How to Introduce Yourself to New People GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC

When You Meet New People 1. Look into their eyes 2. Smile 3. Say, “Hi, my name is _______” 4. Shake hands 5. Listen to what they say GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC

Don’t be Afraid. It might be scary. Be brave and strong. Think of something happy. GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC

Sometimes You Shake Hands When you meet adults: At special events: GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC

Sometimes You Just Smile and Say “Hi” On the school bus: At school: GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC

Smiling and Saying “Hi” Will Help You Make Friends GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC

Practice with a Mirror If you do this: Then people will do this: GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC

You May Be Afraid, Just Don’t Forget to Smile and Say “Hi”. GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC

Your Smile and “Hi” Will Help You Introduce Yourself to New People GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC

Remember what we said about Handshakes ? Smiling ? Eye contact ? Introducing yourself in different ways ? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy10

Now Let’s Talk about Body Language Body language is communicated by different parts of the body. Body language has clues that fit together. GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy11

EyesMouth Body Handshake Body Language Is powerful. What you do is more powerful than what you say. These pieces fit together like a puzzle, with different clues (some easy, some not easy). GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy12

What you do and what you say Between 60% and 75% your communication is non- verbal That means for every 1 thing you say, people notice 3 things that you do GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy Say Do

Cues from Body Language What they are saying with their bodies? 14 What other clues do you see? “I am angry” “I am powerful” “I am relaxed” “Happy to see you” “I want to sell you something”

Body Language and Body Position They are all hiding their hands. Are they ready to shake hands with you? What else is their body language saying? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy15 What are your clues?

Examples of Body Language GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy16 “I don’t want to talk to you.” “Come join us.”

What clues do these faces give? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy17 “I don’t want to talk to you.” “Hi. How are you doing?”

Remember your handshake? 18 GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy How do handshakes fit into body language? What clues are you giving? What clues are you getting from others? ? ? ?

Plan Ahead for Your Handshake (to show your positive body language) Keep your hand clean and dry Right before touching hands, smile! Extended hand Make eye contact GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy19

Handshake Style and Body Language Dominant? (you angle your hand to be on top) Bone Crusher? (ouch! ) Weak and Floppy? (ick!) What does that fit into your body language? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy20

Faces give good body language clues GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy21 Happy? Sad? Mad? Scared? Excited? Shy?

Eye Smiles are Clues Are they smiling or not? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy22 Yes No ? ? ?

Eye Contact Make eye contact by looking at the person's whole face above her nose. It might be a little scary, but that is how you make eye contact. 23 GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy

What are Some Other Greetings? A Hand Wave = A long- distance handshake. A Head Nod = “Hi, but I don’t want to shake your hand.” Clues: Is there a smile? Eye contact? GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy24

So what do you think of Body Language? What is the easiest part? The hardest part? Thank you for your time and attention. GayleFisherConceptVisualization, Visual Literacy25

Some Facts About Handshakes and Saying “Hello” 26GayleFisherFactVisualization

Say “Hello” With These Words Hello Hello there Hey Hi Hi there How are you? How are you doing? How's it going? 27GayleFisherFactVisualization

However, 60% to 75% of communication is non-verbal (what you do, not what you say) As much as 3/4 of your communication is what you do, NOT what you say 28GayleFisherFactVisualization

What you do and what you say Between 60% and 75% your communication is non- verbal That means for every 1 thing you say, people notice 3 things that you do. Link GayleFisherFactVisualization

The Math of Handshakes The next page has a mathematical equation. Don’t be scared. You don’t have to calculate anything. Your handshakes are important. On to the next page GayleFisherFactVisualization30

The Math of Handshakes Mathematical formula for “12 Key Factors” handshake PH = √ (e2 + ve2)(d2) + (cg + dr)2 + π {(4 2)(4 2)}2 + (vi + t + te)2 + {(4 2 )(4 2)}2 1. (e) Eye Contact (e) Eye Contact 2. (ve) Verbal expression (ve) Verbal expression 3. (d) is Duchenne smile (d) is Duchenne smile 4. (cg) is Completeness of Grip (cg) is Completeness of Grip 5. (dr) is dryness of hand (dr) is dryness of hand 6. (s) is strength (1= weak; 5=strong) 7. (p) is position of hand (p) is position of hand 8. (vi) is vigor (1=too low/too high; 5=mid) (vi) is vigor (1=too low/too high; 5=mid) 9. (t) is temperature of hands (1=too cold/too hot; 5=mid) 10. (te) is texture of hands (5=mid; 1=too rough/too smooth) 11. (c) is control (1=low; 5=high) 12. (du) is duration Link (du) is duration Link GayleFisherFactVisualization31

Historical Facts on the Handshake In ancient times, the handshake was an open hand to another person to show there were no weapons. LinkLink The first sighting of a handshake is among the Egyptians, in 2800 BC. The handshake has always been with the right hand because it carried the weapons. LinkLink In Roman times, the handshake was an arm clasp. One man would reach out his weapon hand & clasp just below the elbow of the other to feel for daggers hidden in his sleeves. Link Link In medieval Europe, knights & kings used to shake hands to show one another there were no weapons & no intention to harm the other. LinkLink The average person performs 15,000 handshakes during his life. Link How big is 15,000?15,000 Link15,000 GayleFisherFactVisualization32

15,000 is a big number If you ate 1 apple a day For 7 days a week For 52 weeks a year For 41 years That would be about 15,000 apples 33GayleFisherFactVisualization

#1 Key Factor of a Handshake 1. Eye Contact = 5 (1=none; 5=direct) 34GayleFisherFactVisualization Back to Handshake Math

#2 Key Factor of a Handshake 2. Verbal Expression = 5 (1=totally inappropriate; 5=totally appropriate) Hello Hello there Hey Hi Hi there How are you? How are you doing? How's it going? 35 GayleFisherFactVisualization Back to Handshake Math

3. Duchenne smile (smiling with eyes and mouth) = 5 (1=totally non-Duchenne smile (false smile); 5=totally Duchenne) #3 Key Factor of a Handshake 36GayleFisherFactVisualization Back to Handshake Math

#4 Key Factor of a Handshake 4. Completeness of Grip = 5 (1=very incomplete; 5=full) 37GayleFisherFactVisualization Back to Handshake Math

#5 Key Factor of a Handshake 5. Dryness of hand = 4 (clean also, please!) (1=damp; 5=dry) GayleFisherFactVisualization38 Back to Handshake Math

#7 Key Factor of a Handshake 7. Hand Position = 3 (1=back towards own body; 5=other person's bodily zone) 39GayleFisherFactVisualization Back to Handshake Math

#8 Key Factor of a Handshake 8. Vigor Too Much Vigor “ouch” Too Little Vigor “fish hand” Appropriate Amount 40GayleFisherFactVisualization Back to Handshake Math

#12 Key Factor of a Handshake #12 Duration = 3 (1= brief; 5=long) 41GayleFisherFactVisualization Back to Handshake Math

So start those handshakes! 15,000 is a big and important number. Your handshakes are important too. Thank you for your time. 42GayleFisherFactVisualization

The End Thank You for Smiling and Introducing Yourself GayleFisherProcedure, EDTC