An Overview of Human Sexuality Center for Development of Human Services Institute for Community Health Promotion SUNY Buffalo State © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

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Introductions Name Where you live Length of time fostering One expectation of training © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Objectives Define sexuality Identify normal patterns of development Describe motivations of sexually active teens Define sexual responsibility Promote child’s healthy sexual development Assess media messages to youth Identify and dispel common myths about sex List major methods of contraception © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Take a Stand – Agree or Disagree… Men and women are different in their feelings and desires Women should stay home to care for children Parents should share feelings about their sexuality Girls should not ask boys out Sex should be reserved for marriage © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Agree or Disagree – con’t Birth control is the woman’s responsibility Teens should be scared into abstinence by seeing those dying of AIDS Masturbation is healthy and natural Either sex should feel free to initiate sexual acts © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

My Parents Told Me.. 1.Identify recorders and reporters 2.Break into small groups 3.Identify your parents’ message about each topic 4.Do you agree or disagree with their message? Money Friendship Love Relationships Being Gay/Lesbian Marriage Sex Masturbation Being a Man/Woman © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Approaches to Convey Message Telling/Moralizing Modeling Clarifying Values © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Small Group Activity 1.Share message you want to convey about topic 2.Identify approach you’d use: –Telling/Moralizing –Modeling –Clarifying values Money Friendship Love Relationships Being Gay/Lesbian Marriage Sex Masturbation Being a Man/Woman © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Human Sexuality Is a function of the total personality Is universal and connected to all developmental areas Includes biological processes Includes self-concept Expressed in interactions with either sex Includes sexual orientation Is powerfully influenced by religion, culture, family and friends © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

SEX Biological qualities particular to the male and female Encompasses the biological processes associated with reproduction Entails behavior specific to sexual relations © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

LGBTQ and more Definitions Sexual orientation Gender identity Gender expression Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Questioning A Straight Guide to LGTB Americans © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Sexual Development Physical Emotional Mental Social Moral © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Life Cycle of Sexuality Birth to 3 years 4 – 8 years 9 – 12 years 13 – 18 years © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Teenage Sexuality On average, teens begin intercourse at 16 By 19, 20% males and 33% females haven’t had sexual intercourse 40% of 14 yr olds will be pregnant by 19 50% of sexually active teens don’t use birth control; most wait 6 months for RX 50% pregnancies occur w/in first 6 mos. 96% teen moms keep their babies © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Youth Sexuality and Parental Response Define the behavior/situation Identify your feelings Clarify your values Define problem in terms of its effects on the youth’s development and its consequences for others © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Reasons People Have Sex: For fun Out of love To have a baby Out of curiosity To prove adulthood To prove fe/maleness To show control Out of attraction Out of fear For revenge To be touched For money For attention To feel loved Due to peer pressure © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Is what’s good for the goose good for the gander ? How is sex the same/different for teens and adults? In what ways is sex satisfying to teens? In what ways is sex unsatisfying to teens? What motivates teens to have sex when its not satisfying? © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

I can’t get no satisfaction… Partners can be selfish Sex can be scary Sex can be painful Teens may feel guilt, shame if its at odds with belief system Sex doesn’t guarantee satisfaction © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Foster Parent’s Role in Child’s Healthy Sexual Development Promote child’s overall development Build child’s self-esteem Establish and maintain child’s connections Create climate for openly communicating about sexual matters © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services.

SEX is all around us… TV MTV Popular songs Magazines Billboards Commercials Movies CD covers Posters Books Telephone 900 #’s Internet porn Sexting © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Questions Kids Ask Identify your feelings/values Identify questions that you cannot answer Identify resources for gathering needed information © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Dispelling the Myths Be open to communicating about sex Discuss and model your values Respond to youth’s emotional needs Provide accurate and concrete information: e.g., reproduction, contraception, pregnancy, parenthood and STDs © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Contraception Birth control pills Condoms Contraceptive foam/jelly Diaphragm IUD Contraceptive sponge Natural family planning Withdrawal Abstinence Norplant Cervical cap Deprovera shot The patch © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Factors that Affect Teen’s Use of Contraceptives Psychological factors Motivational factors Values © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services

Understanding the complexity of sexual development helps the foster parent guide sexual decision-making and sexual responsibility. © 2014 New York State Office of Children and Family Services