Overcoming Perfectionism

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Overcoming Perfectionism Powerpoint for information – workshop will not be directly using this material Ohemaa Nkansa-Dwamena LSE Student Counselling Service

Aims Examine difficulties with perfectionism Identify the causes and how it develops Explore common myths and thinking errors Identify strategies to overcome it Review sources of help

Introduction What is perfectionism?

Are you a perfectionist? Do you feel like what you accomplish is never quite good enough? Do you often put off handing in papers or projects, waiting to get them just right? Do you feel you must give more than 100% on everything you do or else you will be mediocre or even a failure? Are you working toward success or trying to be perfect - too perfect!

What is perfectionism? Self-defeating thoughts and behaviours associated with high ideals, not realistic goals. Often mistakenly seen as desirable or even necessary for success. Recent studies show that perfectionist attitudes actually interfere with success. The desire to be perfect can deny you a sense of satisfaction and cause you to achieve far less than people with more realistic goals.

Key Elements Your expectations of yourself Your expectations of others Others expectations of you

Causes of perfectionism If you are a perfectionist, it is likely that you learned early in life that you were mainly valued for your achievements. You may have learned to value yourself only on the basis of other people's approval. Your self-esteem may be based primarily on external standards. This can leave you vulnerable and sensitive to the opinions and criticism of others. To protect yourself you may decide that being perfect is your only defence.

Negative thoughts and feelings • Fear of failure. • Fear of making mistakes. • Fear of disapproval. • All-or-nothing thinking. • Over-emphasis on ‘should’, ‘must’ and ‘ought’. • Never being good enough.

How does it develop? Early experiences parents’ expectations rewards and reinforcements punishments modelling behaviour and information Assessment of worth – ‘I am stupid’ Strategies to manage it ‘I must achieve the highest standards or be a complete failure’

How is it maintained? Current triggers – eg exams, presentations Negative predictions – ‘I may not do it well/ others will think I am stupid Unhelpful behaviours, eg avoidance of writing, constant checking Confirming our negative beliefs Self Critical thoughts – ‘I’ve failed again’ Depression and low mood

Vicious circle Set an unreachable goal. Fail, as the goal was impossible to begin with. Constant pressure to achieve perfection and inevitable chronic failure reduces your effectiveness. This leads you to be self critical and self-blaming, which can lead to low self-esteem, anxiety and depression. At this point you may give up completely on your original goal and set yourself another unrealistic goal, thinking "This time if only I try harder I will succeed".

4 common myths with perfectionism You can’t succeed without it It gets you the best results It enables you to overcome obstacles It helps you achieve and please others

Myth 1: I wouldn’t be the success I am if I weren't such a perfectionist REALITY: No evidence that perfectionists are more successful, more likely the reverse! Success may be achieved despite compulsive striving.

Myth 2: Perfectionists get things done and they do things right. REALITY: Procrastination, missed deadlines, low productivity Small tasks become overwhelming Agonizing over non-critical details.

Myth 3: Perfectionists are determined to overcome all obstacles to success REALITY: Can’t concentrate on the process of getting the task done. Writer’s block Depression and anxiety.

Myth 4: Perfectionists just have this enormous desire to please others REALITY: Relationships become complicated Achievers are willing to make mistakes and risk failure. Imperfection is part of being human.

What can I do about it? Realize that perfectionism is undesirable perfection is an illusion that is unattainable. Challenge self-defeating thoughts and behaviours that fuel perfectionism. Cost benefit analysis of keeping high standards Identify goals – general and specific – to be less perfectionistic

Challenging Perfectionism - I Identify negative/ faulty thoughts List possible alternatives Consider the positive and negative of the original and alternative thoughts Choose a more realistic way to view the situation or that fuel perfectionism.

Recording thoughts and feelings Situation Emotion Intensity (Rate 0 -10) Perfectionistic beliefs and interpretations Alternative thoughts Rewriting an essay Anxiety – 5 Frustration - 7 If I don’t get each sentence right, my tutor will think I’m stupid They are more concerned with my ideas than each sentence Anxiety – 8 I have to know everything or else people will see me as a useless failure  

Challenging Perfectionism - II Exposure based strategies Hierarchy – rank and practice Stopping negative actions (eg constant checking, rewriting) Communication Being assertive Listening and paying attention to non verbal communication Effective Prioritising Overcoming Procrastination

Strategies to move forward – I Set realistic and reachable goals Set subsequent goals in a sequential manner Experiment with your standards for success. Try for 80% or even 60% Focus on the process of doing an activity not just the end result. Evaluate success in terms of what you accomplished and whether you enjoyed the task.

Strategies to move forward - II Check your feelings. Monitor feelings of anxiety and depression. "Have I set up impossible expectations for myself in this situation?" Face your fears that may be behind your perfectionism by asking yourself "What am I afraid of? What is the worst thing that could happen?" Celebrate your mistakes "What can I learn from this experience?"

Conclusions Look after yourself (diet, sleep) Keep a supportive structure for your daily life; have relaxation time See writing as a time of discovery Recall past achievements Challenge negative thoughts Imagine looking back at the task in 3 or 6 months time

Sources of Help TLC Study skills advisors Disability Office LSE Learning world: http://learning.lse.ac.uk/ Speak to other students Tutor or Departmental Tutor Mental Health and Wellbeing Advisor

LSE Student Counselling Service Free and confidential Groups and Workshops programme Self Esteem Group – Monday 11th February. 3 week group, meets 11am – 1pm. Places available. Stress Management Group – Thursday 21st February. 3 week group, meets 11am – 1pm. Places available. Further workshops on procrastination, exams Website has information about the Service Stress management handout Relaxation tape MP3’s Links to self help resources