DISCIPLINE WITHOUT TEARS Rudolf Dreikurs, M.D., and Pearl Cassel
“All living things know what to do with their young-except the parents of today. We parents and teachers must first build a new tradition, if we want to live in a world of peaceful co- existence.” (Dreikurs, 7)
Autocratic Boss domination Power Faultfinding Punishing Democratic Leader Guidance Influence Encouragement Helping
CHILDREN’S GOALS OF MISBEHAVIOR The 4 goals Attention Getting Power Revenge Display of inadequacy
CHART 1 IDENTIFYING THE GOALS OF CHILDREN’S MISBEHAVIOR Goals Success/charmNuisance/laziness Teacher feels annoyed Goal 1 Attention Getting Rebel/Stubborn Teacher feels defeated Goal 2 Power Vicious/violent passivity Teacher feels deeply hurt Goal 3 Revenge Hopeless Teacher feels helpless Goal 4 Display of Inadequacy
THE STEPS o Observe the child’s behavior in detail. o Be psychologically sensitive to your own reaction. o Confront the child with the four goals. o Note the recognition reflex. o Apply appropriate corrective procedures. o How are you (the teacher) feeling?
THE RIGHT QUESTIONS ???
Competition Encouragement Praise v.s encouragement Logical Consequences not punishment Pair Share Logical Consequences and a praise v.s. encouragement
CONFLICT SOLVING Don’t fight, don’t give in. Identify the nature of the conflict. Reach an agreement. Let everybody in the conflict participate in the decision-making.
WHICH MISTAKEN GOAL? Pair share Weaknesses?
THANK YOU Questions ????