How To Have A Beautiful Mind? Part 2
The purity of thoughts is reflected through our speech
The beauty of the mind is seen when we converse with others
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: “A man may speak a good word without knowing its worth, for which Allah records for him His good pleasure until the Day he will meet Him; another man may utter an evil word without realizing its importance, for which Allah (swt) records for him His displeasure until the Day he will meet Him.” [Maalik & Tirmidhi]
Prophet (pbuh) said: Modesty and restraint in speech are two effects of true faith, while foul talk and [adorned] rhetoric are two affects of hypocrisy. [Ahmad]
Role Play
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Summary…
Genuinely seek to find points of agreement Be open to the other person’s point of view Where right, stick to your point of view in a respectable manner HOW TO AGREE
Disagreement If you do not know how to disagree, you cannot have a beautiful mind At times you have to put your foot down & disagree
Disagree without being offensive Disagree gently Always avoid name calling Always think - there can be other possible interpretations to a certain line of argument How To Disagree
How To Listen A good listener… Shows that he is paying attention to the speaker Respects the speaker Shows genuine interest in what is being said Gets value from what is heard and shows it
Listening gives new ideas Listen carefully & attentively Impatience is offensive to the speaker
Interruptions Should be avoided, but at times it becomes necessary
Three Ways To Interrupt Wait till you get a chance to speak If the point is relevant and short it’s OK to interrupt Interrupt if you want to make an important point by simply ‘signaling’ that you will make your point later
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