PARENTS, HOLD FAST! EPH. 6:1-4 1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. 4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. (By Ron Halbrook)
PARENTS, HOLD FAST! Intro.: 1.Eph. 6:1-4 Parents’ Duty: Teach Children to Love & Obey God 2.These Truths Help Us to Hold Fast: God Ordained Parental Duty & Authority as a Blessing. God Ordained the Duty of Discipline. Parents Must Lead in Practical Ways. Parents Must Hold Fast Whether or Not Children Cooperate.
I. God Ordained Parental Duty & Authority as a Blessing. A.God Ordained Husband-Wife Relationship & Authority of Parents Over Children. Based on Unselfish Love Blesses All of Us
I. God Ordained Parental Duty & Authority As a Blessing. B. Eph. 6:1-4 Addresses Our Duties: Vs. 1 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 Honour thy father and mother;” Outward Conformity, Inward Submission Vs. 2 “(which is the first commandment with promise;) First, Foremost, Foundational Vs. 3 “ That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.” Promotes Well-Being, Protects
I. God Ordained Parental Duty & Authority As a Blessing. B. Eph. 6:1-4 Addresses Our Duties: 4 “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” Fathers Bear First & Greatest Responsibility Anger, Rebellion Provoked by Sin & Abuse Instruct by Correction & by Affectionate Rebuke
I. God Ordained Parental Duty & Authority As a Blessing. C. Col. 3:18-21 Addresses Our Duties: Vs. 18 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” Submit to Please God First Vs. 19 “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.” Lead by Unselfish Love VS Bitterness Vs. 20 “ Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.” Obey to Please God First
I. God Ordained Parental Duty & Authority As a Blessing. C. Col. 3:18-21 Addresses Our Duties: Vs. 21 “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.” Address Man 2 nd Time! Sin & Abuse Provoke Rebellion Bitterness Toward Wife Provokes Anger in Child
I. God Ordained Parental Duty & Authority As a Blessing. D. The Divine Order Blesses Our Lives. Order of Physical Universe: Position of Sun, Moon, & Stars Order in Family Life Husband Love, Lead, Not Provoke Wife Submit, Cooperate Child Obey, Honor
II. God Ordained the Duty of Discipline. A.Parents Must Assert God-Given Authority. B. Liberal Psychologists Are Wrong, God Is Right. Dr. Benjamin Spock in 1950s-60s Liberal 1960s-70s Generation Despised Authority In 1980s Dr. Spock Admitted He Was Wrong! Eph. 6:1, 4 1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right…. 4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
II. God Ordained the Duty of Discipline. B. The Bible Was Right All Along About Discipline! Prov. 1:7; 22:6 God’s Handbook for Raising Children Prov. 13:24 “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” Prov. 19:18 “Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.” Prov. 22:15 “Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.”
II. God Ordained the Duty of Discipline. B. The Bible Was Right All Along About Discipline! Prov. 23:13 “Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.” Prov. 29:15 “The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.” Prov. 29:17 “Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.” When Child Defies Parent, Parent Must Hold Fast by Meting Out Consequences—Child Will Make It Unpleasant, Parent Make It More So!
II. God Ordained the Duty of Discipline. D. Eccl. 8:11 When Child Defies Parent, He Will Encroach More Unless Stopped. Parents Suffer Agony of Ungrateful Child. Church Suffers in Every Way. Society Suffers Failed Homes, Rebels, Destruction. Prov. 30:17 “The eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the young eagles shall eat it.”
III. Parents Must Lead in Practical Ways. A.God Teaches Duty of Practical Leadership. Duty of Eph. 6:4 Outlined in Deut. 6:4-9: Vs.4 “Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God is one LORD:” Vs. 5 “And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.” Vs. 6 “And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:” Vv. 7-9 “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children…”
III. Parents Must Lead in Practical Ways. B. Young People Yearn for Leadership! C. Some Ways Parents Can Lead: âPersonal Commitment: Obey Gospel, Read Bible & Pray, Be Faithful (2 Tim. 3:15) ã“Bring Them Up:” Spend Time with Them (Eph.6:4) ÐInsist They Prepare School & Bible Class Lessons (2 Tim. 3:16; Matt. 6:33) ÑOpen Home to Children & Friends (1 Cor. 11:34) æSet High Moral Standards çParents Have Final Say in Decisions èConsider Child’s Input, No Compromise in Principle éHelp Distinguish Harmless & Harmful Fads D. Miniskirt Battle: Parents Lead or Follow?
IV. We Must Hold Fast Whether or Not Children Cooperate. A.Prov. 22:6; Eph. 6:4 Our Duty Does Not Change with Whims of a Child. B.Gen. 18:19 Our Reaction to This Duty Reveals Our Character. C.1 Sam. 3:11-13 Eil Failed His Duty When His Children Rebelled. D.Deut. 21:18-21 Parents May Fulfill Their Duty, Yet Children Rebel. E.Josh. 24:15 God Is Looking for Leaders!
PARENTS, HOLD FAST! JOSH. 24:15 15 And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.