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BEYOND THE HURT Don’t Laugh at Me Written by Allen Shamblin & Steve Seskin © 1998 Mercury Records DLAM: Folk DLAM: Hip Hop

BEYOND THE HURT Peer violence in the news

BEYOND THE HURT How often does bullying happen in Canada? a. One incident a week b. One incident every 7 minutes c.One incident every hour d.One incident every 30 days

BEYOND THE HURT a. 1 out of 4 b. 1 out of 10 c.1 out of 100 d.1 out of 1000 How many youth have been harassed over a cell phone or on ?

BEYOND THE HURT a.Nothing. They are the same thing. b. Bullying is done to hurt someone and rough house play is done in fun. c. With rough house play no one ever gets hurt. d. Bullying usually only happens once. What is the difference between bullying and rough house play?

BEYOND THE HURT a. It never works. b. It works 25% of the time. c.It works all the time. d.It works 57% of the time and the bullying stops in 10 seconds or less. How often are youth successful in stopping bullying when they stand up and help the person being targeted?

The role of power “With great power comes great responsibility.”

BEYOND THE HURT What is power? Power is about having choices about who you are and what you do; it is the ability to make something happen. EVERYBODY HAS THE POWER TO EITHER HELP OR HURT OTHERS.

BEYOND THE HURT Definition of bullying Bullying is intentionally mean, cruel, hurtful behaviour. It is about using power in a negative way to hurt others.

BEYOND THE HURT Bullying can be:  Physical  Verbal  Relational  Cyber Bullying

BEYOND THE HURT 4 steps to stop CYBER BULLYING : 1. STOP – Do not try to reason with or talk to someone who is cyber Bullying you. 2. BLOCK: Use the block sender technology to prevent the person from contacting you again. 3. TALK: Tell a trusted adult, inform your school, use a help line and/or report it to police. 4. SAVE: Save any instant messages or s you receive from the person who is bullying you. News clip

BEYOND THE HURT Participants in bullying  Person who bullies  Person who is targeted or victimized  People who are the bystanders or witnesses

BEYOND THE HURT Black and Purple: Breanne Lawrenson

BEYOND THE HURT  Harassment is:  similar to bullying because someone hurts another person through cruel, offensive and insulting behaviour  is different in that it is a form of discrimination Definition of harassment

BEYOND THE HURT Discrimination  Treating people differently and badly based on certain characteristics or differences.  What are some of the reasons/ways people in your environment are treated differently?

BEYOND THE HURT Our human rights It is against our Human Rights laws to treat anyone differently or badly because of: race, ethnic origin, religion, age, sex, marital status, family status, disability, pardoned conviction and sexual orientation.

BEYOND THE HURT Types of harassment  Harassment of personal characteristics  Racial harassment  Disability harassment  Sexual harassment

BEYOND THE HURT Sexual minority youth  Gay and lesbian youth are bullied, harassed and physically assaulted more than heterosexual youth.  Why do you think this happens?  Do you know what homophobia is?

BEYOND THE HURT Intent vs. impact

BEYOND THE HURT Intent vs. impact

BEYOND THE HURT Intent vs. impact

BEYOND THE HURT Always, sometimes, never  This is a game that will help us better understand harassment.  It makes us think about how each of us looks at situations differently and how our actions impact others.

BEYOND THE HURT Reasons to STOP bullying and harassment : Youth who are targeted may experience : low self-esteem, anger, sadness, fear, loneliness, problems with relationships, problems with schoolwork, eating disorders, self-cutting/harm, suicide, substance abuse.

BEYOND THE HURT Reasons to STOP bullying and harassment : Youth who bully or harass may experience : loneliness, depression, difficulty controlling aggression, poor/weak friendships and other relationships, increased risk of criminal involvement later in life, difficulty in school and work, poor mental health, suicide.

BEYOND THE HURT Reasons to STOP bullying and harassment : Youth who are bystanders may experience: anger, helplessness, guilt, fear, anxiety and/or feeling unsafe.

BEYOND THE HURT Rights & Responsibilities EVERYONE HAS RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES.

BEYOND THE HURT If you are bullying or harassing others: S S top the behaviour T T ake responsibility for your actions O O pen your mind to finding new ways of relating positively to others P P revent situations that influence you to bully.

BEYOND THE HURT If you are being targeted : A A void being alone with the person who bullies C C all for help T T ake a stand – Tell the person bullying to stop the behavior Use humor or walk away Do not believe negative bullying messages

BEYOND THE HURT If you see someone being bullied or harassed: C C heck the scene for safety A A ffirm the person being targeted and speak up against the bullying R R etreat — and report the situation E E nd the incident by documenting what happened.

BEYOND THE HURT Remember: It’s not your fault! You have a right to be treated with respect and feel safe! If you need help, talk to someone you trust. If they don’t help you, tell someone else! You have the power to help stop bullying and harassment!