The Five Languages of Apology. Forgive and Forget: Is it possible to do both?

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The Five Languages of Apology

Forgive and Forget: Is it possible to do both?

Love means never having to say you’re sorry.

-- Why don’t people apologize? -- Can you forgive without an apology?

What do we look for in an apology?

Expressing Regret Accepting Responsibility Making Restitution Genuinely Repenting Requesting Forgiveness The Five Languages of Apology

Expressing Regret “I am sorry.” The Five Languages of Apology:

I know now that I hurt you very deeply. That causes me immense pain. I am truly sorry for what I did. You were promised a service that we have not provided. I am sorry our company clearly dropped the ball this time. I obviously was not thinking very well. I never meant to hurt you, but I can see that my words were way out of line. I’m sorry that I was so insensitive. I feel really bad I disappointed you. I should have been more thoughtful. I’m sorry I caused you so much pain. Statements of Regret

Accepting Responsibility “I was wrong.” The Five Languages of Apology:

I made a big mistake. I wasn’t thinking at the time. But looking back, that was a problem. I wish I had thought before I acted. I was wrong. I spoke out of anger, trying to justify myself, but it was unkind and untrue. I was wrong. I repeated a mistake that we’ve discussed before. I messed up. I know it was my fault. Statements of Accepting Responsibility:

Making Restitution “ What can I do to make it right?” The Five Languages of Apology:

Is there anything I can do to make up for what I have done? Just saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t seem right. I want to make it up to you somehow; what would you consider appropriate? I’ve broken this promise again; would it help if I put my commitment in writing? I damaged your honor. Can I make a public correction in some way? Statements of Restitution

Genuinely Repenting “ I’ll try not to do that again.” The Five Languages of Apology:

How could I say that in a different way that would not come across as critical? I know my behavior was painful to you, and I don’t want to cause you pain. I’m open to any ideas you may have for me. I let you down again. What would it take for you to rebuild your trust in me? Statements of Genuine Repentance

Check this out: Languages of Apology Expressing Regret Accepting Responsibility Making Restitution Genuinely Repenting Act of Contrition O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended you. And I detest all my sins, because of Your just punishments, but most of all because they offend You, my God, who are all-good and deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve, with the help of Your grace, to sin no more.

Requesting Forgiveness “Will you please forgive me?” The Five Languages of Apology:

I know what I did hurt you very deeply. You have every right never to speak to me again, but I am truly sorry for what I did. And I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me. I’m sorry for the way I spoke. You didn’t deserve that. It was wrong of me. I’m asking you to forgive me. Statements of Requesting Forgiveness

75% of couples surveyed differed in their most preferred apology language In 15% of the couples, one member’s primary apology language was the other member’s last choice If you apologize to others in the way you most want to be apologized to, on average you won’t stumble upon their favorite apology language until the third attempt 3 of every 4 couples must learn to speak an apology language different from the one they most want to hear Just the facts:

How do I know what my primary apology language is?

How do I discover someone else’s language?

--- All five languages have merit --- Speak the primary one to communicate sincerity --- Sprinkle in the other four for emotional extra credit --- When you don’t know the other’s primary language, cover all your bases Remember: