AWAKENING “Obtaining essential knowledge about bullying.“ Prepared by: Resty John C. Dimal

Bullying defined  Bullying involves an imbalance of power between the bully and the victim, is intentionally harmful and occurs repetitively. (Olweus et al., 1999).

Facts about bullying – adapted from the Kentucky State 4-H teen Council’s Bullying Program: “Bullying Awareness Lessons, Activities, and Resources”  An estimated 160,000 students miss school every day due to fear of bullying or harassment.

Facts about bullying – adapted from the Kentucky State 4-H teen Council’s Bullying Program: “Bullying Awareness Lessons, Activities, and Resources”  There appears to be a strong relationship between bullying as a youth and experiencing legal and criminal problems as an adult.

Facts about bullying – adapted from the Kentucky State 4-H teen Council’s Bullying Program: “Bullying Awareness Lessons, Activities, and Resources”  In middle school, boys who are more passive or less physically mature than their peers are most often the target of bullies. Girls who physically mature early are most often the target of bullies.

Forms of bullying (  Physical o is the most obvious form of bullying o occurs when kids use physical actions to gain power and control over their targets o Physical bullies tend to be bigger, stronger and more aggressive than their peers.

 Verbal o is the use of words, statements and name- calling to gain power and control over a target. o verbal bullies will use relentless insults to belittle, demean and hurt another person. o is often very difficult to identify because attacks almost always occur when adults aren’t around. Forms of bullying (

 Emotional/Social o is a type of social manipulation where tweens and teens try to hurt their peers or sabotage their social standing o emotional/social bullies often ostracize others from a group, spread rumors, manipulate situations and break confidences

Forms of bullying (  Cyber o is a growing issue among young people o it is when a tween or a teen uses the Internet, a cell phone or other technology to harass, threaten, embarrass or target another person o Cyberbullies often say things that they do not have the courage to say face-to-face because technology makes them feel anonymous.

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002) The Bully

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002)  The Bully o Come in all shapes and sizes o Some bright and some not so bright o Some attractive and some not so attractive o Some popular and some disliked by almost everybody

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002)  For the bullies it is not about anger or even about conflict it is about contempt

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002)  Contempt as (Coloroso 2002) defined, is a powerful feeling of dislike toward someone considered to be worthless, inferior or undeserving of respect.

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002) THE BULLIED

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002)  The Bullied o Targeted by the bully o Singled out to be the object of scorn, and thus the recipient of bullying merely because he or she was different is some way

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002) The Bullied o Warning signs:  Shows abrupt lack of interest in school

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002) The Bullied o Warning signs:  Does something out of character

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002) The Bullied o Warning signs:  Has physical injuries with no consistent explanation

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002) The Bullied o Why they don’t tell:  They are ashamed of being bullied  They are afraid of retaliation  They have learned that “ratting” on a peer is bad, not cool

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002) The Bullied o Why they don’t tell:  They don’t think anyone can/will help them  They’ve bought into the lie that bullying is a necessary part of growing up  They might believe that adults are part of the lie – the bully too

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002) The Bystander

Roles in the bullying cycle – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002) The Bystander o Supporting cast who aid and abet the bully o Acts of omission/commission o Stand idly by/actively encourages/join in

Do’s and Don’ts – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002)  Don’ts o Minimize, rationalize, or explain away the bully’s behavior o Rush in to solve the problem o Tell the victim to avoid the bully o Tell the victim to fight back o Confront the bully or the bully’s parents alone

Do’s and Don’ts – adapted from the bully, the bullied, and the bystander (Coloroso 2002)  Do’s o I hear you; I am here for you; I believe you; you are not alone in this o It is not your fault o There are things you can do o Report the bullying to school personnel

THE GREATEST FILIPINO HERO – adapted from the Kentucky State 4-H teen Council’s Bullying Program: “Bullying Awareness Lessons, Activities, and Resources”: Greatest American hero  ASK OURSELVES  What is a bystander?  Do you think bystanders can be neutral when they see others being bullied?  How do you feel when you see others bullied? What do you usually do?  What are some things bystanders can do to stop bullying in their schools?

THE GREATEST FILIPINO HERO – adapted from the Kentucky State 4-H teen Council’s Bullying Program: “Bullying Awareness Lessons, Activities, and Resources”: Greatest American hero  OUR TASK Groups of Draw “The Greatest Filipino Hero” Come up with a name for the hero On the side list the “stats” of the superhero

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