Believing in Yourself: Self Confidence “In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.”- Bill Cosby Bill CosbyBill Cosby

The Power of Thought  All behavior begins and ends as thoughts  Bad thoughts vs. Good thoughts  Think-Feel-Act model

Importance of Thoughts  Thoughts are unavoidable  Our thoughts influence our actions  Self-fulfilling prophecy

ActFeel How thoughts works for you Think

ActFeel How thoughts works for you You get so worked up you start feeling it start to make errors you might not of made Think I know I am going to have anxiety about this and I know I will do bad

How thoughts works for you  Imagine of a time in the pass where you felt anxiety. What was the situation? What did it feel like? What lead up to this feeling? What was the outcome?  Let’s look at this closer to see what was happening in the situation and how you could of changed the thought that lead to the feelings that lead to the action that let to the…

The Thought I have a test coming up! The Felling I did not do well on my last test! I never do well on tests! The Action I am not going to even try to study If I study I am going to get more anxiety Besides I have studied a lot before and look at what good that did

STOP IT BEFORE IT STARTS. WITH ANXIETY THERE IS A BUILDUP TO THE POINT IN WHICH YOU FEEL AND ACT ON IT!

The Thought I did not do well on my last test! I have a test coming up! The Felling I never do well on tests! The Action Use ImagingBe a buddy Never say never I am not going to even try to study If I study I am going to get more anxiety Besides I have studied a lot before and look at what good that did

The Thought The Felling The Action Use Imaging I picture myself doing well Be a buddy I have decided to change and am taking steps to do better Never say never I choose to think positive

The Thought The Felling The Action I am not going to even try to study If I study I am going to get more anxiety Besides I have studied a lot before and look at what good that did I picture myself doing well I have decided to change and am taking steps to do better I choose to think positive Put your thoughts into action Use relaxing thoughts Monitor what works and what doesn't

The Thought The Felling The Action I picture myself doing well I have decided to change and am taking steps to do better I choose to think positive Put your thoughts into action Use relaxing thoughts Monitor what works and what doesn't I now can study without feeling dejected If I start to feel anxiety I will relax I have learned and will learn what works

Decoding Self-Confidence  The belief in oneself  A self-confident person thinks that he or she can reach a goal or cope with a that situation  What happens when confidence is lost?

Learned Helplessness  Identified by Psychologist Martin Seligman  The tendency for humans and animals alike to become helpless at things they can not change  Illustration: Poor dog

So people that are self-confident think and act differently?!  While our thoughts affect our confidence, our behaviors foster it!  Nothing creates the belief that something can be done like actually doing that something!  Nothing succeeds like Success!

Self-confidence Cycle Feeling of Competence Self-Motivation Using Strategies of Success ActionsSuccessSelf-confidence

Four Techniques for Building Self-Confidence 1) Regulate your emotional level Being aware of our feelings helps us recognize what we are thinking Being aware of our feelings helps us recognize what we are thinking Reduce the drive to avoid your goal Reduce the drive to avoid your goal Block the fear producer from your awareness Block the fear producer from your awareness Use relaxation techniques Use relaxation techniques

Techniques Con’t 2) Seek Affirmation What does Stewart Smally say? What does Stewart Smally say? Works just as well in an academic setting Works just as well in an academic setting Encouragement from Encouragement from

3) Pick the Right Models  Are women on the cover of Vogue the best way to judge your own body?  Pick ones who are similar to yourself-ones who don’t have an army at there disposal to get them looking the way they do.  Maybe even choose a student in class who you know succeeds and watch how they do it

4) Just Do It  What better way is there to convince yourself of your own capability to cope or perform successfully than trying it and having a successful experience!  Reasonable risk  Bite-Size pieces