V IOLENCE & A BUSE Days 1 & 2

VI · O · LENCE

A · BUSE

VI · O · LENCE Behavior involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something.

A · BUSE bad or improper treatment; maltreat ment

On a clean sheet of paper please come up with your own personal definition for Violence Abuse

W HAT IS THE DIFFERENCE ? VIOLENCE VS ABUSE

D OMESTIC V IOLENCE Acts of violence or abuse against a person living in one’s household, especially a member of one’s immediate household

F AMILY A BUSE Family abuse is when a parent or caregiver abuses, mistreats, or neglects you or other people in your family.

E MOTIONAL A BUSE This kind of abuse, also known as psychological abuse, is difficult to identify because it doesn't leave physical marks. Still, emotional abuse can be as painful as physical abuse. Here are some examples of emotional abuse

E XAMPLES OF E MOTIONAL A BUSE Verbal abuse: name calling, insulting, and criticizing to hurt feelings Ridiculing Humiliating in public (yelling at someone, pushing them around, or speaking down to them in front of others) Telling someone they’re a bad person Giving someone the “silent treatment”

E XAMPLES OF E MOTIONAL A BUSE Giving someone the “silent treatment” Threatening to hurt someone or a person they care about (or threatening to harm a pet) Threatening to leave a young person somewhere, or to leave the home and never return Abusing someone else (sibling, parent, or pet) in front of a young person Fighting in front of someone

P HYSICAL A BUSE often the most easily recognized form of abuse. Physical abuse can be any kind of hitting, shaking, burning, pinching, biting, choking, throwing, beating, and other actions that cause physical injury, leave marks, or cause pain.

P HYSICAL A BUSE Hitting Slapping Biting Kicking Pulling hair Scratching Shaking Choking Arm twisting Using an object, such as a belt or bat, to cause pain

V ERBAL A BUSE Verbal abuse is the use of language to manipulate, control, ridicule, insult, humiliate, belittle, and show disrespect and disdain to another, and is often a component of other types of abuse.

V ERBAL A BUSE Accusing / Blaming Accusing and blaming another for ones own outbursts, expressions of anger, bad moods, mistakes, and failures. Covert / Subtle Seemingly sincere, expressed in a loving and concerned manner, but placing all blame and fault on the other person in an excusive or condescending manner. Denial The inability to admit and take responsibility for ones actions and words concurrent with accusations and blame directed at the one abused. Judgemental Criticism Criticism that goes beyond neutral Humiliation Public or private intentional shaming and embarrassment of any kind. Manipulation Appealing to and/or using another's sense of responsibility or obligation to achieve a personal goal. Name Calling / Epithets Ridicule Teasing / Joking

S EXUAL A BUSE when an adult uses a child or youth for sexual pleasure, or uses sexual acts as a way of demonstrating power or authority. Sexual abuse often involves some kind of physical contact, but it can also happen without touching.

S EXUAL A BUSE Touching a young person’s genitals or making them touch an adult’s genitals Having sex or trying to have sex with a young person Taking off a young person’s clothes or forcing them to watch them take off their clothes, especially in a sexual way Making sexual comments about a young person’s body Forcing a young person to watch others have sex Making a young person watch porn or look at X-rated magazines Taking pictures of a young person without clothes on

N EGLECT Sometimes parents don’t or are unable to provide for their children’s basic needs. This is called neglect. Parents are legally required to provide: Safe, warm, dry shelter and clean, weather-appropriate clothing Nutritious food Adequate hygiene (soap, shampoo, and a place to take showers or baths) Supervision and guidance

N EGLECT Education (i.e. ensuring that you attend school or receive home schooling) Emotional support (i.e talking to their children, showing interest and affection) Medical care (i.e. basic preventative care like going to the dentist or doctor on a regular basis, trips to the doctor when you’re sick, visits to the hospital in medical emergencies )

W ANTS VS N EEDS Parents are responsible for meeting their children’s needs – but not their wants. An example of a need would be a warm coat in the wintertime. An example of a want would be a trendy winter coat. While parents are required to provide their child with warm winter clothing, they’re not required to provide them with the particular coat they want.

S HOULD P ARENTS LOSE C USTODY custody-of-severely-obese-kids Class disscussion Initial thoughts and rea

T YPES OF A BUSE R OLE P LAYS Each group will have 5 minutes to come up with a role play that depicts the type of abuse they have been assigned to. Please keep it clean everyone!

Group Discussion Do you feel like you are being abused? What's the difference between abuse and discipline?

W HAT EFFECTS DOES A BUSE AND V IOLENCE HAVE ?

W HAT IS THE C YCLE OF A BUSE ? People who are abused often keep their abuse a secret- why?