How to be Sexcessful: A Dialogue About Consent Developed at University of San Francisco

What is Sexual Consent? Getting and Giving Consent Recognizing and Responding to Sexual Assault What we’ll cover

Please participate Respect the presenter No texting No talking No facebook Respect your peers Listen intently Applaud their courage Keep their stories private Ground Rules

Please take a few minutes to write quick answers (1-2 sentences each) to the questions on the handout. Things to Think About

What is Consent?

How would you define consent? Provide an example to illustrate a case of clear consent? What is Consent Sexual consent is a freely given agreement to engage in sexual activity.

Unconscious Frightened Intimidated Substantially impaired because of a psychological health condition Impaired because of voluntary intoxication Impaired because of the deceptive administering of any drug, intoxicant or controlled substance Absence of ‘yes’ not the absence of ‘no’ Barriers to Consent

Getting and Giving Consent

If you can’t talk about sex, you shouldn’t be having any.

Think about your own wishes and limitations (before not after you get involved). Think about appropriate and sensitive sexual advances. Interpret sexual advance responses. (Consider Verbal Cues v. Non-verbal Cues.) Respond accordingly and with respect--everyone deserves this. Sexcessful Communication

What are some ways you could ask for consent? Asking for Consent

No sets limits No defines who we are No is integrity No is a clear choice No is finding YOUR voice Setting Limits Sets You Free

What are some phrases you could use to tell someone “no”? Saying No

No sexual partners in the past 12 months. 30% One sexual partner 45% Everyone is (NOT) Having Sex

Identifying and Responding to Sexual Assault

How common are rape and sexual assault? 1 in 5 women will experience attempted or completed sexual assault while in college. Reflection Question

Sexual assault is any sexual contact without consent. What is Sexual Assault

Go to a safe place Know it is not your fault Seek medical attention Get a forensic exam Preserve evidence Do not: bathe, change your clothes, brush your teeth, comb your hair, clean the crime scene. For survivors

Everyone reacts differently It’s okay to feel a variety of emotions. Don’t question or worry about how you handled the situation You do not need to hide the assault Remember it’s not your fault For survivors

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