HELPING YOUR CHILDREN DEAL WITH ANGER

LET’S TALK ABOUT ANGER- 1.What is anger? 2.Ways children express anger. 3.Why do school children get angry? 4.What influences aggression among children? 5.How to handle aggressive behavior?

Anger is a normal emotion that arises when things do not go the way we want them to be. The problem lies not in expressing anger but the manner of expressing it.

WAYS CHILDREN EXPRESS ANGER- 1.EXPLOSIVE WAY- hitting, hurting, screaming, yelling, pushing etc 2.PASSIVE WAY- suppressing their anger, bottled up anger, when children are told that anger is bad. Responding in an aggressive manner is a normal part of a child’s development. Anger unexpressed will turn into RAGE that can have serious health related effects.

SIDE EFFECTS IF ANGER IS SUPRESSED 1.Frequent headaches 2.Respiratory disorders 3.Disability of the nervous system 4.Circulatory disorders 5.Aggravation of existing physical symptoms 6.Emotional disturbances and suicide

ANGER IN SCHOOL CHILDREN

1.Conflict over possessions, which involves someone taking children’s property or invading their space. 2.Physical assault, which involves one child doing something to another child, such as pushing or hitting. 3.Verbal conflict, a tease or a taunt. 4.Rejection, which involves a child being ignored or not allowed to play with peers. 5.Issues of compliance, which involves asking or insisting that children do something that they do not want to do.

MEDIA PROMOTES AGGRESSION

VIDEO GAMES AND COMPUTERS- Aggressive video and computer games have become the latest fad for children, exposing them to unnecessary violence. The changing face of violence- Earlier the character and settings of the games were fake and stylized, the violence would seem almost funny. Now with multimedia, children are treated to almost simulator-like technology, where they can see life like opponent cringe, fight and bleed in real live color. An addictive experience- giving them an adrenaline high, which can be a powerful addiction. Where do these games lead?- children who experience violence, and see violence being rewarded, are the ones more likely to initiate violence themselves even in a limited time period.

A STUDY INDICATES

BALANCED VIEWING- 1.Work together to keep time chart of your child’s activities, including television viewing, play with friends etc. 2.At the beginning of the week, have your child select programmes you approve of form television schedule. 3.Rule out television certain time such as breakfast, school nights etc. 4.Make a list of alternating activities. 5.Have programme choices in mind before turning the television set on. 6.Do not locate a television set in your child’s room. 7.Remember that Children learn from parents. 8.Television, when viewed selectively, and viewed along with parents, provides immense scope of learning

HOW TO HANDLE AGGRESSIVE OR VIOLENT CHILDREN?

Adults often find dealing with angry children to be the most difficult part. They feel everything from exhaustion to nerve wracking aggravation. There are so many good things hands can do and so many ways to handle strong feelings without hitting

ALL CHILDREN CAN LEARN TO USE THEIR HANDS TO TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES AND OTHERS- Can you DRAW A PICTURE and show me how angry you feel.

SQUISH CLAY or DOUGH, you’ll feel better.

PLAY AN INSTRUMENT Lets LISTEN to some MUSIC and you’ll feel nice.

HANDS ARE NOT FOR HITTING PEOPLE but you can go HIT A DRUM or PUNCH A PILLOW or BANG A TABLE

DIG IN SAND JUMP UP and DOWN

CLAP YOUR HANDS or SNAP YOUR FINGERS really hard to tell me how you feel

WRITE ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL

PUSH AGAINST THE WALL OR FLOOR WITH ALL YOUR MIGHT to show how much angry you are

RIDING YOUR CYCLE WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER

CREATE A CALM DOWN POSTER

BULLYING AND YOUR CHILD- Sometimes children want to be the BOSS of other people

YELLING AS A DISCIPLINING TECHNIQUE DOES NOT WORK

WHY YELLING DOES NOT WORK? We don’t respect our children enough to speak to them respectfully. Temporary results. Children who hear “NO” uses “NO” often. Time out as a means of distraction – face it when you and your child are much in control. Be consistent in whatever form of discipline you use. Marbles and stickers work well and can be traded for something at the end of a desired time period. We never forget to punish the bad behavior but we ignore the good behavior.

ESSENTIAL PARENTING TIPS-

PRESENTED BY- SHILPA PATHAK SCHOOL COUNSELOR BHAVAN’S, KUWAIT