Let’s talk dating…

1. What is your ideal or dream date? 2. What would be (or has been) your worst date? 3. Your first date was…. 4. I think dating should be… Dating is about getting to know each other and getting to know YOURSELF.

 Socialization ◦ To develop appropriate social skills. (use proper communication skills) ◦ To practice getting along with others in different settings. ◦ To learn about yourself and to build confidence.

 Recreation ◦ To have fun and enjoy the companionship of others. ◦ To try new and different activities. ◦ Gain new experiences.

 Mate Selection ◦ To see others in many different settings. ◦ To compare the personality and characteristics of many people. ◦ To learn about the opposite sex. Lightening

 Look at your 4 dating plans and evaluate each of them on the other side of the paper for how they follow, or do not follow, the 3 purposes of dating. ◦ 3=You should write a book on dating ◦ 2=Room for improvement so add some variety ◦ 1=Sad. Your date, and you, deserve better ◦ 0=Why even go on the date?  Could this be why you had the worst date? Explain:  Now Look at your ideal date and adjust it to meet the 3 purposes of dating. Change or add at least 1new idea to better the date.

$$$$ get’s in the way of dating. Either we think we don’t have enough for the date or we spend too much on the date. Both influencing the dating experience!  In Your Study Guide the assignment says: ◦ Your assignment is to go on a date! But, the catch is you can only spend $5.00, this does not include gas. Below is a list of suggestions from the boys/girls. Make sure your try and follow the items suggested by the boys/girls below. Be creative! The best way to do this assignment is to go with a group and put all the money together to help it stretch farther. Write a brief summary of what you did on your date and how the date went. Have your date sign the bottom. GOOD LUCK and HAVE FUN!  Due: __________________. This is me (big)

Young or Old Woman?

 Write or draw 3-5 pieces of information about you really big on the paper.  “Speed Dating” ◦ Hold paper in front of you and walk around reading what everyone wrote. 1. Sit with one person and discuss papers 2. Your group of 2 grab another group of 2 3. Your group of 4 grab another group of 4 4. Your group of 8 grab another group of 8  How did round 1 differ from round 4? ◦ Compare single dating to group dating pro’s/con’s

 The most stable and meaningful relationships are between people who know each other well. (Superficial vs. Personal)  They use their mouths for talking.  Attraction to each other is NOT enough for the relationship to develop and survive. ◦ What problems occur when the relationship progresses physically without the stability of knowing each other?  HOW Can we get to know each other better?

 Do these with your table partners.  What are 2 questions you could ask your date to get to know them better?  Group members answer these questions  What are 2 inexpensive dates you could plan that will allow you to get to know your date better?

 Why did your parents name you what they did?  When is your birthday?  What is your favorite birthday cake?  Where were you born?  What is your favorite color?  How tall are you?  Do you have a job?  Favorite Movie?  What type of music do you listen to?  Why do you think people use curse words?  If you could add one item to your bedroom, what would it be?  Describe your perfect day…  What qualities do you look for in a date? In boy/girlfriend?  When are you (or have been) most afraid?  What is the one thing you couldn’t live with out?  If you could pick a new first name, what would it be?  If you could change one thing about yourself what would you change?  What’s job would you never want to have?  What is the most important thing in your life?  What are you the most passionate about?  Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?  What is the one thing that people DON’T notice about you that you WISHED they would?  Where do you see yourself and what will you be doing this same time next year?  If you could do anything today, what would it be?  What is your biggest pet peeve (something that bugs you)  What is the best vacation you have ever taken?  If your house was on fire, what is the one thing you would grab on the way out?   What house hold chore do you hate the most?  How many times have you moved?  How long does it take for you to get ready in the morning?  What is your favorite time of year? Why?  Do you put things off until they are due?  On a scale from 1-10, what is generally your “Happiness” level?  Do you arrive early, on time or late?  Who is the best teacher you have ever had and why?  Are you a frugal or impulse buyer?  How often do you exercise? Do you go to the gym or exercise by yourself?  Do you like kids?  When you get out of bed do you make it right away or make it later?  When you park at a store, do you park in the same place or random places?  Do you like traditions?  Do you like scary, action, funny or uplifting movies?  Do you like to plan things or are you spur of the moment?  Do you like to dress up and go out or do you like to go casual?  What is your favorite holiday, why?  What is the one thing that you can’t stand doing, why?  What is your favorite flavor of ice cream?  What is your favorite sit down/fast food restaurant? What would you order?  Do you like cartoons?  What is your favorite type of food?  What sport do you enjoy playing?  What sport do you enjoy watching?  What is your favorite Disney movie?  What do you do to cheer yourself up when you are sad?  What possession would you never let anyone borrow?  What makes you laugh?  Are you an early bird or a night owl?  If you could change something that happened to you what would it be?  What do you like to eat for breakfast?  Is your bed made?

 Socially ◦ Manners, polite, able to make friends, gets along with others  Emotionally ◦ Controls emotions, expresses feelings appropriately, cares about other people (family)  Cognitively ◦ Can they think and act for themselves? Sense of humor, follows a personal values and belief system, priorities, goals  Physically ◦ Habits, hygiene, activity level, cares 31 flavors

 An important function of dating is to be able to (test) compare personalities and characteristics in different settings to discover the real person. ◦ Bowling in a prom dress for a date  You can learn something about yourself too. Cat and Mouse

 Cat and Mouse  Hug a potholder  Wink em’  Lightening Bolt  Fruit Basket  Rise to the Occasion  It takes 2 (to smash a balloon)  Paper bag  Animal sounds