Guiding your kid to make a right choice. Cause and Consequence : Speaker: Mr. Ng Man-ching (SGO) Miss Ivy Chou (Social worker)

 Taking an active interest in your child’s affairs and guiding them carefully throughout adolescence can make a big difference in the decisions he/she makes and in his/her future success in the world.

The skills, attitudes and behaviors that constitute protective factors need to be nurtured over time. Helping in this development is one of the most important contributions a parent can make.

Risk factors are far easier to correct when you address them from the outset. Protective factors nurtured from a young age will establish themselves deeply by adolescence.

Cause and Consequence All starts from --- Communication

1 、（） Have you ever play with your family? A. Always B. Sometimes C. Seldom D. Never 2 、 ( ) Have you ever dine with your family? A. Always B. Sometimes C. Seldom D. Never 3 、（） Have you ever go to a trip with your family? A. Always B. Sometimes C. Seldom D. Never Intimate Level in your Family

5 、（） Will you take shower with your family? A. Always B. Sometimes C. Seldom D. Never 6 、（） Will you have some gathering with your family? A Always B Sometimes C Seldom D Never 4 、（） Will your family share the housework together? A Always B Sometimes (Share the housework together) C Seldom (Housework always distributed by mother) D Almost all the housework are done by mother

8 （） Will You share your personal feeling to your family? A. Always B. Sometimes C. Seldom D. Never 7 、（） Will you children talk about the funny thing happen in school? A. Children will tell parents actively B. Once parents ask, they will tell parents C. children seldom talk about that D. Even parents ask about that, their children will not mention about that.

9 、（） What will you do after having dinner? A. We will chat after having dinner B. To clean away the dishes C. Watch T.V. D. Back to your own room 10 （） How to celebrate your birthday with your family? A. Always B. Sometimes C. Seldom D. Never

5 principals of communicating and teaching your children Hold your stand point To be Fair Acceptance Modeling LOVE Same Parenting Style

4 limitations that should not do when you teaching your children  Soft-hearted  Threaten  U nfair  C omparison

Cause and Consequences Parents (1) Authoritarian parenting style.  Focus on discipline  Discipline is usually a form of reward and punishment (2) Permissive parenting style  No guidance  Ignore and don’t care the children (3) Democratic parenting style.  Respect  Listen to Children ideas Children (1) Your Children always rebel against you and have explosive temper (2) Your Children become unsociable and isolated (3) Your Children will become a caring, respectful person

Good Communication Skill Attitude － Trust － Concern and care － provide more chance for your children to express themselves － Fair and Honestly Skills － encourage communicating － Active listening － “I” message

Cause and Consequence

 Unexplained absences from school and drop in academic performance  Staying out till very late frequently  Stealing small items from home and school or persistently asking for more pocket money  Withdrawal into their own room or away from the family for unusually long periods Some Signs to Watch Out

 Wearing sunglasses at inappropriate times to hide dilated or constricted pupils  Wearing long-sleeved shirts to hide needle marks  Loss of appetite  Mood instability

How to steer the children away from drugs?  Share your feeling with your children  Hold the reasonable expectations of your children  Let your children know how important they are to you  Let your children learn to make decisions  Set an example to the youth  Let them know how drugs ruin their lives  Seek help from the professionals when necessary

Cause and Consequence Be flexible — the same approach won’t work for everyone Every family is different. Every child is unique. Don’t be afraid to adapt the information from Mr. Ng (SGO) and others.

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