HPC3O: Unit 4 Parenting Styles and Outcomes How does the way a parent raises a child impact the child’s development? Why?

Quick Quiz: Match Responsive to children's’ needs. Indifferent to children, ignore them Reject their children Critical, derogatory, dissatisfied with their children. Warm, understanding and accepting. Hostile and antisocial Poor self-control, difficulty with social interactions when teenagers. Compliant with parent’s wishes Happy and friendly Dissatisfied with themselves.

Matching Key Responsive to children's’ needs. Indifferent to children, ignore them Reject their children Critical, derogatory, dissatisfied with their children. Warm, understanding and accepting. Hostile and antisocial Poor self-control, difficulty with social interactions when teenagers. Compliant with parent’s wishes Happy and friendly Dissatisfied with themselves.

Types of Parenting Styles and Outcomes There are three Parenting Styles. Authoritarian (Brick Wall) Permissive (Jelly Fish) Democratic (Backbone) Each style has been studied, and each style has been associated with an outcome for children

Authoritarian Style: Limits without Freedom. Parents’ word is law, parents have absolute control. Misconduct is punished Affection and praise are rarely give Parents try to control children's’ behavior and attitudes They value unquestioned obedience Children are told what to do, how to do it, and where to do it, and when to do it.

Outcomes of Authoritarian Style Blindly Obedient Distrustful Withdrawn Unhappy Hostile Not High Achievers Passive Children from authoritarian homes are so strictly controlled that they are often prevented from making their own decisions

Permissive Style: Freedom without limits. Parents allow their children to do their own thing. Little respect for order and routine. Parents make few demands on children. Discipline is lax: rarely punish Non controlling, non-demanding Usually warm, indulgent Children walk all over the parents

Outcome of Permissive Parenting Aggressive Least self—reliant Least self-controlled Least exploratory Most unhappy Children from permissive homes often get used to having what they want, but without guidance; they can be spoiled, aimless, anxious, insecure, rebellious

Democratic (Authoritative): Freedom within limits. Middle ground between the two above Parents set reasonable limits and enforce rules Willing to listen receptively to child’s requests interests, and questions. Children contribute to discussion of issues and make some of their own decisions Exert firm control when necessary, but explain reasoning behind it. Loving, consistent, demanding Combine control with encouragement

Outcomes of Democratic Style Happy Mostly self-reliant Friendly, generous Cooperative High-achiever’ Less likely to be disruptive or delinquent Children whose parents expect them to perform well, to fulfill commitments, and to participate actively in family duties, experience the satisfaction that comes from meeting responsibilities and achieving success.

Back bone: parents need it.

Ways that parents can build a child's self-esteem. Provide more successes than failures for the child. Give lots of encouragement. Give them freedom to fail with acceptance. Allow independence. Give unconditional love. Do not set standards unreasonably high. Avoid ridicule. Eliminate the negative.

Ways that parents can build a child's self-esteem. Be available. Be a good role model. Give your children responsibility Help your child develop talents Take their ideas, emotions and feelings seriously. Set Limits Allow exploration and encourage questions.

Summary: Democratic parents provide the best outcomes for their kids How you parent (what the home environment is like) effects your child’s emotional well being for the rest of their lives What parenting styles and outcomes have you seen?