : a deep meaningful kind of caring between two peopleIntimacy : a deep meaningful kind of caring between two people  Enmeshment –a condition in which a person becomes obsessed with the needs of another person and no longer can recognize his or her own needs.  Interdependence – a condition in which two people depend upon each other, yet each has a separate identity

Enmeshment or Interdependence  Read the following scenarios and decide whether it is describing interdependence or enmeshment  Carlos: I can’t go out with you on Friday because my parents are having friends over and they want me there. Can we go to a movie on Sunday instead?  Caitlin: Sure, I’ll work on my report on Friday  Interdependence

Enmeshment or Interdependence  Eddie: I can’t help you with your French homework tonight because I have a big project due tomorrow.  Jenna: But you promised to help me every day!  Eddie: Ok, maybe I can just stay up later to work on my project  Enmeshment

Complete the following  Abandonment  Affection  Alateen  Dysfunctional family  Enmeshment  Family  Family relationships  Healthful family  Interdependence  Recovery program  Value  Work ethic 1. __ is a tender feeling a person has towards another 2. A(n) __ is the basic unit of society. 3. __ is a relationship in which two people depend upon one another, yet each has a separate identity 4. A(n) __ is an attitude of discipline, motivation, and commitment towards tasks. 5. A(n) __ is a family that promotes loving, responsible relationships. 6. __ is refusing responsibility for those in your care 7. A(n) __ is a group that supports people who want to change their behavior 8. A(n) __ is a family that doesn’t promote loving, responsible relationships. 9. ___ is a recovery program for teens with a family member who has an addiction 10. __ is a condition in which a person is obsessed with the needs of others.